Hi, I'm not from NZ, I live here in the states, but I have the same fears as you. I aslo need to lose around 90 pounds. My husband is supporting me through this, although he thinks it's a drastic measure that he would never take to lose the weight. I just know my own body and mind and know that I would not be able to do it and keep it off long term. it is so hard not to yo yo diet! I hemorrhaged when I had my daughter also. That scares me that I could just stay fat and live longer, with obesity related issues i'm sure or have this surgery and die sooner... I have been reading everything I can find on the internet about this surgery and it does seem like the best thing for me. I am sick of being the "fat" mom, and shopping in the womens section. My knees hurt all the time, my energy level is so low and I miss out on so much with my family and friends. I don't think this is the "cheater's" way out. I don't think there is anything easy about this decision to have surgery. We are choosing to have it so we can lose this weight and keep it off! My surgery is not until the first week in December....
I hope you make the right decision for you and your family. I wish you the best of luck, and let me know how you do
Marka