All are valid questions and going into this sort of thing I don't think there are morbid questions, I really don't. I requested that if something happened to me and my kidneys were a match that my neighbor who is waiting for a kidney gets first dibs LOL.
Here are some questions I asked my surgeon;
What do you use topically for closing the wound? Stitches, glue, staples?
If I am unable to lose enough weight with the sleeve alone, what are my options for revision to other surgeries?
Is someone allowed to stay overnight in the hospital with me? (With my surgeon I had the choice of two hospitals. One I could have someone stay with me, the other I could not.)
How fast will a family member be allowed into recovery with me?
What kind of pain medicine do you prescribe for patients?
Rather than having to have another surgery later, is it better to just remove my gallbladder while you're already in there? (My doctor thought that it was a horrific idea. He believes that something that isn't malfunctioning shouldn't be removed. He also prescribes a pill called Actigail which does something to help your gallbladder from getting stones.)
How long after surgery should I wait to resume taking my prescriptions?
Which/if any prescriptions should I stop taking?
I started out with all of my questions in a notebook, but forgot the notebook at home for my first visit with the surgeon. After that I transferred them all into a file in my cell phone----- because I NEVER forget that! lol My doctor was actually sort of surprised/impressed by that.
Good luck to you! And don't let people make you feel bad about the questions that you have. I too asked my surgeon what happens if you nick my liver....