I don't know what words to say that won't just sound empty. Your story really touched me. I wish there was some way I could really help you. I guess the only thing I can say is that there are people out here in the world who still feel careing for their fellow man is a worthy thing. I care about where you are and what you are going through. I can only imagine. You have so much on your plate. I think the lap band surgery is something you can do for yourself and you need to be good to yourself. You not only deserve it but you need it to be able to continue to care for your brother in a healthy caring way. I hope this is helpful and not just empty words to you.
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