I wish you the best of luck! Your life reminds me of my mom's first dh. He was emotionally abusive-didn't work for long stretches, didn't speak for long stretches, drove by my mom walking with my sister in the winter, etc. And it got worse and worse as the years passed. My mom stayed because of my sister but as soon as she was grown, my mom left. My sister didn't appreciate it-that's for sure. Thank God you don't have any kids with this man. Again, good luck and stay strong.