So, I just finished reading your post and all I can say is WOW!! My PCP warned me about doctors out there like this and I thought he was full of it and just trying to get me to go to one of his doctor friends. WOW!!
Listen, this is a LIFE decision and there is a reason that you saw all of these RED flags prior to surgery. I just can not let myself think of all the things that could happen if you let them perform surgery on you.
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE find you a Center of Excellence to go to. There is a reason they are recording and we dont want to know them!!
TRUST YOUR INSTICTS!!