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PB=Productive Burp - vomiting up the food above the band. If you are not ready for a fill, do not get one. This is your journey, and has to be done at your pace. JMHO.

I think it's just a carb month. At least, that's how it's been for me... :think Breakfast was a mini-bagel with cream cheese, a cookie, and some snacky mix with peanuts, sesame cracker strips and something like cheetos. Late lunch/early dinner was the steak/seafood buffet at one of the casinos. Must have had at least 20-30 shrimp, a small creme broulee, a few bites of chocolate cheesecake, a spoonful of bread pudding, and the crust and some filling of a cherry cobbler. :D :eek: Five hours later I'm still waddling around overfull. This is fun, isn't it??? lol Now, why don't I feel like I need a fill?!?! :eek: But I really don't. Feel like I need one, that is. I coulda/shoulda stopped 5-10 shrimp in, and skipped the dessert. But I didn't... And it wasn't because I was still physically hungry. That's my biggest clue that I need the head work, and not the fill. Water still goes down slowly - I honestly can't see how I can go any tighter without suffering. Physically (not emotionally). I definitely need a psychological tune-up. I won't even say what I've eaten in the past two weeks... :eek: However, the beating up of myself is definitely dead - my inner adult is standing back with a smile, shaking her head, knowing that this too will pass. In spite of all the incredible indulgences, my weight is not fluctuating anymore than usual (?!?!?!?!). Haven't seen 205.5 since I've hit it, but I know it will be back, and my journey down will continue. Alexandra, popcorn goes down really easy for many (for me!), and of course ice cream and milkshakes, so I don't take that in and of itself as a symptom of needing a fill. If you'd said you'd eaten all the stuff I did today, and were still starving, or could have eaten more, I'd say baby, get cinched up!! You of course know better than anyone if you need a fill or not, but for me these high carb indulgences are just a symptom of my boredom with my otherwise very low carb menu, and not a symptom of being too loose. If you had chosen dense proteins/veggies instead of your high carb choices, would you have still felt hungry after what you consider to be a reasonable meal? I'm not saying there isn't some value in being tight enough that we think twice about bread because 99% of the time it's not going to go down, but I think we all need to keep in the back of our minds that WE make the choices of WHAT we eat. The band's job is to help reduce hunger and quantity. Quality is in our courts. Just my humble thoughts and ramblings, as I deal with my food issues from the past few weeks... :cool:

The paranoia reduces with time. I don't know if it ever completely goes away, but I only think about it occasionally, now... :cool:

DeLarla, I am so with you on the "fat protected me from being a shameless hussy/stripper/pole dancer" thing - I totally believe I could not have trusted myself with guys falling all over themselves to be with me like some of my friends. I so admired my pretty friends who could shut these guys down - how could they tell the good from the bad?!?!!? I was terrified I wouldn't be able to. I do think I felt that my fat pre-sorted them for me. Of course, it was really my attitude that did that. I see lots of heavy women who've had no problems attracting men. I finally realize now that it really WASN'T my fat that kept me alone all those years, but my attitude towards men because I was fat. Growing up overweight and being taunted by highschool boys and being told by my beloved father that I would have an easier time with boys if I were not so heavy just kicked in my rebellious side. It was almost like a subconscious mission to NOT be like everyone else, to insist on being liked for ME instead of what I looked like. Because of that I was distrustful and sarcastic to any guy who gave me the time of day. Now, how attractive is that? lol I still talk to my sister about starting our own internet sex business - "Fat Chicks Get it On" or "Watch the Fat Sisters Doing It" or something like that. My dark half would love it! Or maybe starting a strip club for fat chicks. I know there's an audience out there!

No, just shave the head of the baby alien... lol

DeLarla wrote: Girl, yes you did tell me, but I thought we were keeping the fact you were a superior being a secret, and now you just let it out of the bag!!! lol Now that everyone knows you're an alien, wave your magic wand and put me at goal!! I really love your roses trick the best.... :cool: My list... Dang, I can't even remember their names - just how I felt. Does that mean I'm halfway to forgetting the hurt? Or just that much closer to Alzheimer's? lol

The minimum time between surgery and the first fill is almost always 6 weeks. Not everyone needs a fill at 6 weeks, so that part is individual. But most docs won't do a fill earlier than 6 weeks out from surgery. Fills are based on the individual's NEED. Some people are tight enough with an empty band, and never need a fill. Some people need in excess of five. Most people average 2-4 fills in their first year. Fill amounts are also very individualized, and vary widely. It's like asking what shoe size you're going to be. Who knows? Who cares? You just get shoes that fit. As you grow, your shoe size changes. As you shrink, your fill size usually changes. There are only three types of fill amount: 1. Not enough 2. Too much 3. Just right And 1,2,3 are completely and totally determined by the individual, and is rarely static. What was a good first fill for me is too little for me now, 97.5 pounds less than where I started. Where I am now in my fill level would have been waaaay too much for me as a first fill.

One of my favorite "get back" fantasies is to reappear in a "fat" outfit so I look like my old self, then replay a rejection scene. Preferably with someone who paired with a "gorgeous" thin person, but is totally miserable because that person is a bitch, and high maintenance, and demanding, etc., etc. After listening to the sob story, and murmering words of condolences, etc., I'd finally zip off the suit, and tell them what a wonderful person I was, and how much value and worth I had, and how THEY could have been with ME all this time, and look what they'd have NOW if they hadn't been so wrapped up in "thin" back then. And then tell them many, many thanks, because they did me a huge favor by thinking I wasn't good enough for them, because I was with a real man who deserved me. And then I'd like to travel across the country and do that to EVERY SINGLE MAN who looks down their nose at fat women, and maybe, just maybe get their "big" head working a little bit... :cool: Wouldn't it be great if thousands of women ran around in fat suits so that guys never knew anymore who was really fat and who wasn't? And they had to start actually interacting with women for WHO they are on the inside? And by the time the unveiling came around, they realized they really didn't care if it turned out to be a fat suit, or real fat - they loved the woman anyway? Thank God there are guys like that already. It would just be nice if they were all that way!

Get naked. Use an eyeliner pencil or something similar to outline on your body your goal shape. Then take your photo (use the self-timer if you don't want your husband to do it). And use that self-timer for the naked behind pic, too - you're running out of time, and when you're a size 2 you'll wish you could do the compare... :cool:

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DeLarla - Remember, your band is wide open! Once you start getting fills, some foods may start giving you problems. Just don't want you to be surprised if/when it happens! :cool: When I was in Texas there was a sign on the juke box of the local Mexican restaurant "NO MORE PLAYING LA BAMBA" lol

lol... Vera, hopefully she won't remember that answer later on when she understands the implications... :cool:

4. Go to a swimsuit store, ask to see their bikini selection, pick out the smallest, stringiest ones and ask "Where's the dressing room?" :cool:

Follow those links I posted the other day. One of the case studies was a woman who had never had a fill, and at 7-8 months her band had eroded. I have an offline friend whose banded eroded and had to be removed before her one year anniversary. I think I just read about someone else being eroded at 7-8 months. So "long term" is not a requirement for this complication. It happens, but to a small percentage - regardless of "when."

http://www.riddleware.com/funny/grocery_store_kid_no_candy.avi

Sue made it through her PS! Congrats, Sue, and give us a shout over here when you're up to it!!

Feeling restriction right away from your first fill is not guaranteed. You might, or you might not. But regardless, restriction WILL come. Do not be too much in a hurry - you have a lifetime of poor eating habits to relearn, and getting to restriction gradually gives you the time to learn new habits, AND adjust emotionally to eating less food. Believe me, eating less food is a BIG change. And you might be surprised how you react to that in an emotional way. Your journey will take time. You've got time. Don't put unreasonable expectations on yourself or the band. Starting at a lower BMI could mean that your weightloss is slower. It really depends on your metabolism, what/how much you eat, and your exercise level. Just remember, if you do drastic things to lose weight, you will have to KEEP doing drastic things to keep it off. Make gradual healthy changes that you can maintain for life. Weightloss will follow.

Terry - That is a heartbreaking story. But you are strong, and have survived, and life is on its way back up for you. The advice you give about patience is right on, in my opinion. 5 years from now it won't matter if we lost our weight in one year, two years, three years.... whatever. The important thing is that we are on the journey. And life does not start AFTER the weight is lost!! LIFE is NOW!! :cool:

I didn't see it either... hmmmm. Welcome BACK!!! Congrats, congrats!!! Whooo hooo! Bear in mind that often things get worse before they get better, so if you have a couple of really bad days in the first two weeks that's pretty normal.

2. Reorganize your closet. Sort everything by size and put little dividers between the groups so once you move out of a size group you can grab the whole bunch at one time to donate. 3. Get out all your skinny clothes and review what's there. Get them grouped by size as well, and put them in your closet if they'll fit. Donate anything that you don't absolutely love once you can get back into them.

Surely in all of your research you have read many times that until the band is filled to your proper level, it will not help you much. The time prior to your first fill is about HEALING, not weightloss. Any weight lost during this time is a bonus. Concentrate on recovering and following your doctor's eating protocol during this time. Your band is empty, and it's very common to feel as though nothing has changed as far as hunger and eating amounts go. Once you start getting fills your hunger will decrease, and so will your ability to eat large quantities of food. Generally it takes 3-4 fills for a person to reach a level they think is just right.

Carolyn - It's the CARBONATION that's the problem - not the "soda". Champagne, beer, Perrier, soda, sparkling Water... All of these things have carbonation, which is acidic.

Ginny - Click on the www button at the bottom of one of my posts - that will get you there.

Welcome, Terry! You look great, and much younger than 50! I agree with everything you've said about the band and how it changes your life for the better - I've been banded just slightly longer than 16 months now, and am down 97.5 pounds. I, too, have a good 70 pounds to go, but even if I never lost another ounce it has all been totally worth it!

Teresa - There are lots of options for low-calorie drinks that are non-carbonated besides Water and iced tea. There are tons of sugarfree mixes on the market, like Crystal Light, Kool Aid, things like that. There is also a large market of flavored waters, like Fruit2O. Of course, the very best thing is plain ol' water, but I know that doesn't always satisfy the taste buds. Try one of the many sugarfree flavors out there! Or splash some lemon, apple cider vinegar, or even juice in your water to alter the flavor. As far as the carbonation dilemma goes - at some point you may be at a restriction where you CAN'T drink carbonation anyway, whether it harms the pouch or not. But if we're not supposed to have NSAIDS because of possible gastric ulcers, I can't imagine that carbonated beverages are much better. And anything that can irritate/erode the lining of the stomach increases the chances that the band could be eroded through those thinner stomach walls, so for me it just is not worth it. I don't even think about it - I just don't have it. Period. But lots of people do - you have to evaluate the possible risks against your desires, and make your own decision.