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Thank you everyone for your very kind words. There is such a great feeling here, I thank you in advance for all your support over the next few months too. Well, because I've spent the day upset, I came home and ate wayyyyy tooo much, and feel sick. The old habits, emotional eating, came rushing back. Everything went in, but now it hurts...I can't believe I did this to my self. Man, this has been an incredibly shitty day all around...and I feel sick on top of it. Have a good night, I need to go lay down and moan!

Someone sent me this, thought I'd share it w/ the Violets! Hope it makes you smile! The true facts: I know what Victoria 's Secret is. The secret is that nobody older than 30 can fit into their stuff. The older you get, the tougher it is to lose weight because by then, your body and your fat are really good friends. Just when I was getting used to yesterday, along came today. Sometimes I think I understand everything, then I regain consciousness. I gave up jogging for my health when my thighs kept rubbing together and setting my pantyhose on fire. Amazing! You hang something in your closet for a while and it shrinks two sizes! Skinny people irritate me! Especially when they say things like, "You know, sometimes I just forget to eat." Now I've forgotten my address, my mother's maiden name, and my keys. But I've never forgotten to eat. You have to be a special kind of stupid to forget to eat. A friend of mine confused her valium with her birth control pills. She had 14 kids, but she doesn't really care. The trouble with some women is that they get all excited about nothing and then they marry him! I read this article that said the typical symptoms of stress are: eating too much, impulse buying, and driving too fast. Are they kidding? That is my idea of a perfect day. Celebrate Womanhood! Share this with all of those amazingly brilliant and tremendously talented women who are intelligent enough to call YOU their friend :-) !!!

Wow~ I knew my Violets would be great cheerleaders. Thank you EVERYONE. I am a mess today. I cried myself to sleep, and in the shower, so needless to say, my eyes are swollen nearly shut. I am not wearing makeup and my students are looking at me funny. I really just want the day to end, I am already exhausted, and it is just after 8am. Thanks for your kind words.

Vegas Baby, Vegas. I will be there July 8,9,10 (I turn 40 on the 9th!)

Hi Everyone, Well, as if today didn't suck enough (since mom died 2 years ago, I am not a fan of Mother's Day), my father drove down from Reno and announced to my brother and I that he has a fast spreading cancer:cry :cry. Once he passes, it is ONLY,and I mean only, my brother, his 3 year old son, and I. I have no other family, and I feel very small and alone now. My beautiful partner is supportive and wonderful, and her mom and I are very close. I just feel so sad now. My father was supposed to live forever. I took care of my mother for 8 years, 8 long years w/ her cancer. It was a great time to spend w/ her, but hard...very hard. I didn't date, or go out EVER...just work and school. It knocked the wind out of me. I am almost 40, and I think that is too young to have lost both your parents. I know I am feeling sorry for myself now, but I am devastated. Sara~ Good luck tomorrow! I'll be thinking about you.

I would love to see an active chat room. Can we get that back?

Hey All, Anyone still looking at this thread? I am in Palm Springs! PM me if you're close and wanna chat.

LOL, is Skinny in a Bottle the same thing as the Magic Skinny Pill I've been waiting for? The scientists really need to get on this.

What a great thread...you ladies are making me feel bad. I really need to make the time. I will keep popping in for motivation!

I think this question is two-fold. Perhaps do you snack and are you filled yet? I am in bandster hell now, so I have to snack. But, I don't know if that will be different after my fill. I know that 5-6 smalls are better for sugar levels and metabolism, but I am not sure what I will be able to do. I would hope to eat small amounts, and get a snack in a day, especially between lunch and dinner, so I don't "over do it" at dinner. Anyway, I voted that I snack, but maybe that will change.

Morning All, thanks for the welcome!!! This is a nice place to check in with! I feel welcomed here! Have a great day!

**SENDING JENN LOTS OF POWERFUL ENERGY, LOVE AND SUPPORT TODAY!!! FINISH SCHOOL WITH A BANG, THEN THE RIGHT JOB WILL BE WAITING FOR YOU!!! YOU'VE GOT THE VIOLETS BEHIND YOU...AND WHO WANTS TO MESS W/ 50 FAT WOMEN???? LOL, IT WILL HAPPEN HONEY! Terry~ You poor thing. I am going to ask about a trainer too, because I really liked what you said about accountability. I think if I pay to have someone hold me accountable, I would do better. Sorry your so sore, but just think, this time next week, it will be a memory, and your body will be so much stronger!! Sara~ Congrats on getting your fill! I think you're pioneer #2. I can't wait, and now you need to post what you are eating for the next few days. I am curious as to what eating will be like "on the other side". Now, I can eat too much, and although I am behaving 99% of the time, I am ready to drop weight! Anyway, keep us posted. Your drinking story was hilarious. I love to drink, but only about 2x a year, and now that I can't drink champagne:cry , it will just be Jack Daniels. So, you really need to be in the right frame of mind for Jack...it will be a while. Probably for my party in Oct. Sure hope Tracy is having fun! My MIL is here and she made this wonderful pork roast, and some wonderful German noodles. I had a small spoon of noodles, (first pasta since March) and some meat and gravy. But we are off to breakfast, oh give me strength (or a fill). HAVE A GREAT DAY LADIES!!!

Judy~ congrats!!! that is great news. We will make him an honorary Violet! Does he have violet hair too? Fair question, might be your shampoo, lol! Laura~ I know Incubus! Have fun. I love concerts, I go often, used to go A LOT! Sounds like a fun filled evening. You'll be in those sexy jeans for sure! Jennifer~ Study hard honey, IT IS ALMOST OVER! Good Luck! I have my MIL this weekend and then my dad and step mom (parents on Sunday). Since my mom died, I've participated in Mamossa's on Mother's Day club. I won't be going this year, but that is ok...don't need the calories from the OJ and can't have the champagne:phanvan . Wishing all the Violet mom's a wonderful and happy happy happy Mother's Day!!! Enjoy yourself, relax, and smell the roses (or violets in our case). Love ya, Pamela

Hey Eddie~ Thanks for starting this thread. I am Pamela, a lesbian from Palm Springs, CA. I have been w/ my partner (refered to here as DP) for 2 1/2 years. She lives 113 miles away, but we see each other EVERY weekend! She is in the military and will retire after 22 years in a year and a 1/2!!!! We are both fem, but I am VERY girly...total lipstick! :kiss2: She is the one I want to spend the rest of my life with, and we are very in love! She is trim and has always been supportive of me. She was with me in pre and post op, at hospital, and took care of me for a week. I look forward to a long healthy life w/ her! Anyway, gotta run but am glad LGBT ppl have there own place! I serve on a city board called SafeSchools for LGBT students! I must say, it is a great time to be alive!

I am exhausted just from reading this thread...wow!

Terry~ I love it!!! You are investing in yourself...and you deserve it! I paid $6000 for my band, and also need to be motivated and accountable. How has it been since the fill? What/how much are you eating? Sorry for the questions, but like I said, your the pioneer. Good for you and the investment w/ the gym. I figure we'd probably spend the $$ on something else anyway, why not on something that is this important. I HAVE NO DOUBT YOU WILL DO IT GIRL!!!!!!!

Lap Dancer~ Thanks, glad I made you day!!! I swear, I could hear the 20/22's giggling this morning. I'll keep you posted! I remember when I thought size 11's were big...if I knew then what I know now! lol

Judy~ I love the "do"! You are the official mascot! Terry~ Soo cool about the trainer. I love how you pioneer things for us. I thinki once I get going, I will do the same. Is it expensive for 1x a week? I already pay $42 a month...and don't use it nearly enough. GOOD ON YOU!!! Laura~ Biggggg hug!! I was always "big" and I have walked in your shoes. Your story was wonderful, thanks for sharing. You don't know how many people you related with just by sharing! Ok...drum roll...I CAN'T FREAKIN BELIEVE IT...I walked into the closet this am, as usual, stood there and wondered the familiar question, "what am I gonna wear today?" Well, there they were, with all the other size 24's that have avoided my ass for a year! I thought, what the heck, let me try these on, and see where I am...OH MY GOSH, not only do they fit, I can pull them on and off w/o unbuttoning them! :scales: :huggie: :peep: (thats my fav banana). After, I got dressed, I did some booty shakin' in the mirror...I am doing this! The scale is the same, 23# loss, but I think the inches are really kickin in! I feel amazing! I am also wearing some panties that haven't been out of my drawer in a year or so. They were cute when I grew out of 'em and even cuter now that I am back in 'em! I just wanted to share my victory! I can't believe it. I did not measure myself before, because I did not want to see a waist of 52". But I think I will try to soon. Anyway, rock on violet sistas!!!

Michelle~ I was an overnighter too, but had the Lovenox in preop. I used to have to give them to my grandpa...just ask someone to give them to you if that freaks you out. You barely feel it, and Judy is right, the thought of the clot scares the hell out of me! I am so glad to hear your good news!!! Tracy~ Have fun boot scootin and boogeyin'!!! That sounds like a blast!

Angie~ I couldn't get through it. I lost my most 2 years ago...still sucks. I am not a mom either. But I forwarded it to all the teachers who are moms here, now they are mad because I've ruined their makeup, lol. Anyway, Happy Mom's Day to my violet sistas!!! I am proud to be in your company! Well, I think today is gonna be a bad eat day. It is Teacher Appreciation Day and the lounge is fulll of goodies, from donuts to fruit, chips, all kinds of crap! I had a SMALL muffin and some fruit. The muffin just made me sick, that is what i get. Then after school is a baby shower, and I was in charge of the cake. I will pick up a Red Velvet cake for the party. I will try to be good, I swear (I hope). Problem is that I feel great, same weight loss, clothes are so baggy, and I have no restriciton...oh, and I am way late for TOM. So, I will enjoy the party, just in moderation. Laura~ Good luck today! I wish I were getting a fill. Terry~ Sounds like your doing well. I can't wait to get to that place. I am sure you will do a lot of learning in the next few months...but what an exciting journey. Thanks for goin' first!!! Tracy~ That is my fear, to slime or PB in the car, or resturaunt, or anywhere in public. I told myself, no matter what, NO MORE FAST FOOD! That is a huge NSV for me, I live alone during the week and always was in a drive through. It has not been easy, especially w/ no restriction. But I figure, I can't have a diet coke anyway, so I don't need to go there. One thing is for sure...My skin has never looked better!!! Not one pimple (usually got 1-2 each month) since March 20!!! Everyone else...have a great and beautiful day! It is 100 degrees here today and just fabulous! xoxo Lunasa~ that was hilarious about your DH...LMAO!!! There is something special here though:)

Michelle, This is gonna sound weird but, perhaps this is a blessing in disguise. I know you want to be banded (you will ALWAYS BE A VIOLET), but it is time to stop and really take care of something major now. If the test comes back positive, you should look at it as a blessing that these markers are now known to you. If for nothing else, but to know about them and get them checked regularly. Cancer of the esophagus is not something to play with. I know your down now, but I am a believer that all things happen for a reason. This journey, while rocky now, will one day teach you something you needed to learn. I am sending you big hugs, our violet sista. We are always "gonna be there with you" (I take my violets everywhere w/ me). Keep us posted! God Bless!

Tracy...you should be proud of yourself. I am proud of you. Your heartfelt generosity will come back around. Pay it forward sista!

Morning Everyone, I pose this question to my violet sistas: Why are we fat? In my therapy, we are getting to this point. The weight is a secondary response to a primary condition. Most all of my problems in my life have been secondary responses to something deep...my why. So as continue on our journeys, I wanted to pause and ask the violets to reflect. This is not meant to be posted, unless you comfortable w/ that. This is meant to cause you to reflect, think, and get to know our "why". Once we know our "why" we don't need to hide from it (for me with food). I am learning my why. It empowers me to know it. Happy reflections!

Brenners, Keep your chin up. Once your port is replaced you will do very well with the band. We are all here for you, please keep us posted. Did he give you something for the pain? Sending you big hugs and lots of positive energy!

Hey everyone, I have to take a multi w/ iron daily and a b-12 sublingual daily...for the rest of my life! And then after 3 months I have to add calcium. But I think I need to get some biotin...I've noticed a lot of hair in the brush:omg: ! I have long hair, and I kinda like it. I do get protein in daily. 20 in breakfast shake, 15 in water, and 15 in cottage cheese...not to mention chicken, beans, cheese, and other protein sources. So, Biotin here I come. I hope this is short lived! On a good note, I called in for a sub for my night class, and went to the gym for an hour!!! That felt great, I did cardio and weight on the free weights and machines. I did not do abs, which, before lapband, I was doing 100 every time I worked out...just didn't work out but once or twice a week. Anyway, it felt great! Since I quit smoking I can really do a strong cardio workout! It is nearly 100 degrees here all ready, so it is hard to do cardio sometimes. I don't mind working out, just trying to find the time. But my night school is almost over!!! :clap2: I try to workout before work, but it is really hard to watch Dancing w/ the Stars and American Idol, and get up at 4:30am. Anywho, I've read so much today here and it is hard to keep up. Love ya all...have a good night!