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Hi everyone. Haven't posted in a while but I've been trying to keep up. I was sick as a dog (what does that mean anyway? I always hear people say that but I don't have a dog so I don't know how sick they get...lol) for a couple weeks. Some kind of body flu thing and it ended up in my chest with bronchitis. My son had it also. I am feeling better but still have a lot of coughing. Sheryl, it's been exciting to read about Tino. I'm glad his daughter liked you! Do you know if she has a good relationship with her mother? I ask because I wondering if she doesn't, if she may end up getting too attached to you and have a hard time if the relationship doesn't work out. Florinda, I've been thinking about you. Hope you are enjoying your trip and the time with your mom. When you get done with the trip check in and let us know how you are. Have you had any side effects from the new meds? How did your mom take it when you told her the news? Sue, I'm sorry about the stupid scale. I can understand your frustration. I think I asked before but don't remember reading a response. Do you have year round school or do you get a few months off in the summer like most schools in the US? Denise, how is Bill? I'm glad he went into the ER! People die from that if it gets too bad. He's lucky he got there in time. I'm so glad the ex girlfriend is leaving you two alone! I highly doubt she was/is pregnant. Kim, the belly dancing thing with the girls sounds like fun! I wasn't really fasting while I was sick. For about a week I was hardly eating anything and just trying to keep myself hydrated. This week I decided to get back to the fasting since I'm on the mend. I usually fast Monday and Thursdays. I couldn't do it yesterday. I just didn't have the will power I guess. We'll see how Thursday goes. Oh, about the drama. Whatever. This is why I don't venture onto the other topics very often. WLS is almost like a thing that people just do now. They don't put in the time to research and really understand what they need to do for this to work for life. So many people want a quick fix and that's why they do it. Then they come on these boards and whine and cry about things and ask stupid questions. I do also understand that newbies are at a very emotional time in their lives. Every little thing to them is very concerning. We were all there. We just have surgery and then are forced to eat tiny amounts of food while our bodies are healing and adding mental stress to this is overwhelming. And, there are just some people who like to "voice" every little thing. You know, the ones on fb who are constantly updating their status all day long...I just ate breakfast, I went grocery shopping, blah, blah, blah. I wouldn't go so far as to call people bullies but I do see sometimes where someone further out from surgery or a more popular person on this site will respond with something snippy and then another one or more of their friends pipes up and soon it can get kind of sarcastic and rude. I don't at all believe the intent for these people is to be rude but it does happen and can come across this way. I believe it's usually from those that get tired of constantly being on here and trying to help.

Lisa, I'm wondering if there is anyone from church that come and sit with you in the evenings sometimes. Maybe just someone being there even if you don't talk, or maybe you do, or maybe someone just to hold you while you cry or to pray with you. Just throwing this out there. Again my heart goes out to you.

Florida, I love the pics! You look so happy! You are beautiful...your face, eyes, and smile are absolutely gorgeous. I'm sorry you had such a hard time after your appointment. Did the doctor give you any hope as far as meds or anything else you can do to keep your symptoms minimal? How is your mom handling your diagnosis? I'm glad you have jack by your side. I don't really care too much about vanity sizing. To me it's just what it is so why worry or be concerned about it? That's just my opinion. I'm still fasting 2 days a week. I like it and it makes me feel in control. I'm not as strict on my regular days so I have been maintaining just fine. I still want to get down to 135-140. My current bounce is 140-145. When I decide to tighten up on my regular days I know I can get there bit I guess I'm not totally motivated to do it at the moment. So you all remember my dear friend that's been back on drugs. Well she's not doing great and I was able to talk to her on Sunday. She agreed to come here and get cleaned up in the next couple weeks. I was so happy. We had an excellent conversation. Well, today she txt me and said she's not coming yet and that she's not ready. My heart just aches. I don't get it and I am helpless bc there isn't a thing I can do about it. I am hurting. I want to curl up in a ball and not leave my room. I can't but I want to. How can someone with so much good to give just throw away her life like this? Her so called friends mean more to her right now than the ones that truly love her and would do anything for her. I don't know how those of you who have dealt with these issues handle it. It's so sad.

I forgot to add that stretching, balance and getting a strong core is what really helps with these issues but they have to be done the correct way or it'll be a waste.

Fiddle, this is an excellent topic! I have had to basically relearn everything as far as exercise goes. It's been a hard and long process but it's also been very rewarding. What was brought to my attention was that I wasn't using my glutes (butt) at all while working out or even while doing basic movements that are done on a daily basis. In turn, this caused problems with my lower back and abs and hip flexors. I had an excellent trainer that was able to see this issue. Then I started working with an excellent chiropractor that also is a trainer. She started me on some serious stretches and I learned how to use my muscles the correct way. I'm still a work in progress but I am much stronger now and very in tune to my body and what I need to do to keep it working the right way. This is a serious issue for a lot of weight loss patients. For years, most of us were just getting by and learning to compensate for all of the extra weight we were carrying around. Now that it's gone, our muscles are a mess!n I believe this is why there are a lot of injuries.

Not wanting to scare anyone but did they test for MERS, Fiddleman? I was just thinking the same thing. There was someone who tested positive for this in Chicago, I think. "They" are saying this is a new serious thing going around.

Cathy, are you enjoying your new house yet? Are you done unpacking? Sheila, good to hear from you! Yard work is a good work out. I am sure you burned a ton of calories. Sue, do you break for the summer for school or does it go year round with various breaks throughout the year? My boys are done with school the second week of June. I'm looking forward to having them home for the summer! Next year my oldest son starts high school and the youngest starts middle school. Crazy how fast time goes. Brown, how is your play going? We haven't heard from Dorrie in quite a while. If you're reading, Dorrie, take a minute and let us know how you're doing.

Florinda! I love your love story! Hope it all works out for you both. It's working out right now so that's really all that matters. I want to see a picture. Sue, good luck on the 4:3 this week, you can do it! I don't know how I feel about the 4:3. I know that when I read about the 5:2 there was talk on some of the 5:2 websites that there wasn't much evidence that there was benefit to fasting more than 2 days a week. This makes me wonder why now is the guy trying to push a 4:3 diet now. Maybe it's more of a boot camp type of a push where you do it for a short time and then go back to 5:2? I don't know maybe I'm not understanding it. I haven't looked into it, I've only read what Georgia and Brown posted here. For me, it seems that if I fast on my 2 days a week and eat regular, along with some treats, on the other 5 days that I maintain. If I'm very strict on my 5 regular days of eating and eat very clean with hardly any treats, that's when I can lose. I also exercise regularly so that may make a difference for me. I've been staying between my bounce of 140-145 while fasting 2 days a week. I do believe that changing things up every once in a while, whether it be eating or exercise, that it really helps with keeping my body where I want it to be. I feel like this keeps my body from getting comfortable or used to the same thing over and over. Things have been going well. It's been busy and I haven't had much time to get on the computer. I've been reading from my phone but I hate trying to type up a long post on that little thing. lol My husband is doing great. He hasn't had any issues at all with eating or drinking so far. We are praying this is going to continue to work in the future. He has been able to sleep all night long and that hasn't happened in months.

I want to reply to so many of you but don't have the time right this moment. I've been so busy lately. I'll get back on later today or tomorrow and reply to everyone. I just wanted you to know I'm thinking about all of you. I surprised the family with season passes to Six Flags so we are headed there for the day! Enjoy your Saturday!

3 years later I'm still shopping. For me it hasn't stopped!

You look great, Lips!

Hugs to you and Bear and the family. One day at a time, that's all you can do. I love the idea Lynda gave about the grocery delivery service. I'll be keeping you in my prayers.

Fiddle, I agree with what others have said, there are too many other issues to factor in. I am 42, have had 3 children and had surgery 3 years ago. I worked out before surgery and have continued to work out. I have quite a bit of muscle, I posted pics on here a couple weeks ago, but I have a lot of loose skin. Most of it is on my hips/butt. I have been told that there isn't amount of exercise or weight training I can do to take away the loose skin. I have to have surgery to remove it. I will say that, for me, building muscle has disguised some of the loose skin. I think the skin issue is usually worse for women than it is for men.

I feel the same way. Let's keep our group the way it is. Denise said not too long ago she didn't want to add anymore. I'm ok being selfish with this decision!

@@Emilee68 here is the link with lots of info: http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/291240-52-links-and-info/ It's at the top of the vets forum. FYE put that together and made it a sticky should it should be easy to find. Feel free to ask questions on that link and those of us that do 5:2 will try to answer them and support you along the way.

There are support groups here but I've never been to one since they are offered by the various bariatric groups and I had my surgery in Mexico. I never felt comfortable just showing up at one. I assumed they only want patients from their specific groups at them. I would like to have one here sponsored by BP but I don't want to be in charge of it.

Forgot to add Sue, hope you has fun on your night out! You just look like a fun person from your pics. Wish we could all meet up somewhere, some day...

Georgia we haven't heard from Florida since she was sent to Germany . Waiting to get an update from her. All I have left of my boobs is loose skin. Seriously I pull the skin up and make a boob out of it and it doesn't even fill my size A cup! I even buy those really padded bras. Maybe some day I'll get those done but the lower body life and tummy must come first. Kim, love you! Love reading your posts! Brown I feel the same way about you. I read what you write and it makes me smile . Sheila good to hear from you!

Thanks all...hubs is doing well so far. If he can tolerate liquids tomorrow and pass his leak test tomorrow he my even be able to come home sooner than expected.

I am 3 years out. I haven't been posting much in the fitness group lately but I've still been working out 4-5 times a week. I've been going back and forth on deciding if I should post these but I decided to go for it. I still have a bunch of loose skin I will have removed but even with the loose skin I've been able to tighten up quite a bit. I don't do heavy lifting much anymore, although a couple of years ago I trained with a lady that was a body builder. Most of my toning comes full body weight exercises. I do add weights in with the exercises some, too, just not really heavy weights. Once in a while I still do some heavy lifting because I enjoy it. I change up my routine often and I think that's part of what keeps me toned.

Great information! Thanks for sharing this with us.

I agree, form is incredibly important while working out with or without weights.I do work with a trainer once a week and I am becoming a certified personal trainer myself. Also, working out is different for whatever goal you are trying to achieve. For instance, if I wanted to become a body builder I would have to add heavy weights frequently and change up my diet accordingly. If I wanted to have the body of a runner, long, lean and thin then I would be focusing on cardio and distance. It just depends on the results we are looking for. Oh to be on of those "20 somethings" again!

That makes complete sense to me! You put it in words much better than I would have done. I agree with everything you have said. I think a lot of people who have never worked out before look at people with toned muscle and think you have to go in a gym and work out with all the "crazy" weight lifting people and lift really heavy weights. But, like you said, results are different for each person. I also love what you said about going to failure. I think this is where a lot of people give up. Those last few reps of whatever exercise you are doing mean the most. They are the hardest to do and we want to give up and not push the little extra but the little extra is what really makes the difference.

Sheryl, I was cracking up when I read your posts. Girl, go out and get some new jeans! Oh, and then post pics so we can see. Denise, glad you had fun on your trip. Good to know about the fact that the hubs can have trouble with certain foods after surgery. I'll ask the surgeon about this and let my husband know. I think he's going to be so excited to eat normal after not being able to do so for many years. When he eats, or drinks, now the food doesn't go down and he makes weird noises and coughs and all kind of gross stuff. Dee, I'm glad you checked in and told us what's going on. Hang in there my friend. Come here and vent whenever you need to! Maybe try to work on one thing at a time since things are so stressful right now, trying to change everything all at once is just so overwhelming. I would suggest to try to aim for one thing a day, going for a walk daily, or not snacking between meals daily. Then add things as you go along. I know you know all of this already but sometimes it's helpful to hear it again. Hugs to you. We are all here for you!

The thread is still here, I think there were 2 threads and they got combined and then moved over to the Mexico section. Here it is: http://www.bariatricpal.com/topic/306039-think-twice-no-think-100-times-before-having-surgery-in-mexico/