Hi Armywife. I do understand you. I was banded in July 2007 and I was 285 pounds. I am now 205. My lowest has been 195. I went through a pregnancy and only gained 20 pounds and my post weight was 213. when i got a fill a month ago, i came back to 205. I did speak to my doctor as the pressure from thinking I was a failure and seeing how my friends have gastric bypass are losing it like crazy was really making me depressed. My doctor gave me great advice that i want to pass on to you....
It is normal to come to a halt, it is als normal to have slow progression in weightloss with the band. It is a tool to help you and not make a miracle without effort. All you have to do is set a goal to lose 1 pound per week. If you dont lose the pound in 1 week, try two next week. OR even 4 pounds per month. It doesnt matter how you do it... it shouuld be your goal. Think about it, 1 pound per week is 52 pounds in one year. If you hit a halt- the important thing is NOT to gain the weight! 52 pounds per year would make a signficance for anybody so keep in mind "1 pound per week" !!!
Hope this gives you some kind on motivation as it did for me. And dont be so hard on yourself, its hard to kick out the bad habits. But think that this is a longterm commitment and the changes would happen in the coarse of 5 yrs+