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I am almost 10 years since the day I was sleeved. I weighed 278 pounds when I had my surgery. I got down to 173 pounds and now I am back up to 220 pounds. I am feeling like a failure. I am terrified of putting all of the weight back on. How are others doing this better? How can I get some of this weight back off? If you are continuing to lose weight what are your daily macros? I’m not even sure if I have restriction anymore. Is there a way to find out? I started drinking sodas probably a year after I was sleeved. Have I ruined it for good? Is anyone else in the same boat? I’d love to have some help and support.

218.2 today.

So I have tried to go back on track. I’ve started using MFP again and planning what I eat. Drinking more water and getting more than 70 grams of protein. Down 1.5 pounds 😄

How’s it going now? Any updates? I’m up 47 pounds since 2011 and I need some inspiration

Charlotte how are you doing now that you started over?

So this is my first post back since 2013. I was sleeved in 2011. I weighed 278. I lost 105 pounds and got to 173. Fast forward to today and I am now 220! I am ashamed I have gained back 47 pounds. I was happy around 185-190 and I’d like to get back there. How have you been doing? Anything working?

So it's been about 4 1/2 weeks since I posted that I had gained 43 pounds. I have been going back to the post op way of eating and trying to exercise more and more. So far I have lost about 8 pounds of the regain. I know if's not a lot but I know I can keep going since I have stopped the "REGAIN TRAIN". April 3rd I weighed 217, today I weighed 209. I find that my sweet spot as far as calories go is 1200-1300 per day. Some people who have had surgery think that's a lot but I have to make the changes that work for me. Please help me Celebrate feeling better and working harder. Every day is a struggle but I can make it. To everyone else who has regained: I swear that if I can make it, YOU can too. Get up and move just a little bit more than you did yesterday and cut out one thing at a time that you shouldn't be eating. We still have our tool, we just have to use it. I'm feeling pumped up and beautiful again.

So it's Friday night. My hubby has had a really hard week and got home about an hour ago and passed out on the couch after dinner. I'm wide awake watching tv.... guess what I want to do? EAT. Am I hungry? not really. I just want something that tastes good and satisfies me. And then I will regret it and be sorry at bed time. I STRUGGLE EVERY DAY. The only peace that I have is that since I've stopped the "gaining train", I'm not regretful and crying at bed time every night. I gained 40 pounds in the last 3 years. It weighs on me (pun intended). Tell me how to change my mindset when it's tv time at night. Thanks for listening.

@reallyrosy - we were both sleeved in 2011 and facing the same stuggles. I don't know if someone newly sleeved can relate but I can eat much more now than in my first 2 years. I don't binge eat though. I just eat crap. I'm hoping that if I stretched my stomach it will go back to a smaller size now that I'm eating smaller portions again. I also became very Iron deficient and I eat ice all day long. I am taking iron supplements daily and they do help but it's crazy sometimes.

OK it's true that I know how/why I gained the weight. My husband was transferred to Florida 2 years ago. I didn't start gaining until we got here. We live in a town that is very resort-like. So we are always living life like we are on vacation. Drinking wine and margaritas by the water and eating out. It gets hot here so I became too lazy to work or walk outside. But I know these are NOT REASONS, they are EXCUSES. What would I do differently? Keep exercising, stop grazing on potato chips and skip the alcohol.

sorry all. I don't know how to edit my recent post. I was sleeved August 2011 not 2012. I will be 5 years out this summer.

I've been avoiding this website because I have gained so much weight. I was sleeved August 2012 and I originally lost 95 pounds. Although I never reached my goal weight I was very happy. I started at 272 pounds and my lowest was 175 pounds. I was a size 12 and satisfied. I no longer thought of myself as the fat girl everywhere I went. Now let's talk about this year... awful. My highest weight for 2016 was 218 pounds, THAT IS 43 POUNDS GAINED. I'm disgusted with myself and back to being the fat girl every where I go. Some days I actually just stay home because I don't want anyone to see me. April 1, 2016 I started really working the sleeve program again. Protein first, vegetables and working out as much as I can being big as a whale. I'm 5'6 so 218 is Goodyear blimp for me. I'm down 3.5 pounds but it is a struggle every single day. I hate being a failure and I'm going to do whatever I can to stay motivated. I guess that's why I'm back on this thread. Looking for people to help and encourage. Wish me luck people. I don't want to live my life either being the fat friend or hiding in the house.

You are absolutely right! I know exactly what I need to do. I always begin great and then mess up by the end of the day. I use MFP. My doc has me taking an iron supplement every day because I am extremely low. When I take that and eat my protein I can be stopped up for days. It's gets uncomfortable. But you are right, I need to stop whining and get back on track. How long did it take you to lose the 22lbs?

Sometimes we can all find reasons to emotionally eat. The bottom line is, like all of us, you deserve better than to regain. Give yourself permission to be sad for a while, but don't stay there too long. You can't eat away the sadness so try to find something else to make you feel better; walk, pray, meditate?

Hi everyone! I'm so happy to find this group again. My surgery was Aug 2011 and I weighed 278. I got down to 178 that first year, but then went back up to 185 for a whole year. Now I'm at 203 and very sad. I'd like to get 20-25 pounds off. I've just lost my drive to do better this last year. I'm looking for some encouragement and support from people who've been there. I still have pretty good restriction, I just eat all the time, and bad stuff. Please help me get back to a place where I feel good about me. Thanks in advance.

Hi Oregondaisy. What do you say we do this together? I'm really struggling and up 12 pounds. I'll do shakes and salad with you. And maybe add some grilled chicken on the salad. Shall we try the 4 days? We can update and encourage each other.

I think it's funny that sleevers post things like "I'm 3 months out and haven't gained any weight back!" Well none of us did at 3 months out! Or 6 months out! Or even 9 months out. Post again when you're 2 years out and share your stories about keeping the weight off, or those secrets to success. We all need to encourage each other as we live with these life style changes.

Things are better today. I'm trying really hard to stay focused and I'm walking again. Amazing how much harder it is now that I haven't been exercising for a while.

I have gained 12 pounds. I'm truly upset about it. My emotional need to eat has not gone away. I am 18 months out so I can eat much more than I did in the beginning but when I stick to protein first, it seems I can eat a lot less. My real problem is I like to eat. I need to replace this behavior with something else. The other problem is I love to walk my dog outside and we used to walk 2 miles a day. Not anymore. The average temp outside for the last month has been 18. My husband used to walk with me everyday. He has developed RA and is having a hard time getting around. Excuses? Yes, they are. But it's really hard to get back on track because of my love of eating and these two changes.

Thanks for the kind replies. I know it's only been 2 days since I posted that but I'm updating to say it's still really hard but I'm going to keep trying and plugging away. I will let you know when it starts coming back off!

I'm coming for help, not for judgement please. The situation is this: I'm finding it very difficult to control my snacking and over eating at night. I always start out great, but then blow it after 3:00. I'm eating high calorie/ high fat foods. In my uncontrolled frenzy, I have gained 9 pounds. Of course I regret it and I'm disgusted with myself. We don't have a support group in my state so I am putting my humiliating situation on here. Any support / advice is appreciated.

What a wonderful thread. Thanks so much to those who post their experiences. I was sleeved 8/8/11 and originally lost 95 pounds. Although I never reached my goal of 100 pounds, I was somewhat satisfied. Now I'm back to my old self with my old demons and I'm gaining weight. I've put on 3-4 solid pounds. But that's not the only failure. For the past 5 weeks I've stopped exercising. My body feels bloated and really fat. My pants don't fit and when I look in the mirror I see my old fat body. I think the lack of exercise has hurt me more than the old ways of eating. The honeymoon phase of my surgery is over. I no longer have the feeling that I'm in control. I no longer look forward to waking up in the morning and putting on my cute clothes, thinking I look good. During the honeymoon phase I was really trying, Now most days I eat whatever I want and don't exercise. Obviously the surgery worked on my stomach not my eating disorder issues. Sometimes I think I eat for entertainment. Is that crazy or what? I'm afraid my body is on it's way to being huge again. I'm really disgusted with myself. I feel like I had s good chance at succeeding but now things are looking dim. There are no actual support groups in my area so I read this site a lot. If anyone else has a strong addiction to food, I'd like to hear your experience on how you overcame your situation. Thank you.

Hey Libby! I'm still around and down 95 pounds but have been acting like a back-slider lately. It's been almost 2 months since I lost any weight and the fact is, I'm not really trying anymore. Does that suck? I'm really happy with my weight loss, I just wish I could get my emotional issues with food under control. There isn't a support group in my area so I hang out on this site and myfitnesspal for connections. I've never regretted my surgery and I do a lot more now than I ever did. My life has changed for the better 100% and I praise God I was able to get the sleeve. Now if God and I can just work on those emotional over-eating issues.

So I was 9 months out on 5/8/12. During that time I've gained self confidence and self respect and lost 92 pounds (and a great deal of my hair). I admit, I look like a totally different person now and I even enjoy going shopping. My issue? For the past 2 months I haven't lost any weight. I also haven't been trying that hard. I'm bored with "protein first" and "low carb". I still exercise almost daily but my eating habits are in the toilet. I still have at least 20 pounds to lose. So why have I just given up? If someone has some insight or opinions please share

Ok ya'll. Who is getting sleeved this month? Lets keep a running list so we can all check on each other in September, and all the days closely following surgery. I'm sooo excited (and kinda scared) but my date is pretty far away. Who's close???