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Exactly!

Oh Girlfriend... Life has such sweet sorrow! My mom was sick and passed a year ago... She and my dad were together for 67 years... I too felt for them and my Dads future without mom. I have to say, I jumped in and made the most of every minute I could with mom and dad. I didn't want there to be a chance that Mom had any question in her mind that I did not care for her or love her to pieces. I did a lot of hand holding, joking, normal conversations and a few times had the chance to guide her in her fear and confusion through a story of Love, not only our love for her, but her love for us, gratitude and ultimately her faith in God. I told her that all the love she had given to us all was now coming back to her... and she would be able to live in all that love. I had the chance to tell her that we would be ok, and she could go and feel released and she didn't have to worry about us we would miss her, but she had prepared us well with her love and caring through the years. I did this for her, I did this for the others in the family who maybe did not have the skill or strength, and I did it for me. I did not want to have any regrets about her last days and what I did in them. I also organized her commemoration and such, and tried to do things her way... lovely and generous as she was. This was a blessing for me and my family. I know I am still sad, and even started taking antidepressants after a year where the grief really caught up with me, and they have been such a life saver as well. I am the kind of person that want to dive into every aspect of life, even the dark and difficult ones because it is our life after all, and life is to be lived in all its complexities, and there is "gold in that sh*t"! meaning, you can find great knowledge in the difficult.... richness.... time to love mom, even a few months to show your love to your dad is a blessing.... so sorry you are going through this... and him and your mom.... your family....

Thinking of you all!

Oh my Sarah! That is so hard. I'm glad you came here and shared... we are here for you as much as we can.... I agree with Sheryl.... do get reassessed for your meds... in times of stress, no need to take on the extra if you don't have to. My newish meds have been great... I do notice (now at about 3 months) that the adrenaline shots I used to feel are starting to show up again... I'm on a very small dose, and may have to ramp it up a bit at some point. You take care, there IS joy to be found in this life... don't give up on finding it!

Keep in mind Bella, EVERYONE wants to get to 100%.

Are there other kinds of exercises you can do besides walking? those arm bicycles that wheel chair patients use.. or other isometrics? If you are using the other parts of your body, it will help strengthen the rest of your body too....

Sorry you are experiencing fear.... I hope the experience gives you a better quality of life.

22 minute HBO documentary posted else where on this site, but I enjoyed it and thought it would be good to post here.... http://theweightofthenation.hbo.com/watch/bonus-shorts/the-quest-to-understand-the-biology-of-weight-loss

this is the one I was looking at.... http://www.swankmsdiet.org/the-diet/ Your diet will consist of no more than 3 teaspoons (15 grams) of saturated fat per day. Your diet should contain a minimum of 4 teaspoons (20 grams) unsaturated fat (oil) and must not exceed 10 teaspoons (50 grams) daily. (5 grams = 1 tsp.) The following fruits contain unsaturated fatty acids and must be counted in the daily oil allotment: Avocados. 1/8 = 1 tsp. of unsaturated fat (oil) = 5 grams Olives. 3 medium black = 1 tsp. of unsaturated fat (oil) = 5 grams Olives. 6 medium green = 1 tsp. of unsaturated fat (oil) = 5 grams Fatty fish contains unsaturated fatty acids and must be counted in your daily oil allowance. You are allowed 50 grams (10 tsp.) per day. Tuna, canned in oil -- 2 oz. = 1 tsp. oil (5 grams) Tuna, canned in oil, rinsed & drained -- 3 oz. = 1 tsp. oil (5 grams) Salmon, Chinook -- 1 oz. = 1 tsp. oil (5 grams) Salmon, Coho -- 2 oz. = 1 tsp. oil (5 grams) Trout -- 2 oz. = 1 tsp. oil (5 grams) Sardines, canned in oil -- 1 oz. = 1 tsp. oil (5 grams) Herring -- 1 oz. = 1 tsp. oil (5 grams) All dairy products must be non-fat or contain no more than 1 gram of saturated fat per serving. The recommended daily amount is two (2) servings. The white of the egg contains no fat. The yolk contains 5 grams of mostly saturated fat. You are allowed three eggs per week, but no more than one per serving. One complete egg = 5 grams of saturated fat. ..and yes... no coconut oil.... It is a very restricted diet, but heads up! There are some goodies in it... to bad about the grains... I didn't see anything about beans.... bean flours are pretty good to cook/bake with... I have made some great dishes with garbanzo or white bean flours.... best of luck...

This info confirms my experience... it does make me stop and think... seeing it proved in a study...

You are such a good cook, I think you will find some wonderful ways to put this thing together and shine! Maybe it will even help the acid.... Have you tried all the grains out there? I have been eating spelt, einkorn and Kamut to good effect.... bean flours, rice, Pasta are all on the plan (If you can eat them) avocado and olive oil or walnut oil are permitted in your fat allotment... 3 eggs a week, or lots of egg whites.... best of luck to you.... I think you can do it!

Kelly, your picture is so dam*n cute!

Water weight, I was up 10 pounds. Many people are. Its the IVs.

Look up the "Three week stall", its common.

My doc asked me if I would be happy with a 50 pound loss... I said yes, but wanted to try for more. after 4 1/2 years, I'm at a about 74% loss.... I'm feeling a little bit more like a fat person than a normal one now... but still so happy I did it. I have made many lifestyle changes that have stuck, but a few have slipped a little.... I really don't want to get to that "50 pounds" he talked about... hope I can maintain here at a 70 pound loss..... @@feedyoureye Thanks for the post. I think the numbers are fairly consistent with what I was told to expect, and it makes sense that comorbidities would also return if people gain weight. I was one with a lot of weight to lose, and my surgeon told me the bypass would probably be better, but I was a candidate for either. I often think I could have lost that last 10 pounds if I'd had bypass, but I'm still not sorry I made this choice (sleeve). I think the outcome would be the same in the long term for me. I am currently struggling a lot to not gain. It's getting harder and harder, and I really wasn't prepared for this. Either way, I lost over 90% of my excess weight, and at nearly three years out, I find it's 90% me, and 10% sleeve. When I went into this, I knew long term I might settle at a 60% reduction from where I started. Now that I've lost so much and gotten to a normal size, the idea of that much regain is devastating to me. I'm going to do my best to not become a statistic!

I can't believe I have been off the boards for 9 days! I'm doing ok. Up 20 pounds, and holding. Sheryl, Sounds like your proactive moves toward life quality are paying off, and I understand your looking for a drug to even things out... I really like my drug... Citalopram, 10mg, the first few days I had some anxiety, but very quickly evened out. I feel so much better. Just a little better, which is just what I wanted. The doc said this low a dose will be easy to get off of if decide to do that. This is the first antidepresent I have ever taken (although Im sure I have self medicated in other ways...) I like it. I could see how I am a little TOO excited to take it in the morning. I feel like the grief centered depression has smoothed out a little... just enough. My libido was already heading down... but my ability to orgasm has slowed down, and the actual feeling has really gotten dulled. > sad face here <. But I feel so much better, that the trade off is not that harsh.... hope I can train myself out of this slump.....

Cathy, Sounds like a great time. How nice to have a couple of weeks to get set up for success as well! Sheryl.. So I say go with your gut.... if you do decide to see him again, perhaps set some boundaries... if he can't take that, then too bad for him! I sure would want someone who could take no for an answer! Slow down cowboy!

Sheryl... sorry about todays mood, but I have to say it sound like you are heading in the right direction. my "pills" are doing pretty well... still slip off the edge now and then, but the mood is better than before. When I got home from work today, someone (Im pretty sure it was my cray cray neighbor) had cut down a coyote bush I had growing outside my fence. On private property. It was around 12 feet high, and trained as an arch over the sidewalk. It was cut down to 20 inches from the ground, and all the branches thrown on my lawn. Last month, someone (same person?) went into my next door neighbors back yard and chopped her pear tree down to about 3 feet tall. It was not hanging over anyone's fence. So CRAZY! That wild Coyote bush was the favorite hide out for my wild bird family... it was probably full of nests.... I am steaming! My husband has no love lost on that bush, but even he was mad as hell. Hes ready to "Roundup" the neighbors yard... we do not have any witness, so probably will come to nothing... but so rude and disappointing!

Well you know Florinda, you can have a child without "THE man"... You can still make your family now if you wish!

What I meant is your total success... from your highest weight. You are still a success, even if you only lost 10 pounds in 3 months lately. Yes... I think something is wrong too... with me as well. I am still doing the 5:2 twice a week, at around 700 cals.... and around 12-1500 the rest of the days... 2-3 days of walking and two days of dancing. I'm up to 188-193.... high bounce used to be 173. I'm 5' 9"...OUCH. I could eat less... but honestly, I wouldn't be able to keep it up... I really don't want to yoyo that way... I want to only make changes I am ready to really keep. I am not doing bad, looks wise or health wise... but taking those 17 or so pounds off would sit just fine with me. I felt slim than... not so much now.

Don't give up girl! That way goes madness! Losing a half pound a week is better than gaining a half pound a week and hating yourself for it. You are still a success... look how much you have lost and kept off!

It doesn't look like I have host status on this one...

Glad things are looking clear.... no new surgery! Not that I'm going to let it stop me from posting, but I feel like my "maintenance" is just not trying to gain any more! and maybe losing a little.... can I have a 15 pound bounce range? If this new forum fills in with people who only have reached goal and not gone over it, I don't really belong there..... there are people under a year that are in "maintenance". Seriously, I don't want their advice!.... not that they shouldn't have a forum.... The Vets forum was about so much more than maintenance. It was about the wisdom and experience of the long view.... with or without reaching or maintaining goal at the moment!

Its been changed to the maintenance forum- http://www.bariatricpal.com/forum/1190-maintenance-forums-new/

... I can't find the Vets forum anywhere..... WTF?