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Okay, so I have only had sex three times all in the last little while. I am very in love w/my boyfriend and we have been together for almost 2 and a half years. I wasn't ready before now. He has been sexually active in the past and knows what he is doing, but I DON"T!!!! He is gentle and patient and is having a good time, but I know that a big part of my orgasm is MY responsiblity but I don't know what I need to be doing. Thanks friends!!!!

Lee, I have no great advice, just want you to know how much your posts mean to me. And please don't forget FOURTY TWO POUNDS in just two months! What? That is amazing!!!!! You are a freaking rock star! Don't discount the success you have had because all the things you want haven't come just yet, they will.

We don't ever need to apologize for wanting to take care of this one body we get. And if this is the "easy" way then I hate to try the hard kind. This is still difficult, I am still the one making the choices, I am still the one having to learn how to change my life, and yes I do have the help of a tool in the sleeve, but that really is only part of the equation. At this point it would be way easier to go buy a milkshake, I know that I could suck that down, and it would taste awesome, but I eat my greek yogurt, drink my water, and when I can't hack it anymore I come here and whine! Thanks all of you!

It is only as intense as you make it, but swimming or water aerobics can be a super low impact way to get started too.

Last night I went out with some friends and thought I'd be able to order Soup, but the restaraunt had nothing I could have so I sipped on lemon Water while they ate nachos (my absolute fave) and cheeseburgers. I kept my cool but came home frustrated. Today I bought Protein shots w/ 50 g of protein thinking this would be the boost I needed, they made me feel like I am on crack and I ended up having to run to the bathroom in my vet's office and dry heavng, (LOUDLY) then coming home and puking, though there isn't much there. And now I have awesome poo problems too. Grrrrr! I have been successful with weight loss, but I don't feel like its weight loss I've earned, I feel like its the kind of weight loss people have when they are sick. I don't regret my surgery, I know this will get better, but when? I feel weak and tired and just wanna chew on something. Remind me this was a good choice?

Similar to what I had happen with the protein shots. I followed it up with some puking too! I did better with a higher quality protein.

So exciting!!!! I went to Dr. Aceves almost three weeks ago and was cared for so well. I don't want you to think you are alone in your journey. I went to my first WW meeting when I was 16 years old. And I thought I was so fat, and now I would take the weight I started with then and move on! I've done it all too, and hadn't found the thing that I could make a permanent lifestyle change. I won't sugar coat the first little while with the sleeve has been rough for me, I'm super tired and have had some ups and downs, but I can tell you with confidence that I can do this, and so can you!

I am still on liquids, but my body's weird response is if I drink too quickly I end up having that tight chest tummy feeling, then I ALWAYS sneeze! Weird.

Kathy! I am glad to hear you are doing so well. You definitely had your share of ups and downs getting sleeved. Thanks for the encouraging words, and don't worry, I will never drink those protein shots again, not worth how they made me feel!

Hey Bernadette, I worked my butt off at a company and had dedicated way to much of myself to it. I loved it and was really good at it, and had several times where I felt like there were other things out there for me, but one day after 11 years my boss came in and said they were changing everything and "we're not sure you are dedicated enough." Well, after I cried for a couple weeks lots of great things happened that weren't able to happen before. I make way less money now, but lots of other things I've always dreamed of have come true. You will find a new niche, you won't have to wear white shirts and blue pants. You will come out of this stronger! Good luck with everything lady!!!

I'm still just full liquids but those are some yummy suggestions, thank you! I am really just having a difficult time just staying hydrated. I need to chill out. Dr. Aceves' plan has it so I can still be drinking fruit juices and stuff, but I am trying so hard to get the right calories/protein/liquid, and my body just isn't there yet. I think I need to just worry about getting fluids and as I feel better I'll be able to add in the other stuff too.

Thanks ladies!!! I still wouldn't change it for the world, just having a down day. I just can't wait to feel like me again. I guess I sometimes only see the positive threads from people, and feel like I must be the one doing something wrong.

"What do you get when you get a spray tan, tye dyed boobies, oh man! Oompa Loompa doobeldy doo I have a simple message for you..." So funny Tiff!

Okay I am sorry, but I am two days on mushies and my tummy is a gross gassy mess and I feel like I need to use the restroom, but nothing! I barely had any bm's with liquid but I thought that was probably normal, but this is super funky! How can I get in some fiber, my tummy has no room for anything more.

I actually found it in our Walmart. Walmarts all carry different stuff but I bet if you request it they could get it for you.

I really like Brown cow. It has 23 g of protein per 1 cup and I'm on full liquids and can add it to my shakes and it helps me get to my goals!

Oh I wish. I want someone to send my body the memo that I don't need to eat nachos, that protein shakes are delish!

There really is a scientific reason as to why we keep weight around our middles, bootys, and that ever attractive front poochy thing. In women we store fat there in case we become pregnant and need fat stores and don't have food. It is hard to convince your body that there is no famine, or that you aren't gonna conceive.

You all rock!!!! I can hardly wait!

Pre op is really difficult, but it is super important to guarantee the best possible surgical outcome. I don't know exactly what your preop is, but if you can really focus and get all your protein and all your fluids in some of the discomfort goes away. Its a really short term thing to get you to something great. You can do it! Hang in there and know that there are people here who are wishing the very best for you. And if you need a cheerleader we're here for that too!

My surgery was 3/25 and I misread the post op diet and advanced too quickly and made myself a little sick. I still have those moments of hunger, but it is hard to differentiate between thirst, hunger, and acid reflux. So...make sure you are working hard to get fluids and your mupps in first. (Easier said than done I know!) Lots of people talk about how the hunger sensation stays with them for a few weeks and there are some people who always maintain some hunger. I got thrown back on full liquids and I have a very difficult time feeling satisfied in this phase. One thing that helped though was tracking things on either obesity help, fitday.com, or the daily plate. When I can actually see that I have taken in all the things I need to in a day I can disregard some of those hungry feelings. Good luck! Oh and I think your weight loss is stellar!!!!

Well, I think this should do it. People have been able to state both sides. I know what MY decision would be, but this is the beautiful part, we all get to make our own. I am grateful that this forum hasn't been deleted and that people are able to sift through all of this information and make what is the best decision for them. Isn't this the point now where we step back and realize that this board is a SUPPORT group. A place designed to give people information and then offer them support in their decisions?

Thanks, this is gonna be a rough phase for me I fear, but I am so ready to have something other than a protein shake that I'm sure I'll eat things that otherwise I would have been unwilling to try!

Just because one tool doesn't work for you doesn't mean you've failed. This whole thing is a journey. There are lots of folks in this forum who have been more successful with the sleeve and found it to be more what they need. I don't know if you are a spiritual person or not so I apologize if I offend you with this, but I truly believe that we are all sent to this Earth to learn certain things, and all of us learn them different ways, I have learned so much by being an overweight girl. Lots of the things that I now love about my life wouldn't have come my way otherwise. But now, I am ready to learn new things, and I am learning them by overcoming this challenge. And I am sure that food and my addiction to it will be a challenge to me for the rest of my life, but I believe that with support of people in forums like this, family and friends, and the tool of my sleeve that I am ready to meet that challenge head on. We really can do this. It is time to quit beating ourselves up. Lets just get this done!