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I had surgery on Aug. 16 and I lost like 18 pounds or so from my pre op visit to my first post op visit 2 weeks ago. I feel fine and have noticed that the issues with I had with metabolic syndrome are gone, but the scale has not moved and its very depressing. I'm so afraid I am going to stretch the thing that I have been purging when I start to feel discomfort, even though i was told that the discomfort was from taking to big of bites. I have been getting sick or anything but since I started on soft foods nothings been happening.

I'm 3 years out, 200 lbs down and for some reason in the last couple of weeks eating real food makes me feel crummy. I have resorted to 2 shakes a day and try to eat real food for dinner. Doesn't matter what it is could be any kind of meat, carb or veggie, don't know what to do.

Well it's been 9 months since surgery and down about 120lbs since then and still no luck in the relationship department. Never been on a date much less had a boyfriend, thought things would get easier. Not. Really thought that before I hit 25 I'd be married, that's not the case. Anybody got any suggestions, I'll take all the help I can get.

Yes, i met him online. Ironically enough the day after I told the football obsessed Edgar Allen Poe wanna be to buzz off(that's another long story not worth mentioning) my fiance who I will refer to as RM to avoid confusion, messaged me over pof. RM and I have a long distance relationship still going on right now(125 mile distance) and we both still have loose ends to tie up before we get married. We were actually in the same town when we met up, I was in town for a month training at my new job at the time, so we figured we'd give it a shot. I never thought it would have ended up the way that it did. So I go up every Saturday and we have our us time after he gets off work. He has a 3 year old son, who's a doll and no I don't have to worry about the boy's mother. His family is great, a little dysfunctional but they seem to really like me. It's kinda funny my grandma has only seen him once, but she's obsessed with his blue eyes. We've spent a few days with my mom both her coming up to see us and us going to her house, he's growing on her but you know how mom's are especially since I'm an only child.

Figured the title would draw attention and confuse, haha. Here goes though. I always wear one of those Kimora shapers or spanx and a pair of tummy flattening underwear wherever i go because of all the loose skin. Still have 50 pds to go before the surgeon who did my sleeve will consider removing loose skin. Getting to the point, when my fiance and I get into it at his place I always leave my top and spanx on just in case someone comes in. He is always trying to get to me underneath them. Any suggestions about other garments that I could wear or any kind of suggestions.

Yep, same guy. Though it looks like we'll be getting married next spring (money, uhh). He doesn't care about the loose skin but it still bugs the crap outta me and he doesn't complain about the body shapper, it's just kinda funny. He kinda looks like a cat at a scratching post.

He lives in one of those shotgun style houses with roommates. If we were able to go to my place this would not be an issue or when I get a hotel room (I come up on Saturdays, I live 2 hours away). It's kinda a mood killer having to take off all that stuff and put my top or dress back on.

I was sleeved in Aug. 2010, down 200 lbs, still have approx 100lbs to go need some help here. My boyfriend recently proposed 3 weeks ago and we are looking at getting married later next year. Still have 100 lbs to go and weight loss stopped for me about 6 months ago. I have thought about seeing if my new health insurance would pay for gastric bypass (more than likely they would) but I know what i've been through with the sleeve and we are wanting children, don't wanna have to wait another 2 years and then have to be considered a high risk pregnancy as a result regardless of my actual health. My wanting to get down to my goal weight before we get married has nothing to do with him, its what i want. He loves me just the way that I am loose skin and all. What can I do here, I really can't get much help from my surgeons office, I moved for a new job 4 months ago and it is not convenient for me to drive 125 miles one way, may take a while and countless visits; the new nutritionist and exercise lady i'm not to fond of. The ones that were there when I initially went through are no longer there, these new ones, uh.... I moved to a small town in rural Iowa, no health clubs around here, closest is 50 miles away. Any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Well ladies I would say that this topic is solved for me. After dating the creep, the professor, the pervert, the wuss and the football obsessed-edgar alan poe wannabe(long story). I finally got a keeper, he proposed 3 weeks ago and looks like we're getting married later next year. Still have 100 lbs to go, but he does not care about that. He loves me and that is all I have ever wanted. I just wanted to say thank you all for the support since I posted this topic over a year and a half ago. To those single sleevers that may read this that I never expected to actually meet someone who loved me for me, not for what he thought that I should be or me taking less that what I felt that I deserved due to how I felt about myself.

I went to one of those fancy burger places for lunch today(I'm in the city for a month for training for my new job) and I know a burger place is not good but here's the thing. I ate the entire thing, nothing else. I am afraid that my sleeve has stretched. It's been 2 years since I was sleeved. Maybe it's just me but I can't go see my surgeon, I moved 4 hours away and the dietician that they had that I liked does not work there anymore or I'd call her. Any thoughts?

Myself and the guy that I am currently seeing had sex last night and for some reason didn't think of it until went the bathroom later, that we were both covered in blood. It was the 2nd time that he and I had had sex and prior to that I had only been with one other guy, he was quite small to say the least. I technically lost my virginity when I was about 400 lbs+, but there was really no blood then. So here's my question, seeing as I am now around 220 is it possible that minus that 200+ pds, that my hymen just would now rupture or is there something else going on that I may need to have checked?

Seriously doubt it, we just had sex for the first time a week ago, during my period. I think maybe tissue got torn or something, because it stung for a little while.

My period was over last week. I've been taking sveyda ( generic ocella) and everything was ok when I went to the gyno last fall.

Never heard from the dunkin donut guy again and got dumped via text yesterday by the one I was seeing. Said the he had been taking to his ex, whom he has children with and she wants to get back together. He said that he did not know what he was gonna do. Basically he kept on and on how great I am and it was just like rubbing salt in a wound.

So I am almost 2 years post op, still has 80 lbs to go. I started dating this guy and have been taking to him for over a month prior. He knows that I have lost 200 lbs and I told him that I have loose skin. But I think that talking about loose skin and seeing it are 2 different things, I wear one of those kymora body shapers all the time and he knows about that too. I have always been self conscience anyway and he wants me to wear a nighty. I honestly don't know what to think, I'm trying to get out of my comfort zone to take a risk but am I just worrying about nothing?

Well I ended up sleeping with him the other night. Not at all what I expected, he didn't say anything at all about the loose skin or anything. I was more comfortable than I thought I would be, I mean it was my first time so ya I was freaking out at first. I actually started out in a nighty and ended up without anything on. I honestly was surprised because I thought that he was gonna be disgusted. It was funny. Because after we were talking and I told him about my surgery and he told me that he was thinking about getting the band done himself.

Ok, I have been talking to this current guy since the first of may. We went out for the first time two weeks ago and lets just say had a very good time( no sex, but made out). He's coming over for dinner tomorrow night and we've been discussing sex. I wonder is it to soon? We've disclosed everything to each other over the last month and a half and I feel really comfortable with him.

I am almost 18 months out, 151 down and 90 to go. I can eat almost a whole can of progresso soup (16oz). Is that bad? I am talking about the ones that are mostly liquid like italian wedding, not like the high fiber chili. How fast does water run through the stomach anyway? When i drink water it does not take me long to down like a 20 oz glass. Am i alone in this?

I am finally starting to feel and notice the differences in myself since my surgery. I was sleeve back in august starting at 383 lbs and I weighed my spec after I got home from work tonight and I'm at 311. I really can't remember the last time I weighed that much. I do remember being in the 6 th grade and being 277, although I just remember felling trapped. I don't know it's the little stuff like sitting in group with my clients and being able to cross my legs or this my sound strange but when I was playing DDR tonight I realized that I can clap my hands behind my back. It's really the little stuff that makes me realize that I made the choice that was right for me. I mean I'm still single and I still notice that my self esteem is getting better. I just hope that my sharing this with others will help them realize that is is not just looking at the scale going down that matters but the effect it has on your frame of mind.

OK so here's my q. My mom who has had a stroke back in 2006, who also has diabetes, hypertension, triple bypass and had part of her foot removed due to poor circulation from diabetes is trying to have gastric bypass surgery. So does not get around so well and all she really does is sit in her butt. I took her a pair of my old weights to use, i doubt if she uses them. Does anybody have some ideas on what she could do? I've been looking for an exercise bike, but no luck. She really can't do what i've been doing and her balance is terrible. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

I think I may have met a decent guy. It was an interesting date to say the least, we had coffee out in the dunking donuts parking lot at 11 at night, after he got off work. He was actually good looking and did not creep me out at all. We'll see what happens.

It was bad.. He was really nice but some of the stuff he was taking about made think that he was going to end up in prison, probably as a sex offender. He proceeded to tell me how one of his friends was in a fraternity and they kidnapped this guy and how he himself was walking around in swim shorts and had a rubber duck. It got worse from there not really something that would be appropriate for anyone to read. The entire evening he kept staring at me, it was just a really off evening. Hopefully the next guy I meet won't be so creepy. Just out of curiosity are all guys that use online dating sites weirdoes?

Well ladies, just want to say thanks. Looks like I got a date next Friday night. Met him on plentyoffish.com, still getting messages from others too. Never thought I meet sOmeone that way but whatever works. Thanks again ladies.

I had a panic attack earlier today and am still in pain. This is the second I've had since being sleeved back in august. The first was when I woke up from the anesthesia in the operating room after being sleeve and I was put on the pain med drip and that took care of it. Today I was in a store shopping and it hit me, the pain toned down a lot after about an hour. But now it's back again, feels like somebody is stabbing me right under my rib cage and hurts in the back to. I was just wondering if anybody else has had these kind of issues with panic attacks since being sleeved. I don't think that the pain has anything to do with not taking an acid blocker because I have not taken an acid blocker in over 4 months now. I tried to call my doctors nurse today but all I got was voicemail, any suggestions?

Well I've been looking at other staff at work but that's hard because I work in a men's prison and at the same time you don't want to draw attention to yourself. I live close to the bar district but I am self conscience about going alone. My two closest friends are both married and are not into the bar scene, neither am I. I have been doing ok Cupid for about a year and a half, not getting anywhere with that.