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I feel so surreal I woke up today and was like this is really going to happen in 30 days. And I don't have a freind to sit down with and have coffee with to talk about our goals during and after this journey. Where we could always lean on to get each other and my our goals come true. Someone to go shopping with everytime we meet a milestone. My husband is great but he does not understand what I am going thru. He tries very hard to be there but I need someone who is over weight and tired of it and has tryed everything to lose it. Being a over weight wife, mother and grandmother is hard enough because every body is into themselves and what is going on with you does not matter to them. I would love to meet someone at the same point as me going thru the ups and down. I only blame myself for not having any true freinds I have closed myself in. You would think I would have freinds becase I am currently going to college but even there I have no support no one I can count on to back me up if I miss class. So for right now I must take these step by myself and hope that I can regain my life back and Next Weekend I am planning to go to target and get myself two pairs of sweet pants, loose panties, 2 loose bra and some loose t-shirt. The next weekend I will buy my stuff for the hospital stay. I will buy 2 night shirts, slippers, and a house coat. I will buy fresh batch of protien shakes and crystal light because I am a picky eater. I will continue to buy my supplies for after surgery. I have been stocking up for months now. I plan to be ready for after surgery I have measuring cups and spoons that flatten to fit in bags. I have a personal blender for the protien shakes. I renewed my gym membership, I go by myself. Is there anybody from the Bronx going thru this. Surgery at Montefiore hospital. As the saying goes I came in alone and I will leave alone

@ muller1223 thanks, that sound great what hospital? private message me did you have other medical problems?

I want to thank everyone for all the kind words. It brighten my day to know I was not alone in feeling this. I am so close and the emotions are getting the best of me. I still wish I had a live person but to all that offered to speak to me in private thanks you. And I have tryed to find some one in the group but they are really not open to having discussions out side the group. I know that I will be fine it does not change the fact that I am driving blindly in this journey. I will do well and gain the self esteem to unclose myself. I will have the energy to volunteer for the extra activties my grandkids are in, as I did for my kids. (raising grandkids) Soccer, baseball, ballet, swimming. I will network and make some friends.

I don't know if this is really going to help but here it goes, I am so sorry for your lost, it is a good friend to feel guilty after the death of a love one. But I don't believe you are a screw up. You just reacted to the pain you were feeling. When I lost my aunt I was feeling guilty because I was thinking about myself and not her. But I found a stranger who told me that it was okay that I was thinking about myself because she would not have it any other way. So continue with your plans because her wish for you now that she is gone is to be happy and that she will watch over you as you meet the goals you are hoping for. So everyday I light a candle and pray that with gods help and hers I make it through another day strong. I listen to spanish christen music and there is a song that gets me thru "Yo Te Extranare" by Tercer Cielo

I am overly excited after this long journey I finaaly got my date 2/9/12. I have been looking forward to this ever since I started. Looking back at all the things I had to do to get her I don't regert anything. I am so happy with the team at Montifore for helping me reach this point. I am proud of myself it has been two weeks that I have been on the pre-op diet given to me to start when I get my date. I really like it I am not hungry. It is a "High Protein Preoperative Diet" I added it below

Thanks for all the kind words. But I do have the support of my mother and husband. They know that I am having this for my health. I just don't share with anyone else such as my sister who had it done and she has gain all the weight back. She said bad things and I was having one problem after another

I am sad at the same time that I can not share my news with my family and friends because the first time I did tell them it was such a negitive experience. You know what It does not take away from me having a date. Yes Yes I have a date!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Just keep your chin up. I am finding that the doctor wants to cover all bases. I was delayed for a year and then I changed insurance and had to start over. We are now in the new year and I still don't have a date but hoping it will be soon. I just had my endoscopy today just waiting for the date for surgery. Just say ok you can't stop me what next I will have this WLS for my health!!!! Good Luck

I understand how you feel just hang on in there. I also want you to prepare yourself for delays. I started journey in October of 2010 and tomorrow I am having my endoscopy and hopfully I will get my date for the surgery soon. I need to have it done soon or I will have to wait six my months and start all over again. I need to go back to work and the Pain is unbelievable now. No matter what hoops I have to jump through I will have this surgery.

And I forgot to tell you the best person you need to ask is the wls team who should provided you with examples. Also remember alot of these Weight Loss Doctors/clinics have their own requirement on pre-op diets. My sister had no pre-op diet and my friend was on clear liquid for one week. So remember to follow what your doctors orders Good Luck I just got my date

Well I am not sure if this will help but I was told to start a high Protein after I get my surgery date. But it needs to be cleared with your PCP if you have diabetes and kidney disease. Daily meal plan Breakfast: Protein Supplement ONLY (choose from List Below) Lunch: Protein Supplement ONLY (choose from list below) Mid afternoon Snack: 1 cup sugar free, fat free/low fat yogurt AND 1 piece of fruit OR one cup melon, OR 3/4 cup berries OR 15 small grapes Dinner: 6oz of lean/very lean protein (choose from list below) 2 servings of bread/starch (choose from list below) 1 cup of vegetables (excluding potato, corn, squash 1 cup of salad greens 2tablespoon low fat salad dressing Evening snack: Protein supplement I will try to attach the full version

Don't be sad I started this journey 10/2010 and it has been one hoop after anorther. I thought I was finally there but long hold the blood test was fine but the urine was abnormal. Going Monday to repeat and find out if this is a problem for my surgery. So Hang on in there it always looks worst before it gets better and it will get better

Wow as I read everybodies list I was thinking of mine, so here it goes 1. Because I look like I am carrying twins I want to stop telling people I am due in six month 2. Correctly wipe myself without pain and sweating 3. Buy mirror 4. Walk again with stoping every ten minutes to rest 5. Walk with husband without looking like a perfect ten (he is one and I am the zero) Hopefully this will happen before my birth in Feb. 2012

It really depends on you and the clearence need. I started my journey on October 2010 and finally got everyone on board and had to redo some steps over again because the insurance company has a dead line date. On December 2, 2011 I had my second visit with surgeon and sign my consent now waiting for my surgery date. I was told it is going to be another 4 weeks.

Try chocolate Isopure with skin plus milk I feel it has a great taste. Good luck

It is now a year later and I have to start over but happy things are going great. I am ahead of the game I just need the two support group visit. But all this waiting is making me crazy.

I am in the same place as both of you guys. I am looking forward to be sleeved by December. I also am the one that takes care of thankgiving dinner and Christmas also. I have been waiting for this since October 2010. I had the issue with new insurance so now I got a jump on it and need two requirements and I am on my way. By Dec 6 I will have complete all requirement. I hope i am scheduled for the last week of Dec. My advice to you is this, What do you? Do you want to go into the New Year with better health. I would do it Good Luck

Right now I don't know if I should be happy or sad. I feel alone in my decision. I want this surgery to cure me off the diabetes that is killing. As I get closer my support is falling apart and I missed the deadline date for the insurance,they change my *** and I corrected the change to a *** that coverages the doctors I am see but that does not take affect till Nov. 2011. And this insurance only gives you six month to get all your ducks in a row. This roller coaster ride is very stressful. I called the clinic and was told that the steps that they want to be done before the surgery can now be less work this time. The required step I had to do 1. Go to two support groups 2. See a Doctor for clearance: Cardiologist Pulmonologist Nuerologist Nutritionist Physiologist 3. Blood test 4. Referral from PCP 5. Then I get the second visit and a date for surgery

it is true that if you sleep funny it make it harder to use the machine. As long you are telling the pulmo doctor about it. they can help. My doctor said that alot of people have trouble with the machine. Because of the chip she sees I am trying what ever happen at night with the mask is what it is according to her.

Question will your surgeon take your copy? Are you paying for the fax or for the prep of the report? Will it cost less if they mail it? I paid a $100 dollars for my visit because the insurance takes to long to pay. And I didn't need to see the doctor again so it was worth it. And he faxed the approval package to the sugreon without the extra cost. I will going back to him because I need to start over because I didn't get all my aproval with in the timelimit of the insurance.

Call the Pulmo doctor which is the doctor for apnea and he/she can help with the problem maybe you need to change your mask. Stick with it you may not need it after the surgery.

I am having the surgery for the same reason. I have been on a insulin pump also but doing some what okay now to control my sugars. I started my journey in august when I read about how the surgery would help my diabetes. And I was talking to my sister who had the by-pass surgery and nows does not have problem with the diabetes. When I began this journey i went thru alot of hoops and disappointments about not having the surgery but I kept my head up and jump thru all the hoops. And now looking forward to have the surgery done. I have to retake a couple of steps again because I took too long for my insurance to have it done. Now all the doctors approved but I need to do it within a year so now I have to do the first visit and the support groups so it puts me having my surgery late Jan. or early Feb. of 2012 and I am so excited I have been stocking up on the things I am going to need for after the surgery and tasting new foods and exercising more lilttle by little. So I wish you all the luck and if you need someone to talk too. Just send me a private message

Even though I missed my deadline for my approval. I am so excited that I finally got all the doctors to approve me for surgery. I was so excited I am happy eventhough I missed the date for the insurance it is okay. I will start the steps over and it look like I will have my surgery in late jan 2012 and no later than feb 2012. It is the best for me because I can rest during my school break. I then have a year before I renew my vows and I will able to wear the wedding dress I fell in love with. My goals are going to happen little by little: 1. the surgery which I have been preparing for a year practicing alot of new habits. 2. Diabetes gone 3. Weight lost 4. Remove of extra skin it any. Planning to help to avoid alot of extra skin 5. renew my vows and have a wedding for the first time. So all the headache and crying paid off. Yeah I am on my way.

Thank you for your kind words and you just gave me back an ounce of hope that was needed because I was going to throw in the towel. Hoping for you to get your approval soon too.