SandyH#

I was banded two years ago -April- 09. Did a great job for the first six months. Have come to a screeching halt and am struggling following the program. Went back to my surgeon for my last fill in Nov. 2010 and told her I was embarassed to come because I hadn't lost anything since my last visit. I got a fill and am supposed to go back next month but am ready to cancel and give up since I haven't lost anything. The emotional eating has gotten the best of me and this now seems like one more time that I've failed at wt. loss and it's been a life long process and I'm in my 60's. I just can't seem to get a handle on following the food plan or anything else. Sorry to whine but I'm really stuck.

Shirley, I also admire you so much for not giving up...way to go. Remember when you see the new Doc that they don't walk on water and that it's your body and you're in charge but just need his help to get you and keep you on the right track. I had a similar problem with my first Dr. but the one I'm seeing now is much nicer to me than I am to myself. She told me to never not keep an appointment because I haven't lost or have gained because she wants to help and that's why she does what she does. Makes it even worse that I don't want to keep the appointment tomorrow because she's been nothing but kind. It's my own head that's the problem. We can and will do this and it's nice to read the other posts and find out that we have company. Let's get this done ladies-we know we can.

Hi Kathy, I have ten years on you in age and it seems we're in the same boat. I'm still working fulltime and am off recuperating from surgery on my ankle til May 13 and the food monster is haunting me. I've had the same experience - have b een able to eat anything I want since I got on regular food after the surgery, popcorn , steak, you name it. Obsess about food, if it's here I want to eat it.. I really do think that we are way too hard on ourselves and we are suffering from diet fatigue having fought this battle all my life at least. I have a sister in law who has been obese since the day I met her 35 years ago, who never did anything about her weight and three years ago she got the band and lost 88 lbs in a year and like you with your co-worker, it's hard to see her and not feel angry. Though I will admit the anger is at myself and that sure doesn't help me with the food monster. I wish I could just find the key to why I don't want to take care of myself the way I seem to take care of every one around me. Is that you too? I don't want to fail at this either and that's why I sought out this sight yesterday, I knew I wasn't the only one having this problem but it sure has felt like it for the last six months or so. I don't know about you but I have always had trouble asking people for help and I think that's also part of my problem. I still haven't decided if I will keep my appt. on 3/31 to have another fill, it will only be my third. You've only gained back five and I know that you can keep it from becoming 5 more because you reached out to this site as well, you can turn it around. Now that I've finally gotten clearance to start rehab and can walk w/o the cast I'm going to start doing that at lunch-are you in a place where the weather is getting better and can do that at lunch? Stay in touch, we're not in this alone............Sandy in Ohio

Hi Kathy, I have ten years on you in age and it seems we're in the same boat. I'm still working fulltime and am off recuperating from surgery on my ankle til May 13 and the food monster is haunting me. I've had the same experience - have b een able to eat anything I want since I got on regular food after the surgery, popcorn , steak, you name it. Obsess about food, if it's here I want to eat it.. I really do think that we are way too hard on ourselves and we are suffering from diet fatigue having fought this battle all my life at least. I have a sister in law who has been obese since the day I met her 35 years ago, who never did anything about her weight and three years ago she got the band and lost 88 lbs in a year and like you with your co-worker, it's hard to see her and not feel angry. Though I will admit the anger is at myself and that sure doesn't help me with the food monster. I wish I could just find the key to why I don't want to take care of myself the way I seem to take care of every one around me. Is that you too? I don't want to fail at this either and that's why I sought out this sight yesterday, I knew I wasn't the only one having this problem but it sure has felt like it for the last six months or so. I don't know about you but I have always had trouble asking people for help and I think that's also part of my problem. I still haven't decided if I will keep my appt. on 3/31 to have another fill, it will only be my third. You've only gained back five and I know that you can keep it from becoming 5 more because you reached out to this site as well, you can turn it around. Now that I've finally gotten clearance to start rehab and can walk w/o the cast I'm going to start doing that at lunch-are you in a place where the weather is getting better and can do that at lunch? Stay in touch, we're not in this alone............Sandy in Ohio Hi, my name is Kathy and I am new at this and this is my first post. Out of frustration, I thought I would join to see if anyone else is having the same problems as I am. I too had my surgery in April of 09, I lost a total of 32 lbs. and have now gained back 5. I too feel like such a failure. I no longer feel any restriction at all. I feel hungry all the time and the emmotional eating is out of control. I don't think emmotionally I can handle one more weight loss failure. I am 58 yrs. old and am tired of the fight. I have not lost a single pound in almost a year now. I went to the surgeon on Mon. and had a fill, but honestly I cannot tell the difference at all. My coworker had the same surgery after I did, weighed more than me and has lost 75lbs. and does not exercise at all and I know what she eats, and it is not as good as what I do. It is very hard to see her everyday and not feel angry.

Thanks so much and you're right, I just need to remind myself of that -constantly.

Please don't apologize for needing to get it off your chest, that's exactly the reason I signed up today for this website. Glad to know that you're sticking it out and we are worth it but sometimes it takes reminding when we haven't done enough self talk. I so appreciate you taking the time to post your thoughts today and am going to have a talk with myself, get all my info from pre and post op out and start over ONE MORE TIME. Let me know how you're doing and let's keep this boat afloat together.

Thanks so much for the words of encouragement and I know that I need to keep the appointment and do the other things you suggested, it's just hard to face the Dr. and face thae fact that you haven't done what you should.