PamR

Went from a 10.7 A1C to a 6.2 A1C within a couple of months after surgery. Blood Sugar is better then it's ever been and not being able to eat bread has been my #1 Savior. I am no longer thirsty all the time and my health has improved drastically after losing 65lbs. The band has been excellent for me so far.

Love your name, hehe. :-) I too have a husband who is not as supportive as I would like. However, a lot of his insecurities stem from his past relationships where two of his ex's had gastric bypass. Now his first girlfriend has gastric bypass about 10 years ago and she didn't have the proper therapy beforehand and she had several issues afterwards where in a sense she went pretty crazy. Their relationship ended, she lost weight, got married and had four kids. His ex-fiance also had gastric bypass and she had a lot of complications and ended up losing weight and leaving him(and also got married right away afterwards). My husband has always been attracted to curvy women and has always thought they are beautiful. He is somewhat concerned that following my weight loss he will not look at me the same way, however that's a risk I am willing to take to better my health. I do feel that he says that only because he is scared of me losing the weight and feeling threatened, I honestly believe he will find me more attractive since he always comments on pictures of me when I was slimmer and says I was sexy. Even if when I say slimmer I mean 260! lol Considering that he had two girlfriends have WLS and leave him, he is VERY insecure about me losing weight. When I mentioned that I was considering Lap-Band he was extremely upset. He kept saying that I was going to leave him and he started to emotionally disconnect from me for awhile. After I explained my reasoning and why I wanted Lap-Band(I have diabetes and PCOS and hope to have children one day) he started to come around somewhat but I'd be lying if I said he changed his tuned. We had a heart to heart and he explained that he loves my personality and how compassionate I am and he is scared that I am going to change as I lose weight. I have a therapist I meet with who specializes in Bariatic Surgery and he went with me twice and put his feelings out there. It was really good for the both of us and he got to express his anxiety regarding my surgery. I am currently one week post-op and I can tell you that we are doing ok, however it's tax season and my husband is a CPA and extremely stressed. I chose to have my surgery during tax season because I wanted him to be more focused on work, rather then my surgery so he didn't drive me insane. Hehe. I have done very well with recovery, however I have babied my husband quite a bit(making him dinner, doing laundry, packing his lunch for work, going to the grocery store, etc) even though I haven't been feeling in tip top shape. I wish he were more compassionate towards me and my healing process, however he has carried the groceries up for me and he has been walking with me every evening. He also has congratulated me on my weight loss so far and made sure to bring me flowers while I was doing my pre-op diet because I was so stressed and upset and also brought pretty flowers after surgery. My therapist told me that since he made it clear that he is not ready to support me 100% in this, that I cannot expect the support from him that I desire. I do appreciate that he is still as affectionate and loving towards me as he was before and hopefully as I lose weight he will understand that I have no intentions of leaving him. I married him because I love him and deep down he is one of the most sensitive and loving men I know. Regardless of how much I love and care about my husband, it was time for me to put myself first. Sometimes I think that this process will make us stronger, but you never know. I'm just taking everyday as it comes right now.

Hey there. I am 6 days Post Op as well and my back is bothering me as well. I think it's just an adjustment in how we are using our abdominal muscles. I also get sore sometimes in the ribs after drinking, and I tend to burp quite a bit....I'm assuming it's gas but I guess I'll find out about that at my Post Op appointment Thursday. Doesn't sound like anything is out of wack with you though! Normal healing. Hope things look up...the port pain seems to be improving everyday...hope it's gone soon cause I miss sleeping on my side! eek

I am dealing with the same thing, with one certain friend. It's really annoying when people have to make negative comments, especially the day before your surgery. I am getting banded tomorrow as well and my friend already had to make annoying comments to me tonight as well. I joined Weight Watchers with this friend in Jan and at the time I was considering Lap Band but had yet to make a decision on going to the seminar or not. Her mom was banded and also had gastric bypass and gained all her weight back. She has reminded me of this several times. She also decided to tell me how scary hospitals are and how she would never be able to go through elective surgery. She also LOVES to text me every Thursday when she weighs in giving me an update(which is fine if she didn't constantly talk down about my choice to get banded calling it the easy way out!). It's funny how I've lost almost 15lbs in two weeks and she wanted to make sure I knew that it's only water weight and it's not inches. She talks down to me religiously and honestly...I'm at a point where I don't want anything to do with her anymore. I used to think she was a really nice girl, but I don't see how someone who is supposed to be your friend can be so insensitive sometimes. She also ALWAYS has to give me her opinion on my marriage, which drives me nuts. My husband is a C.P.A. and it's tax season, so I decided to stay at my mom's since she is retired and wants to be my "nurse". lol. I don't think there is anything wrong with that as my husband is crazy busy and I chose to have my surgery during his busy time of year. He is making sure to leave work early and visit me right after I'm done with surgery. My friend thinks this is ridiculous and that he should be sleeping at my mom's on the couch so he can be with me. Honestly, the couch is anything but comfortable and he has a very busy week as it's almost to the 15th. I would feel guilty asking him to stay....even though I know he would. I know I shouldn't get so bent out of shape over her comments, but I've been extremely emotional since I've been on my pre-op diet and it's also my TOM. So I've been snapping back at her because I can't take it anymore. I need love and support at this time, not a friend like her. Thank goodness I've got friends who are genuinely happy for me! Good luck tomorrow, and don't worry about your friend so much...I'm in the same boat and I'm TRYING to avoid the drama and focus on all the positive things coming my way!

I'm tomorrow @ Noon! Not scared...just ready to get this done and over with, lol. The only thing I'm dreading is the gas pains....which I've already stocked up on Gas-X Strips while they are on sale at Walgreens. They come to $2.50/box at Walgreens till 4/30 if you use the $2 in store Walgreens Coupon + $1.00/off Manufacture coupon on each box. Just a heads up. Good luck tomorrow fellow bandsters!

I was seriously going to post the same topic today. Unfortunately I have a very heavy period right now.....and tomorrow is my surgery day! Ugh. To make matters worse, when I had my upper endoscopy at the hospital, I had my period as well(about a month ago...ugh)...and well...I had a pad on and I totally left a quarter size blood mark on the stretcher. I was MORTIFIED, but the nurse was so sweet to me and gave me another pad and told me not to worry...things like this happen all the time. So I'm not thrilled about going into surgery tomorrow w/a heavy flow....but it is what it is I guess. Doesn't help that I'm bloated and drinking broth(even reduced sodium bloats me), I hope I don't gain like 2 lbs today! Ugh! At least surgery day is tomorrow! Woohoo! Gotta look at the positive side of things, lol.

Hi there, I'm Diabetic as well. Are you currently taking your insulin or have you been instructed to stop taking it? My doctors made me get off of the metformin and actos that I was taking and it's been much better. I would ask your doctor is you can take those glucose tabs that come in a roll. My blood sugar went low and I was getting the worst headaches and was FREEZING! Can you add a Protein bar to your diet? What type of diet are you on? I am doing Optifast and get 6 shakes a day and 2 bars. I have a shake/bar ever 2.5 hours and it's help my blood sugar stay pretty normal. Pam

I'm the 5th! Can't wait!!!!