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Same thing happened to me on my 4 th fill. They couldn't find the port opening and 2 nurses were jabbing me for about 10 minutes. They eventually found it and said it was because I'm losing weight and it happens. I'm still a bit worried about it! But anyway I was bruised quite bad and was sore for over a week. I was still happy they filled me as I had visions of flipped port and surgery. I'd say you'll be fine in a week. Good luck x

Hi lads this is more of a rant than anything. I'm sure you have or will experience friends been very negetive. My good friend is been very negative towards me. I started weighing 16st 9lb, now at 13st 12, my goal weight is 11st 7lb. So not and don't want to be skinny mini as I'm 5ft 7, and would be quite big built. Any lately my friend keeps talking about how I've lost loads of weight and to stop cause if I lose any more, i'l look AWFUL, yes she uses that sentence alot when talking about me. Now god lads I'm hardly thin at my weight now, any other person looking at me would still say I'm fat. I don't think I'm been mad in wanting to get down to a normal BMI. This has already been explained loads of times to her. She's just so negetive !! Another thing she does is she keeps saying "oh I couldn't live like that" or " your struggling eating everything ", I'm sick of explains to her that I can't eat fast any more, I have to slow down. Now here's the thing. I was always the fattest girl in the group, now it's her. I really think she's been very negetive because she realises that I'm never going to be the fattest one again. Now obviously this has not been mentioned as I know how it feels to be the fattest girl on the block, but I'm running out of patience!!! She's driving me mad, any advice would be great before I say something il regret . Thanks for listening xxxx

Ah don't be so hard on your self, your doing great but if you dont give your self a day off now and again you'll go out of your mind. Good luck x

Elcee, I actually think your right on people now realising what is healthy/ size etc as I got that as well from my friends . They think I've lost enough weight even though I'm 14-16 European size now. I'm still way in the obese section of the grid, but you see they've always seem me big and have never seen me this small even though I'm still big. It's really weird that reality doesn't seem to hit home with them!!

Thanks for the replies girls. Yes I have alot of positive people around me and that's who I will concentrate on. Even speaking to my sister and she said, that none of the family were worried about me as they know I'm a person that will do what I say but that will be it. And I am like that, my so called friends also know this. I will get down to my goal weight but that will be it, I have no desire to be skinny, just healthy. I will see my 'friend' tonight as we do Pilates together, I was dreading it but this morning I'm like' what are you worried about , you've done and said nothing wrong'. Either way they'll both never hear about my weight lose again! Thanks so much for all the replies, I pray it doesn't happen to you. Xxxx

Well girls here's an update!!!! Went away with friends the other night and at 2 in the morning with a few drinks on her my other friend (best friend since we're kids) started to scold me about how I went under an operation and have 2 kids and how could I not think of them!!! Also how at just under 14 stone I have lost enough and not to lose any more! I said that I must have been a great topic of conversation for the 2 of my best friends to be going on about the same stuff and she confirmed that yes they've had many conversations about me, considering im their friend!!! I told her that it's not as if I want to get down to 9 stone and even when I get down to 11 and half stone il be barely in my BMI range but will be very happy with that . Nothing seemed to make a difference!!! Cos I had said already that il probably need another fill as I've losened out she said I'm becoming obsessed , I told her she doesn't understand the whole system of things, I've had 3 fills, had green zone but have losened out again, not by much but I get my fills free up till June and I want to make sure Im back in green zone before hand. Anyway I eventually gave up and said I was going asleep, but not before I got in about how unsupportive they were towards me and their 'concern' was unwarranted as this has to be the most healthiest way I've ever lost weight. I didn't say anything the next day but now I'm fumming!!!! Anyway I've decided that I'm never talking to either of them about my weight lose again, I can't take the negitivity. I have a family and other friends to talk to if needed. Anyway I hope none of you have to go through this, it's so horrible. X

Yep just back from my Pilates class and I'm a bit sore as I have been for the last 3 classes, I think it's just the muscle and the fact that I wouldn't use the muscle that often.

Wow !!!! What a post, I am inspired xxxx

Congrats, we'll done x

No gum, the other 2 im fine with.

Thanks so much for all the replies. You all have given me a lot to think about . I'm going to have a word with her in a nice way this weekend. I realise she's hurting in her own way but I need it to stop. It's very dishearten thinking your best friend is talking about you like that with out what others are saying. My other friend thinks this friend is worried about me that il go too thin but even after I told her my weight and what I will be at the end of this journey (11.7 stone) she said, il look decrepit !!!! That's a horrible word to use about anyone. I need to tell her how her words are effecting me and at that to just not talk about it anymore cause it's not as if she'll change my mind. Anyway thanks again, it's terrible to think that so many are going through this and all from our loved ones!!!

Thanks so much for all the replies. You all have given me a lot to think about . I'm going to have a word with her in a nice way this weekend. I realise she's hurting in her own way but I need it to stop. It's very dishearten thinking your best friend is talking about you like that with out what others are saying. My other friend thinks this friend is worried about me that il go too thin but even after I told her my weight and what I will be at the end of this journey (11.7 stone) she said, il look decrepit !!!! That's a horrible word to use about anyone. I need to tell her how her words are effecting me and at that to just not talk about it anymore cause it's not as if she'll change my mind. Anyway thanks again, it's terrible to think that so many are going through this and all from our loved ones!!!

I was a soda junkie!!! I thought I'd never be able to give it up but hey havnt had anything fizzy in 6 months!!! And never will.... All or nothing, she needs to commit.

Thanks Bev, everything your saying I can actually see in her, it's just getting very difficult because it's never ending. There's four of us girls that are friends and the other 2 are very postitive. We're going away to a hotel on a girlie night soon, so I might try have a chat as I'm sure she will bring up the subject again as she always does anyway. It's so difficult as I dont want to fall out with her. Any other suggestions welcome, has this happened to anyone else . You know my dietitian warned me about 'begrudgers' and I laughed it off!! God was I wrong!

Thanks girls, I feel a lot better today. It's not sore now, I just panicked as I'm afraid that il pull the band or break it some how from getting sick. I defo don't want to get sick ever again!!!! Very frightening!!!!!

Hi lads, I have band since July and I had a vommiting bug at the weekend and my stomach is so sore today . Feels like its bruised. Even when I was getting sick it was horrific, my whole stomach felt like it was coming out of my throat !!! Has anyone else been through this? I've no problem eating, it's just really sore. Any answers would be helpful, thanks x

It may take a whole for the swelling to go down as well, took mine about a week x

I was like this for a few days after my last fill at 7cc's now . I could get thin liquids down me though . I persevered and it loosened out a bit and now I have good restriction. Give it a few days but make sure you can drink water slowly, and even try hot soup, very thin, I find hot liquids loosen my band up. Now if you seriously can't get water down you go back , you'll end up dehidrated. Hope all goes well for you xx

I find a slice of toast and a poached egg is great, on the weekends, I have more time to eat it and relax, so it doesn't get stuck. Week days it's normally a cereal bar as that's all I can manage to get down. I eat pasta, sushi and most foods as normal. I find if I'm out I veer for fish as it goes down easy. I have a hard time with pork chops, rice(seems to get stuck) and probably a few other things but I can't remember. I'm sure I eat way more than half a cup, more like a child portion, half a cup seems way too small to me. I find in the mornings I'm not as hungry but can fit more into me in the evening, so it balances its self out. I'm half way through my weight lose and hope to get it off me by the summer. It's slow but I'm losing ever week and couldn't believe over the Xmas I put on a pound( lost it the week later) , it's normally a stone!!!! ( Xmas in Ireland lasts about 2 weeks) The important thing for me is to be able to enjoy life but doing it in smaller doeses!!! I have noticed I'm no longer that interested in food, sometimes I think I'm in a dream!!!!! Loving my band xxx enjoy what you want, a few carbs a day will do you no harm x

Just had my dinner can't believe how little I ate and I was so satisfied!!! I love my lapband xxxxx the first Xmas ever not worrying about putting on a stone!!! It's such a relief! Enjoy all xxx

Had 2 fills I'm at 6.5, I'm not yet at my green zone but don't think I'm too far away. Everyone's different.Y

Oh god get ready for hell !!! This part is a nightmare, waiting on your fill. I didn't get my first one for 9 weeks, I was pulling my hair out. Try think of the bigger picture. Just keep saying "this time next year". Good luck x. Btw, 2 fills down and Ive nearly 2 stone off so hang in there x

Oh god get ready for hell !!! This part is a nightmare, waiting on your fill. I didn't get my first one for 9 weeks, I was pulling my hair out. Try think of the bigger picture. Just keep saying "this time next year". Good luck x. Btw, 2 fills down and Ive nearly 2 stone off so hang in there x

I was the same I only lost A stone and put on 5 lb before my first fill, I just had my second and I'm down about 22 lbs. Only started to lose after my first fill but I lost a pound or 2 a week. I didn't really try too hard either. It's very hard the first few months, I went from been a very happy person to crying, angry, delirious!!!! Only when I got my fill and got some restriction did that stop. And no matter what anyone says, you do think your the one that will lose the weight quickly! Unfortunately it doesn't happen for alot of people until after a few fills. Good luck with your journey x

Cake girl I'm the same, I just had my second fill and I'm sitting her eating a salad and I've gad about 6 bits and I feel full. Its not bothering me at all that I can't eat it. . I'm hoping my tightness stays this way but it will probably loosen out a bit. It's great to not feel a slave to food anymore, it really was all I thought of!