i am a 39 yr old male 5'8 400 plus Dr told me i need to loose ALOT of weight within 5 yrs i will pass away i tried so many diets dr had me on so many diff ones also he wrote to the ins company stating i need the surgery and the ins company said NO WAY i also called and was told its MY FAULT for being this big so i am in a pickle why pay the ins company's so much money to be DENIED health saving surgery im @ my boiling point stuck back where i started what should a guy do ???