onebadkitty

I was in the Navy and I struggled to maintain my weight for years but I did it. I have steadily put on weight and I made excuses like the Bipolar meds made me gain weight, and quiting smoking made me gain weight. But the truth is that I overate and didn't excersize in addition to those things and a thyroid problem. Recently my little boy told me I had a fat belly. Now I know this is an understatement but it hurt coming from him. I remember thinking my Mom was a goddess, lol. My husband stopped being a husband and started being a freind a long time ago. He HATES people that are overweight, he even ostrasized his sister when she was young because she had a weight problem. He has learned to just not say anything to me, but I miss having a closeness that we don't have because I know what he thinks. It hurts, and is probably one of the key reasons that I overeat. When he says something or acts a certain way I eat.... alot. Shortly after we married, when I felt good about myself he informed me that if I was just skinnier I would be the person he really wanted. I was angry of course, I mean you don't marry an overweight girl and hope she gets skinny to be the person you want to love. I think subconsiously I decided that if I was skinny he didn't deserve me. And that was the start of the downward spiral. At the time I was 50 lbs overweight according to BMI, and since then I have put on more than 50 more lbs. He has always tried to push me out the door to go and work out because surely that would fix everything. It would have helped I am sure. When I did get out there and make the efforts to lose the weight he would not even give me a word of encouragement and I would give up and stop and gain it all back. Not that I made huge leaps and strides in the weight loss at the time. Well I found out I have blood sugar problems, cholesterol problems, sleep apnea, thyroid problems, I hate my body, I don't even like to see myself in a mirror or naked..... I am done. And when I lose the weight I don't know how I am supposed to feel about my husband. We'll cross that bridge when we get to it. But I want my sons to be proud of me, and I want to be able to look myself in the mirror again without cringing. I guess Iam just lucky that my insurance company didn't give me any problems when I finally made the decision to do this. My surgery is the 8th of March! It's almost here and I am ready. I WILL take back my life, and I will live a healthier life for myself and for my children.

Thank you to both of you who ecouraged me!! I had hoped this site would give the support I cannot find elsewhere, and it is showing me the human kindness that is out there for me. Lee

Thank you for the encouragement! I can only hope, pray and work at being one of these success stories!

I'm trying to do two shakes, a snack, and a sensible dinner. Does anyone know how much protein we should be trying to get in... and carbs under too?

My surgeon didn't tell me to go on pre-op diet either and I stressed reading all of those pre-op diet posts. My surgery is the 8th as well. I am doing 2 shakes a day a yogurt for a snack and a protein and salad, that's about it. I hope that I am doing the right things. I do know that after surgery I need to stay on the clear liquid diet. Good luck all!

I am getting banded on the 8th! I started trying to get this done in February of last year but I was transferring with my husband so my doctor said to wait until I got to my new duty station. Then I got here and the new doc blew me off with excuses about all the things that I would need to do to get the surgery. I eventually got a different doctor and asked her, she put it in right away and within a month I was approved for surgery. I didn't have to do all the jumping through hoops that alot of other do, so I got really paranoid that I thought my doctor was just rushing me to surgery. I have researched him and the band as much as I think possible at this point! My doctor didn't put me on an all liquid diet, and I found this forum where EVERYONE is on a liquid diet almost two weeks prior to surgery. So I started the diet with you guys it only seemed fair. Apparently at my weight I don't have to do it. I have to say that this is a challenge. I am the person that wakes up at midnight to eat. I know it's bad but I just couldn't control myself, learning to stop it now for sure. If I can't do this liquid diet how am I going to do the right things after I am banded? It's so close now I am seriously nervous to say the least, but excited as well. I hope that all these horror stories bypass me!

Does anyone know how to get that fish oil into their diet since the gel capsules are sooo big?

I have my surgery on the 8th of March! I am so excited and nervous. I just got scheduled Tuesday and my doctor made no mention of a pre-op diet. Now I am getting a little nervous about that since everyone else seems to have one. They are all different too. I went ahead and got soup, sf jello, V8, broth, and why protein powder and am gonna start tomorrow on a liquid diet. I am going to call my doctor's office tomorrow and see if this was some oversite because he gave me a packet with lots of information about after surgery just not before. Didn't even tell me just liquids on the day before surgery! I did know that already though. I have over 100 lbs to lose and a goal of running a 5k without stopping in the next 2-3 months! Bring on the skinny!! LOL!

Hi all! I too am getting banded on the 8th! So nervous and excited right now. My Dr didn't tell me anything about a diet before surgery, I wonder if that was a mistake on his part? Since everyone here seems to be doing it I guess I will try to do it too, can't hurt and I might lose some weight before surgery. I'd love someone to hold my hand on this new journey. So if anyone is interested I'll be your buddy! onebadkitty

Hi, my name is Lee Ann and I am having the surgery on the 8th of March. I am really excited and nervous, and there isn't anyone I know who has had this particular procedure. I have 100 lbs to loose and I am hoping some support and maybe some new friends can help me acheive my goals. I would love to have a buddy and a mentor if either of you are interested? I am a bit nervous and I keep reading all these posts about a pre-op diet. My doctor didn't mention a pre-op diet to me at all, nor did I read about it in all the information he provided me. Should I start a liquid diet since I am about 12 days out? My short term goal is obviously to lose weight, but I want to run a 5K without dying! I want to go to the bouncy house with my three year old and not feel like my heart is gonna beat right out of my chest and shortness of breath. Anyway if anyone would like to join me on my journey I'd love to be supportive and recieve support from someone who understands where I am coming from. onebadkitty