roadtodescent

I'm dating someone who has been banded for six months. She was banded while we were together. She was afraid to tell me at first as I am what people call "fat positive" and love her just the way she is. I accepted her choice but now feel that her restriction really gets in the way of so many of the things I feel couples should do with one another. I want to support her, but it becomes more and more difficult as I feel we can't really go out to eat, we can't have meals with friends, and we can't even eat at home without constant pbing or lack of eating. I'm sorry if I seem negative. I think I'm just really starting to realize how important a part of a relationship food is. How does a couple get past this? I love my girlfriend to death, but this kind of sucks.

HI! I just got banded on 2/17 and am so excited to find this section! My gf actually e-mailed it to me this morning, as she has taken it upon herself to learn everything about the lap-band out Anyways, I am 27, from Philadelphia and would love to chat with or meet anyone else who is around here. I am in NYC every other weekend since that is where my partner lives. I actually identify as Queer, but for the sake of labeling, I am a lesbian. Take care!

Oh so close to me! Sorry about your nerve damage! I am doing ok but I am so so hungry and so over shakes at this point. Have you started a blog about your band experience?

Hey Guys! I was banded on 2/17 too!!! I wish my doc would allow me to move onto mushies. Peace, I have started soups, and the salt from them is really satisfying. Tomato, butternut squash are the two I have tried but tonight I am going to make something involving cream of chicken. I don't know if that helps at all. Good luck! Warmest Regards, J http://roadtodescent.blogspot.com/

Hello! I am J and I am a 27 year old woman from Philadelphia, PA. I just got banded on Feb 17th, and am still adjusting to the fact that it has happened and this is real (For example, last night I had a nightmare that I missed my operation because I had to pee..I just can't grasp that it is done!) By day, I am a history teacher to amazing young high school students in North Philadelphia. My passion is urban education and using knowledge as a tool for social justice and empowerment. I am a far leaning leftie, and while I hope my students grow up to be critical thinking radicals, I do try to offer them many perspectives to everything we learn about. By night I am in a veryyyyy silly band which with 10 women who dress up and play music at shows, fundraisers, and events. We are a great time, and I play the keys. I have always been heavy and told that I have a beautiful face. To this day, hearing that I am beautiful is hard because I always feel like what the person is saying is...you are beautiful, now if you could just loose some weight. I am the oldest of 5, an emotional eater, and have struggled with an eating disorder for more than half of my life. Luckily for me, I have an amazing partner who is very supportive (she found me this link hahaha) I am excited to learn how to love my body, and not carry it around like a shame I can't shake. I have a blog: http://roadtodescent.blogspot.com/ if anyone cares to follow me. I could really use support, since this is harder than I imagined it would be... Take care, j

I am so sorry to hear you are feeling like this! I am a newbie, so I have nothing to offer you for advise but I needed to let you know, we are lap-band twins! I got banded last thursday as well, so I feel connected to you. i hope you are feeling better today, and that your doctor helps you. If you ever need support, I am on the same page as you, so feel free to hit me up, on this or on my blog: http://roadtodescent.blogspot.com/ Take care of yourself, j

Hi! Yes yes yes! I do. To everything you just wrote. I just got banded last week, and a part of me struggles with: 1. How will people view me now, I have always been the sweet fat girl 2. how will I view me now? 3. How will my fat community view me now? I know I am turning my back on the body positivity movement, and falling into the social structures placed on women, and part of me feels like I am taking feminism/body issues two steps back, but another part of me just wants to shake the years of insecurity and self-loathing that I hide under makeup and a warm personality. I deserve to feel so proud of who I am, and not only for the things I have done, but also for the way I look. It's true that I am a sell-out and that feels shitty but. I deserve to feel good. God knows it's hard enough being queer in the world. I don't know it that helps at all, but know you are not alone! take care, j http://roadtodescent.blogspot.com/

Hi I am Joy. I am a 27year old from Philadelphia. I will be getting banded in a few weeks, and was wondering if there were any queer or radical or lefties out there to talk to. I want to create a support community via the internet and was wondering who's out there? Also, I started a blog.... its not like me to be so open, but if it keeps me accountable, why not! http://roadtodescent.blogspot.com/ Hope you are well, Joy