YOU SAY FAT LIKE IT'S A BAD THING! Being fat does not make you a bad person or a failure, yes it's bad for your health, but you are who you are, fat or not. I was Banded to get healthy, I made peace wih being fat a long time ago. Be ok with who you are,yes decide to lose weight, yes get healthy, but you are ok no matter what anyone else says. You are the same soldier, wife, mother and friend you have always been. You are entitled to have pitty parties now and then, but do not hold yourself down. Enjoy, life is short.