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Hello, I was banded on May 5th, but I spent about two years deciding if I should do it. I had all the that stuff going through my head....I am a failure, because I can't just do it myself, people are going to judge me.....blaa blaa blaa blaa. Then I started thinking about why I wanted to get the lap band....I am 42, 246 at start 214 now and have been heavy all my life with the exception of about 4 times when I lost it all...only of course to gain it all back and then some. I have back problems, and basically my whole body hurts, I miss out on life because I don't do things cause I can't. I knew I looked forward to a short life with many medical problems and getting to be that fat Aunt in the flowery moo moo that sits in the corner because she can't do anything else. I also have a 7 year old who deserved better than what I am able to give her. Ok.. now that sounds like a pretty good reason to get the band....who can argue with that...I mean REALLY who could argue or judge me for wanted to have a better healthier life for ME and my family. So the guilt of why couldn't I just stop eating....just do it...the judgement of "she had to have surgery to lose weight". Of all the people who lose a significant amount of weight a full 95% will gain it back within 5 years...95%!!!! That means of 100 people who "just stop eating...exercise and just do it" only 5 will keep the weight off...so really is it failure???? Why would we think we were failures when 95% of people are not able to be successful? Do you think that those others are "failures", no so why are we so hard on ourselves about it? So at first I only told a few people who I knew would be supportive and then I told everyone, fellow colleagues, friends, strangers (kidding not strangers) and I said it in a way that I was excited and that I had made a GREAT decision to have the surgery and how much I looked forward to feeling better etc. so how could they say anything but "oh good for you". And you know what anyone who has talked behind my back in judgement would have been talking about me behind my back anyway about how fat I am and what I put in my mouth that day anyway! So why would I care what they thought....they are only talking about me because it is away for them to feel better about themselves because they do not feel good about themselves and at least they can say ya but she is fat..... It is not about me it is about them and how they feel about themselves, if I had lost the weight by "just doing it" they would probably come up with something else to say about me. Remember those who really care about you will be happy for you. Be proud of yourself you made hard life changing decision to take control of your health you deserve to feel great and excited about it!!!!! As we know the band is not the easy way out it is just a tool to help with weight loss we still have to eat right and exercise. Cheers, Tamie

Hello, I was banded on May 5th, but I spent about two years deciding if I should do it. I had all the that stuff going through my head....I am a failure, because I can't just do it myself, people are going to judge me.....blaa blaa blaa blaa. Then I started thinking about why I wanted to get the lap band....I am 42, 246 at start 214 now and have been heavy all my life with the exception of about 4 times when I lost it all...only of course to gain it all back and then some. I have back problems, and basically my whole body hurts, I miss out on life because I don't do things cause I can't. I knew I looked forward to a short life with many medical problems and getting to be that fat Aunt in the flowery moo moo that sits in the corner because she can't do anything else. I also have a 7 year old who deserved better than what I am able to give her. Ok.. now that sounds like a pretty good reason to get the band....who can argue with that...I mean REALLY who could argue or judge me for wanted to have a better healthier life for ME and my family. So the guilt of why couldn't I just stop eating....just do it...the judgement of "she had to have surgery to lose weight". Of all the people who lose a significant amount of weight a full 95% will gain it back within 5 years...95%!!!! That means of 100 people who "just stop eating...exercise and just do it" only 5 will keep the weight off...so really is it failure???? Why would we think we were failures when 95% of people are not able to be successful? Do you think that those others are "failures", no so why are we so hard on ourselves about it? So at first I only told a few people who I knew would be supportive and then I told everyone, fellow colleagues, friends, strangers (kidding not strangers) and I said it in a way that I was excited and that I had made a GREAT decision to have the surgery and how much I looked forward to feeling better etc. so how could they say anything but "oh good for you". And you know what anyone who has talked behind my back in judgement would have been talking about me behind my back anyway about how fat I am and what I put in my mouth that day anyway! So why would I care what they thought....they are only talking about me because it is away for them to feel better about themselves because they do not feel good about themselves and at least they can say ya but she is fat..... It is not about me it is about them and how they feel about themselves, if I had lost the weight by "just doing it" they would probably come up with something else to say about me. Remember those who really care about you will be happy for you. Be proud of yourself you made a hard life changing decision to take control of your health you deserve to feel great and excited about it!!!!! As we know the band is not the easy way out it is just a tool to help with weight loss we still have to eat right and exercise. Cheers, Tamie