missmeow

Hourglass before and after.

It's better to be at a stable weight and then lose a little after surgery. If you are within 10% of your goal, you should be fine. Or at least that's the general consensus at realself.com

I would plan it for at least a year post-op. You will be going through a lot of physical and psychological changes. A lot of people break-up or get divorced. I would not add the pressure of a wedding potentially make things worse. The surgery can also bring people closer together too. But I would give it at least a year.

Your body will adjust. You're more likely to have the issue of not losing 100% or regaining than losing too much.

No, it doesn't stretch. The stretchy part is gone. Over time, you will be able to eat more because your stomach (pylorus) gets better at processing your food (you won't have to chew to mush forever either). Eating and drinking is not advised for two reasons: early post-op, it hurts because your food sits longer and you don't have the space. It HURTS bad if you do too big of a sip. Later on, it isn't good because it flushes food trough faster and you end up eating more or getting hingry sooner.

Eat your protein focus on veggies a little later. You can add one or two bites for variety bit at 6 weeks, I was still only wanting softies like cottage cheese and yogurt.

Get rid of it and go buy clothes that fit. There is nothing worse for your brain to have thinner you wearing fatter you clothes. I'm two years out and had a big purge in September-ish.

I'm thinking of fillers and maybe ulterapy for my little chin. But if I go in for plastics, I was thinking a mini lower face lift would pull everything back and keep it in place longer. I'm 37 and people say I look younger, but I can see it and I would rather not.

My surgeon/surgery group does not assign a goal weight. The only goal given to us is to have a BMI under 30 as 30 is where all the health problems start. I first set my goal at 140lbs, then 125lbs. I am wavering between 3-5lbs within my goal weight. I did not do any crazy "no carbs" or "5 day pouch tests." I pretty much focus on Protein first and watch what I eat. Some days I do better than others but I have not gained any weight and am still losing maybe 1-2lbs a month if I do nothing. I am not concerned with the scale so much anymore as I am with getting on a regular, sustainable workout routine and gaining muscle and shrinking my body overall. Eating less food or dieting as this point is just going to make my skin looser and my body flabbier. I think my new stretch goal is 110-120lbs but with definition.

Healthy habits, hands down. I make decisions based on the food available and what is best for me most of the time. Of course that doesn't stop me from eating a half a bacon cheeseburger junior at 5 guys once in awhile. That's when the restriction helps remind me of portion control

12 months out. It depends on what it is and how much it mushes down and travels through. My stomach empties or starts emptying around 15-20 minutes. Popcorn, it seems like I ca n eat an endless amount. I can eat half a sandwich if I take out the lettuce. I can eat a whole orange. I can eat about 4 oz of dense Protein and a bite of something else.

No regrets. I will say this though. I took my time to decide and mentally prepare for what I was going to face. My pre-op liquid diet wasn't difficult. I didn't lick Doritos or cheat. It was pretty easy because I food funeraled to the point where I didn't ever want to eat again. It was part of my process. My post-op...well, post-op sucks for the first month or two. It isn't too bad when you're in it as I had no issues and I felt great at the time. But in retrospect, yeah it sucks. Not going to lie. So don't use the first two months as your measuring stick because it's not how you will be a year out. My travels with the sleeve have been pretty good. It's my stomach but smaller. I get the same satisfaction from food just in the lesser quantity. At about 4 months out, I pretty much was eating most anything but I did hold off on a few things until 6 months. From then on, anything goes. I have had no vomiting or dumping poops or anything bad. I think it has been pretty easy going for me because I was mentally prepared. And then the worst parts weren't so bad, it was really easy. I think the people who struggle maybe haven't spent as much time preparing themselves mentally? So my advice is to be 100% sure you are ready and then go for it 100%. So when people get mad because someone tells them they took the easy way out, I kind of laugh because for me, it has been easy. It's like I am how I should have always been, if that makes sense. I love it

People are assholes and bashing fat people is the last acceptable prejudice.

My only advice is do not get fixated on ultra strict dieting and losing all your weight in 6 months. IMO, that is just as bad as the opposite and that is how most of us ended up fat in the first place. Follow your rules and get your Protein in first, then veggies, then fruit, and last any starches. If you're eating a snack of fruit, eat a mini babybel with it for protein. Don't feel you can't eat a cookie or popcorn. You can, but you have to give yourself a portion and stick to it. It's about balance. I think so many of us follow these ultra strict diets and then when the weight is off we feel like "yay! I can eat again!" But that is the thinking that got us fat in the first place. If you relearn to eat right, eat to satiety, and balance your diet, you may lose slower than some of the other people but I believe your chances of regain will be a lot less because you won't be tempted to stuff yourself and hide food because there is no longer "forbidden fruit' in your diet. Also, exercise that builds muscle is key. I am speaking in general here and am not commenting on any specific post. I read about food hiding but I think is something many of us have done so it's not directed to you Dooter

I had my one year about 2 days ago. 233 pre-op, 138 at one year, 83% excess weight loss, which my surgeon said was what they usually see for bypass and is really good for sleeve. My original goal was 140, my revised goal was 125, and now I might try for 120. My plan does not set a weight goal, I do. The only goal or measure of success is "no longer obese." I lost most of it in the first six months. I was about 165 in September, so about 30lbs in 6 months, which is a steady, healthy weight loss. My only advice is do not worry about how fast you go. Long-term, if you relearn how to eat and where satiety is for you, how to balance your diet and stay out of crazy dieting you will lose and you will keep it off. If these forums are pushing you to feel bad or do crazy dieting, find other support because that is only hurting you.