I think I'm the first "guy" to comment here. I honestly thought I was a freak and feel so bad for my wife. I haven't had a sex drive for years. She keeps asking (gently) and I always find a reason to say no. I always used the excuse that I felt to fat and as soon as the weight comes off things will change. I'm happy to say, I'm booked to be banded on January 19 in Toronto. Big step - then little steps - right?
Anyway, I just wanted to provided a male perspective and thank the original poster for the topic.
Wish me luck.