peacequeen

I bet if you ask the son if it hurts that the man he knows as daddy left him he would say yes..I don't respect that. He could've done it differently. You don't just walk out on a person and a child. Being there for 6 years makes it even more difficult to bear. My youngest son went through absense of his father for a long time, it really messed him up. There is no excuse for just walking out. You hit the nail on the head when you said "he chose to support a child"...he should've done the responsible thing and at least said goodbye..my gosh.

No, he's not here to defend himself because this is HER board..SHE reached out to us..we give the support here based on the needs of the poster. All I read is how he dumped on her so I'm giving support to her to help her through this tough time..we can only assume that she is telling her side the way it actually is..he skipped out on her, skipped out on her son..who he was supposedly a dad to (I take this kinda personal for my own reasons)..she's made numerous attempts to reach out to him to talk it over and he keeps bailing on her..now which part is he supposed to be respected for? I'm missing something.

It sounds like you're doing everything right,,probably why you don't ever feel full because you are measuring, etc..I do much better when I measure..5 oz or less for me.

I have a 12 year old as well..it's a tough age, you did the right thing letting your son stay with family while you get yourself together. Also, it sounds like you have a good plan to stay with your family. You have the answer but might be having a hard time letting go because that will mean it's over. I agree with those who said he obviously isn't the love of your life or else he'd still be around and supporting you at a time that you need it the most..and to turn away from your child, that would just make me angry. Put your son first and focus on yourself and healing. You really should get out of that bed and do some walking,,you won't do anyone any good if your health suffers. Show this guy that you are stronger than him and that you can carry on and survive without him. Depend on yourself, have confidence that you can take care of you and your son. Lying in bed and yearning for him to come back is probably what he thinks your doing..I'd do the exact opposite to piss him off.

In the beginning I had to use the protein shots. Some have 25-50g in them. Most of them taste nasty so I would add it to my crystal lite and drink it throughout the day.

I eat most anything I want but in moderation and smaller amounts. I also excercise regularly..at least 5 times a week. I'm losing weight but slowly. I've changed alot of things that are bad for me to healthier options. Have any of you changed everything you eat to nothing but healthy foods or are you doing the same as me? I'm a slow loser so I'm trying to get my head right and do the right thing..even 6 months out I'm trying to figure out the right thing to do for me. Some say losing slow is the way to go but I'd like to pick up the losing pace so if anyone has suggestions on what I can change, it would be really helpful.

I understand your not wanting to go to the hospital but you NEED to go asap. You're having the same symptoms I had with a leak. Please keep us posted, I'll keep you in my prayers.

I went camping,,swam, hiked,,sweat like a pig but ate like one (more like a piglet) too so didn't lose an ounce this week,,but didn't gain either..lol

Get your bloodwork done and that will probably answer alot of your questions. I feel miserable when my Vit D is low and sometimes it takes large doses to level it out. I do agree with the carb theory though.

I went from 234.8 down to 232.6 for a 2.2 pound loss this week

Tonight my 12 year old nephew said "wow Aunt Karen,,you look like you've lost alot of weight,,you look really great". It's nice when anyone says you look great,,it's a real joy when it's a child.

I got mine on amazon..got it in 2 days..about $20 cheaper than the infomercial. They have them on ebay too.

I'm not sure how this works but going for it. I'm just 5 mths 3 wks out so I'm not quite an expert. I'm kinda looking for a mentor,,someone who has had the surgery and close to or met goal to help me with motivation and support.

Awesome,,now what do we do?lol I guess I can tell you a little about the way I operate after being sleeved. I eat healthy 90% of the time, that 10% is the part of me that the surgery didn't fix. I excercise regularly (however, I have a bummed up leg right now so I'm limited) I'm doing mostly upper body strength for now and some treading Water in the pool. I still fall victim to occasionally over eating or eating too fast. That area is what I need to work on the most. I am a slow loser and I'm ok with that as long as I can keep my mood up. I am one of those that weigh daily. I have my own reasons for doing that. I journal what I weigh, eat and write about my daily activities as well as how I may be feeling about life in general. Goodness you've done really well! Congrats on so much success!

I have the workout dvd program..it's insane..for me anyway. I'm not quite ready for it.

absolutely!

My hair is still falling out but I already have hair growing back,,if I pull my hair back,,lots of fuzz.lol It's supposed to take a couple weeks for me to notice anything with the biosil. I'm not expecting it to magically grow hair but to help my hair to be healthy,,maybe stop it from falling out so much. I have a double whammy because I have a bad thyroid If you're wearing your ponytail high, try lowering it to your neck to take some of the stress off of it.

Here's another article I found randomly online from the Los Angeles Times, you don't have to read it but I wanted to share,,I found it interesting http://journalstar.com/lifestyles/health-med-fit/article_74afaec1-aa07-573a-b043-05c983f23f35.html

Benjammin,,congratulations! It's great that works for you. It was in the "Reader's Digest". My doctor said daily weigh in is fine as long as I'm losing and it works for me. That doesn't make me a control freak,,no need to name call. I've spent 47 years yo-yoing and I would go long periods of time without weighing myself,,when I finally buckled down and did it,,I had gained ALOT. Staying on top of it daily is a reminder for me and I log it as well as what I eat each day. I think it's up to the individual. I would agree that more than once a day is more than enough.

I love mederma scar treatment. My scars have lightened so much, I'm really pleased how it is working. They make mederma stretch marks therapy but I've never used it.

I admit it, I weigh everyday..just once first thing in the morning. I go pee then weigh in my bra and panties. If I'm gaining I know I need to work harder. I do it because I read a health article that said it's wise to weigh everyday so you can stay on track. It works for me and is a part of my daily routine and journal log. The only thing I would suggest is don't become obsessed with the scale like weighing after every meal,,morning, noon and night. I do hate when the scale tips upward but that makes me even more determined to keep it downward.

I get this feeling if I eat too much or too fast. I did my own way of measuring my stomach by eating a 6 oz container of yogurt to see exactly how much I could get down and be comfortably full. I weighed the amount left over and had an ounce left so I knew my tummy would hold 5 ounces. I have to be careful with things that are dense or that swell,,like carbs and meat because even though they are light in weight, they have volume. As long as I follow the 5 oz rule, I don't get the stuck feeling. It took me a while to get used to solids again,,just a suggestion but ease into it with softer foods..scrambled eggs, cottage cheese,, fish,,chicken (not if it's dry,,yikes!), soups..you get the idea. Make sure you chew, chew, chew,,then chew some more.lol