Lee4love1

I can just look in the mirror at the store and know--then know why my lap band is less than 3 weeks away....

Yes...that would be the greatest thing I have passed on info to a few of my heavy weight friends --like me..But I get excuses like---Can I eat my barbecue anymore? "Baby food-oh I can't do that"...I said--for maybe 2 weeks of your life, you can't eat soft mushy food to save your life? So--I say this---Maybe the wrong people are hearing this from me....

I decoded to have the surgery because--My adult life was good at 145 to 165 pounds...Then at age 32--I started to have strange things go wrong with my thyriod...No dr would tell me much...I was skinny--to --fat--skinny to fat....I'd lose 60 pounds--gain 50....lose 75...gain 85 over a period ogf 6 months...After going through this for years---I made a point to bust butt in the gym---I had at least 4 weight lost failures over the years. Anyway--3 years ago--I was going to get the band...As a Husband at the time--my wife said she'd leave me and she wouldn't support my choice. Lke a "FOOL"--I listened and stopped persuing that. Dumb choice...Finally I found out the reason--My wife--(ex-wife now-than you Lord) Told me she liked me to stay big and fat...even though I was having multiple health issues. She even complained about me spending more than 45 minutes at the gym...It takes me almost 15 minutes to change into Gym clothes....Anyway--from her complaints--plus more--a divorce was in there... Now after a 2005 Divorce--I finally have gone the total workup for this lap band. Finally I am ready for my surgeons appointment next week--to set a date. I am tired of high blood pressure, sleep apnea and the pain in my joints. Plus after I saw what total sitting on the butt can do to me---this from seeing my 2 brothers (1 and 2 years younger than myself). Over 400 pounds and just short of 370 lbs...I actually got scared even more. The fact that I am the oldest in my family and next to the smallest--even though I am 270...What the hell? I said to myself...It's time I do something radical to help me. So it's time to forget and close off my ears to what my ex said and my mother and family. Am I getting support? Oh no--All I am hearing is--"You gonna look sick or you gonna be too skinny" Thank God--I have the means to get it done. To deal with the Jealousy--I will ignore them all if need be...Lastly--I read a story on here that was saying---"I don't know what to do--my Mom and Dad wants the band taken out"....The young lady has a hernia near--so from being banded and losing weight--she's gotten sicker....I say--fix the hernia--then tuck on to a new weight and new life....peace

There is a Man out here who is about to be banded by March 15th--he lives in Hernando, MS--I see my surgeon on Feb-28th--next wednesday...I am a single Father of 2-little guys--8 and 10. I am constantly asked--why I am not married. I have chosen to wait until I am banded to even look. But from March 15th til I find her--I'll be on the market....I hope I find a lady who is going strong like me....I will place my phone of me now on here--which I am 270...but my goal will be 163...I am at that 40 BMI now....I am looking forward to kicking butt after the lap band is inserted....contact me here or privately.....

Have any of the Guys who's been banded for a time--made new connections as in Romance? Plus--have you sw the Women who looked the other way--now looking your way?

Oh...yes I recall hearing that from a few of my Lady friends. I am not their boyfriend, but I hear--"You will not want me--cause I am a larger Woman. One lady who says this--size 16 at 5'10"--now I am just 5'9" at 270--I still think it's beneficial to my health as I am about 25 days away from being banded....Now that I say I am getting banded--she says--"maybe it's time I do the same"...mmmm--makes me wonder

If you have a guy like him--appreciate his gesture and ignore him until the cows jump over the moon. I have been with a Woman like that. I was going through my weight loss without banding--each time my wife got a chance to see me naked--she said I looked sick or something close to it. Avoid these people--trust me--My divorce was well worth it....I am getting banded within 20 days

In my case--I am not going to get banded and lose weight because something tastes bad. I am doing it to prolong life and have a better quality of life. if something tastes bad--so what?? If I pay for it---I will bear with it and do the right thing. You can mix it in with your food in the am--you can mix it with your protien drink, you can mix it with your water of juice--but by God be brave--don't wimp out..do the thing

Just get your doctor to check it--later for the fake doctors running around....make sure that your Dr is aware---let these other folks deal with it....we all have do what makes us happy

Well...Like in Baseball--I am on deck--surgeons apptment--next week--28th Feb....I am going to try for a friday of the 9th or the 16th.....well--I have to see what's open..Lee

Dr Weaver-McGraff is Located in Memphis, TN at the St Francis Hospital==at the Bariatric Center there. It's about 30 miles from me. So I have to cross over to the next state--but it's ok by me. I was told by the Program director--withing 2 weeks after I see her(the Dr)--I'll be scheduled for the surgery.. I am trying to prepare my mind now for the lifestyle change. I am still finding myself hungry on a few days too, but I have been eating lighter. Plus--the band will give me relief from that hunger pain--thank God. I will not say too much to those "So called Friends of Mine"--who all said it was a waste of time or they heard it's dangerous--I will just show them. It's hard to convince folks who don't know our struggle. I am in the mindset to lose the weight and achieve max results. they said 2 pounds was the Max--but as I have read numerous articles on the lap band and have read sooo many results all over the net--there are people doing excellant and getting at 3 pounds a week and maintaining that for 9 or 10 months before theylevel off to a managble 1.5 to 2 a week. My goal--to have a reasonable amount loss by December. I know the "new Lee" is in there waiting to pop out...lol....I hope it's possible to have at least a 65 to 75 pounds loss in 9 months.....I will keep you informed....Peace

Oh....don't misunderstand me...Since I left my Goverment Job--I have Medicare and Blue Cross and BLue Sheild....When this is a fact and you retired due an injury--Medicare is the Primary insurance that controls the total deal I pay close to $500 a month in insurance--but here is this $98 insurance trying to stop me. Oh--I went on just last week and got 5 years of my weights and measures. They wanted at least 3 weight loss failures. My old Drs and new ones got them 6 years of medical facts. My surgery is on. I see Dr Weaver-Mcgraff on 28-Feb. She will gve me a few dates that is good....I am ready for this 9 days to pass. I am looking forward with a possible March 3rd through the 15th date.....So since I overcame the red tape...I am A-OK now....Lee

I got to be real honest. If my Libido gets higher after a 100 pounds weight loss....I may look for a younger Woman to have me some kids--besides me having two that I am raising now. Being a Single Dad does have it's advantages. On the other hand about percentages--I see that the same thing is going on in the "St Francis Bariatric Center of Memphis, TN"--70% Women and 30% Men are getting all three types of surgical weight loss done. It's a shame that Men lose their lives from something that can now be fixed. "Oh--I was serious about having maybe 2 more kids". I have been friends to a few Filipino Girls who is looking to start a family. I smile at the idea. Who knows--maybe I can be a great Father--even though I am going to be 50 in June. My Libido is kind of low now, but every now and then--I have some rough days and nights--so I know it's there-I have to be thankful a cold shower works 80% of the time-My Body just waiting for me step out of this old one into the new Me :clap2: in 08....

well...she wanted that $175,000 life insurance he had. Then she did the breast implants---then had affiars with some of his friends---so called friends. Oh, I was a apart of that world of the rough and tough. Where we'd do a lot of things with any feeling for the next Man But for me--even as I learned to inflict death as a soldier. It's ever got that deep. Nicole hung around the wrong snakes...LL

Money drives the world.......I can't see anyone who I claim to love--dyin just so I can get my hands on $450M...Then again--I am only one Man saying what I feel. Our world is filled with monsters who say they are Human

You want to know why she hated her Mom so much??? Well I can't answer that question for her--she's gone on. I know that from where I 've been at in the world--I could easily be a hater of my Mother. But I have said--"Lee think, then forgive".How would you feel-- if you went to visit--but seen this: $50,000 on your picture then you realize your insurance policy is for $50,000(back in the day of that amount) What would you think your Mom was hoping on someday???... Some of us forgive and some of us stay away from such non-sense. So instead--I moved out of my area so I could at least 1,000 to 1600 miles away from where I grew up at. Time doesn't always heal wounds, but distance can sure make you calm. It's a possibility she told her Daughter--"You aint gonna amount to nothing". Then Nicole left and never looked back....Come on--we need to scope out the whole picture.:faint:

Here's my story: I was right at 170 to 180 pounds back in 1995 a few years after my Army days. I had no problem with getting a Woman or a date for that matter. Then I met my children's Mom right after I had started to experience back problems. I had explained to her--how the military service had caused it. She insisted she was a bit phased. We soon was pregnant with child. My son was born in June of 1996. I went back to work without a problem mid 1995. within 3 years--I have major problems. I started to m7y weight go up to, due me always missing work for back pain. In July 1998 I had to have surgery. All of a sudden at the end of 1998 I was totally unappealing. I found out my thyroid was almost asleep. I started on thyroid meds. Soon I got the cold shoulder. During this time--a second child was born. Speeding up a bit--she walked out, complaining hot big and fat I had got--how I was just 1/2 a Man. I went through the up and down weight slide. Down to 250, back up to 300. Tried this diet and that diet. Nothing worked, When I kicked butt with a serious weight loss in 2003--My knee was gone. A full knee replacement, then a second neck surgery. Yes I am disabled, But I pride myself on bouncing back. Now I am 270 and holding. My ex-wife saw me in 2005 and claimed I was l0ooking good. No way I could go back. The mral of the story is, with all of my surgeries, weight gain, weight loss and medical issues. I can't blame my ex-wife. The best thing that came out of it--winning hild custody of my 2 sons--now soon to be and 11 years old. Now I am not even attempting to get a new wife nor girlfriend. I am totally focused on my weight loss--getting the "Lap Band"--even as the medicare policy has changed with the new cuts. I can't blame the ex because--Many years ago before my Marriage. I was really feeling good about this Woman I knew. We attempted dating--but she said --No, No, No. She was like a fit size 8 to 10. But all of sudden she started to gain weight. She had developed Hyperthyroidism--where you lose weight. So her Dr has to place her the meds to gain weight back. Since that is not a clear cut science--she went from that 1o to a large 20 as I would guess. I saw her--I was trying to get away from her. So would I expect someone to date me due to my weight loss and not date me now--again my answer is maybe. I know how folks feel since I have gone from skinny to fat and back.....

$$$$--this is the true motivation. I was thinking of the Eddie Murphy and Martin Film--"LIFE". In a scene where one of the immates got the wardens Daughter pregnant....They're going down the line holding the baby to each immates face--(they're black)--But the funny part...They are asked--who's that babies Daddy? Before you know it...almost 10 Men step forward--"I'm dat Babies Daddy"----funny it's not with Nicole--but this is going to be one helluva life story

Although my surgery may be on hold....I talked to a few people about my surgery. I know and fear a few will give me a few looks after a good weight loss. Actually with me being just 107 lbs over-weight. I am not sure if I would. It would depend on my feelings on that day.....

Dead at 39..such a shame, I think of a report on "Gerald Levert". Overdosed on prescription pain killers and over the counter medications. I fear that Nicole played with the drugs she had. Then with her Man or so called husband helping to supply her with a Dr or prescrition(not to mention her son in the past 4 months). She got out of this life--not on her own. She thought nothing with happen--even as her own Mom told her......Something is very suspicious on all of this mess. All of sudden she has 3 Men stepping up. Last thought--they had parties where drugs were there--she had sex with Men with some sort of power--or so she thought. Life comes at you fast--or have you leave here fast

It makes me wonder...The Program director asked my regular Drs office to submit my entire records to them. They didnt want to lose me or others to the red tape. I got a letter yesterday--asking me to submit a menu to them for the surgery. This is saying, they are trying to make this happen. This is also confusing. I took my program fee money and put it back into the bank. The letter says they wanted me to submit a menu of what I'd eat with the Pereed foods for 3 days, then turn it in to them. The an education check list--well I forgot to turn in. So as I know it--they are hoping that I can still go through with my lap band....let's all hope I can get it next manth than in May...

Millions of Dollars have been cut off the Medicare and Medicaid budget. Now the Medicare who controls my fate--even with BC/BS as my secondary. So I find out as thursday--Now medicare wants at least 1/2 a tear of weight loss failure reports. So now--again--blocked for a possible 3 months. Well all is not loss....I have to get my Dr and Nurses Practioner to write up that from my records---Hopefully I have 6 months of weights and reason why it failed...:faint:

Millions of Dollars have been cut off the Medicare and Medicaid budget. Now the Medicare who controls my fate--even with BC/BS as my secondary. So I find out as thursday--Now medicare wants at least 1/2 a tear of weight loss failure reports. So now--again--blocked for a possible 3 months. Well all is not loss....I have to get my Dr and Nurses Practioner to write up that from my records---Hopefully I have 6 months of weights and reason why it failed...

New stumbling block.....Medicare wants 6 months of weight loss tries.....Today I find it out as I enter the nutrition class. I am hoping that since I have been going to my Dr. for more than 1 year....I will have enough weights to give them 6 months....What a gip. Too many people now have the surgery--but they regain the weight again. At least that is what I was told. They want us to be serious...with me being over weight since 1997 and trying this and that to drop it....I have to say---it's been many trials

If all things look well....I could be down to 40 more days. Meaning--at the most--March 15th. Now that my foot is more than in the door. I have the surgeons appointment and now I will be starting out on my new journey of life. I have a plan now---teaching my soon to 11 and 9 y/0 olds to cook. I have started them with stir fry veggies. next--more healthy food choices..... Yes--I met a few ladies at the dietician class who was struggling with finance. They had to pay of of pocket too. I felt bad...but each of us have a different thing....Whatever comes up--I am still apart of this board....