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I want to thank you all for your being insode of my head. Even as I tried to spark some debates--there are people now saying i am sooo horny--with what?? Now you say--I want a Woman doing my housework--as if my ex-wife did it at all. But--I see the deal--you're upset that a Man has brain or idea's....Thank you all again for having me on here---No more posts for braibless person I am---Oh yes--I am sooo horny--let's not forget that too...Last thing--I live in a place with 90% single Women--if I was horny--I am sure I could get the hook up--right?

The last two entries are so correct when I was in a larger city. I moved here and my lord--it seemed like I have a desease or something. But that doesn't mean I am living in never ever land. I just may live in a place that too small and many of the ladies are different--maybe that is what it is. Don't worry--I'm not discouraged at all...things all work themselves out in time...

It's July 16th--I may need a new fill. I now feel I ate more to fill up and I will ask for a new apointment. I'll wait out the week and see how I feel...It's getting harder to fill myself--but I will see what happens,,,

There you go--Susan you are there with the real ballistics..I have written the different threads to spark a lot of controversy. Never did I mean to harm a soul. What's wrong with raising our levels of consiousness? If I met a woman of any race, color, creed or religion--it really doesn't matter. If we all follow certain social trends--it's all ok. But once we step away from our "Racial Boundries"--we find out many of the people feel proud to walk up and say dispicable things. I am so glad--My skin is thick... Edie--you like being who you are--stay that way...makes the world a better place that we're all different.

Now I am a fruit loop and not a real man..mmmm I guess I will accept your name calling and become your B****--right? NOT-!!! That is why it's a debate area. I see that the few who's responded don't know what a real debate is. I am sure--you're going to both find real Men, someday.... I won't go any further--since there is 75% ladies with the lap band and only 25% Men who got the Lap band done. I am so proud to say--whoever I am --I feel good raising my kids alone without the so called Women here--

It clearly says- "Off -Topic Debate Area".Off topic means--anything not having to do with the Lap Band. Come on--sisn't my controversal subject having to do with life it's self? Each subject area--I've experienced in my klife of 50 years. I've dated the White Women, Asian, dated Women since I am a single Dad and more. Why can't I wake up the people who is consious in our Lap Band area? Oh yes--if I do lapband, lapband, lapband---that will make you happy?? It says--off topic--which means I can do as many as I can--when I can...It seems to me that there are many people here of different races...How do I know--because I know a few on here in person

That's a lot of kids who don't have solid Parents...You have be dedicated no matter if you have 1 or 17...It's a job that is tough and can be hard for some...

I learned an important lesson as a soldier back in the 70's and 80's. A Sargeant Major taught us young soldiers a class once about--"Prior Preparation Prevent Poor Performace'. It has stuck to me like glue--maybe 75 to 80% of my past 26 years. When I set my mind out to do something--I investigate it--I research it and ask for opinions--like I am doing here. Like the "Lap Band Surgery". I did much preparation before 2007. I wanted to know if it benefited me and my 2 sons. Then I found a place that accepted me. The same goes with a Woman who is of Foreign origin. I have talked to many many Filipino's, Chinese, Japanese and some girls of Thailand. I have not only used the internet--I have used my Cell phone, the email and regular Mail. During my weeks gone by--I communicate with a few of them ladies you;re speaking of. I am fully aware of how things change over a set period of time. My mind set is not--"My way or the high way".. It's all about the total freedom of what love offers. I have dated too many Women over the years to know that I can't be "bull-headed" or "Stubborn". A lady has to be a lady and she has a brain too. I want the Woman in my life to express her feelings, offer her opinions on all things that is centered around our lives. If I wanted a Woman who is very much--one sided. I am sorry yo say--I could stay right here and look for the first one who see's me dressed in nice clothes and see's the car I drive. Then I'll know the lady I'll have--money-$$$ signs she'd be dreaming. I am well equipped with a Blue Cross/Blue Sheild Insurance--I have the family option--since I am a single Father. Adding a wife and a step son--not a big problem. Paying for my plane ticket--to inclue my 2 sons plane tickets is what I have to do. They will not be left anywhere. If I go to Africa, Veitnam, Japan and the Philippines--my boys will go with me. I know that prior to vcoming to the USA--Our government has set up standards that must be followed.She has to have a background check--a physical that is top notch---all paid by me. Then there is her plane ticket that I also will have to pay for. The in my research area's I have done and ever so often--I brief myself to see if anything has changed. I contacted an American Man who lives there. Of course he is in the business of finding us older Men younger Women. But besides talking to him--I am also a part of a website that teaches us Men the ways of the Philippines Culture. I have read the 35 to 40 web pages that take me deep into what they beleive in. I also know that many of the ladies will become americanized to a point. If you ask me--that is what I want her to do--be an american. Why would I want her hding inside scared of going places--with me. I take my kids places at least once a week. I am not talking about the candy store or to Walmart that is 3 miles from my house. We can be found in Memphis--which is about 30 miles away--or you can find us in Arkansas on any given weekend. Of course none of this is free. Last year--we took off on my encouragement to see a friend who lived in South Carolina--again--it was cash for the tank and other needful things. Months before that--I was in Long Island, New York--seeing my family for my Families Reunion. Yes--my kids were both with me. No, I did not stay at Moms house. I rented a hotel that cost me $85 per night--since NYC is quite expensive. Oh yes--I grew up in Brooklyn, New York until age 19. I went into the Army and did experience Germany, Panama, aris and a few other places of interest. What you are saying of my having to put out money--is not too sad to think of. I had to put out money when my ex-wife needed things. Then I even put up with her spending $300, $500 or more and could not account for her spending spree's. I also know there will be a long period of adjustment for this Woman who almost 28. The same was true when I was dating a German Woman. I didn't marry the Woman--but our lives were so close to the married types. Her problem was of trying to lock me in the house and she didn't want to leave unless she said so. This was my older Woman in my life--when I was age 35 and she was 47. Oh yes--this lady is not my only Foriegn Lady I'd had encounters with. With my 13 years of military service and more than half being spend in overseas areas. I payed close attention to what I was doing. I was in a different mind set as all young Men are. I was into--let's get it now and go on with the next day. You've heard of the stories some of the guys may have shared...Oh I was a big part of that--but truly it wasn't right for any Man to treat any Woman like that. Lastly with this long letter. I changed a long time ago. I have people who barely talk to me over my choices. One particular is my dear Mom. She is not thinking of the Woman--per say. She is thinking of her prejudice feelings about anyone that is not "Black". Thank God she lives only 1300 miles away. If it comes down to it--she'll meet who ever I marry and we can always---do what??? Go back home. Is that enough to satisfy how I think and how I am preparing myself???

Thank you for the long reply--I appreciated that very much. I must make one correction--my oldest child is the only one to have the desease of "Sickle Cell Anemia". He has the "SC" part of it. Sickle Cell trait has no ill effect until we are well into our 50's and 60's I'm told. I just feel that my job will be ongoing for a long time. I see the little girls and boys--but once I talk to one of them--I know if there a Dad in the home. It's a shame to see the kids ages 8 through the teen age years calling each other names and sometimes the "N-bomb". The same word we are fighting terribly right now. My life had no real Dad in it--even though I knew who he was. But somehow--he had other things in mind as he was an abuser to my Mom. he couldn't have been much as a Dad or a Father. My Mom finally grew tired of his tactics and his hands on her.When I turned 8 years old--she was leaving our place of Birth (Richmond, Virginia)--taking us to Brooklyn, NY. So I live with a legacy that can be bad for some--but good for others. My Dad is dead now--I hardly got a chance to know the real Man. I've talked him more as a Man than a child. MY mind was set in my teen years that I am never going to be like him at all. I strive day in and day out--thinking on many moments--how can I improve who I am. My kids know they are spoiled so badly. But who is going to spoil them--if I don't?? We just came from Memphis, TN about 7:15 PM central time--buying some nice suits. The new light weight type. I am shocked--my oldest picked a peach colored one and my younger child picked sky blue. Yes--they will be hemmed tonight--by me so they can wear them to church in the A.M. We'll be headed there at about 10 am--then maybe out to the Movies--maybe if the weather isn't too hot. It's a shame that I get child support--but not moral support from their Mom. No phone calls, no letters reach me. The last Phone calls were back in Jan-2006. I asked her--if she could not tell the children the truth--why bother with calling. They ask her why she is like she is and she lies. So since I ussued that altermatum--she's refused to call. If I ask my boys--"hey Guys--You can call your Mom"...I get--"Daddy, we will call her later"...It's a sad sad world in which we live in sometimes...

Yes--I rambled--But I didn't say "ALL of the Women" are Gold diggers. I am speaking all about me and the choices I've made. I am into always trying new things in my life. I can say this--I am doing one of the hardest jobs now--taking care of my children on my own. I can't afford to travel miles and miles to meet"allof the Women who are nice". I live in a small town--14,000 and soon to be bigger. What should I do? Start getting a baby sitter and look near and far for that magical Woman who brings me Joy? Come on--let's get real. If the Woman is pink, purple and she catches my eye--I am going to go for it. Whatever you say--it won't fly....

This is true. My ex-wife was terribly upset that my oldest has sickle cell anemia and of course--it's all 100% my fault she says. Even though the medical science says--it takes two sickle cell trait Parents to make that child who has it. My other child has the trait. I have reached an area of him understanding nutrition, nutrition, nutrition. I am happy to say I have an 11 year old who calls his stomach his tank now. He comes to me at 8 or 9 pm some nights--long after he's had dinner and jokes--my tank is not full--can I eat again? I say yes because of his small size of 75 pounds and just as short as his 8-1/2 year old brother. My younger son "Desean" weighs 73 pounds. Now with Lee jr eating more and the right foods-I Don't worry--I don't think he will be getting fat. He has a hard time keeping his weight. Anyway--I was saying exactly that--My ex-wife kicked me to curb and said--the kids would be better off with me. Then to make herself happy--(I guess) Went on to have now 3 more. A- 7 year old with twins at 5 yrs old. What can I do but to take care of my boys? That is to be here and become the best Father I can be. It sounds crazy that my back injury works right in with their care. They have a parent who is always around. She went through a couple of confusede mind sets--"I want my kids and oh--now I don't. Then when the case came to court--she informed me--she wasn't going to show up. Who gets the custody? So now she has kids by 3 different Men. I never mentioned I met her when she had just a 13 month old little boy. A few of my so called work mates--friends cracked big time jokes about me dating a Woman with a child. I took it and never looked back. But as a real Man I took care of him as if he was my very own. For a small time--I had all three of them with me. Until the oldest made 8 years old. I had him for 2 years. What did this Woman do a 1 year later? Went to court and asked once her child came back to her--Asked the Judge to make me pay Child support. She said--I was his Dad--because I said so. It was to limit her child support to the kids I have here. I am not his biological Father--unless she is the modern virgin Mary. I say sometimes--"Please God--help her-please-! As I am speaking now--I have them at the table doing "hidden Messages & Word Finds"--it's on different history events. I do this every year to re-open the little brains. Since school is starting again my area on August 13th. Many people have told me--you're making them book worms and more. But I had a straight A student and my son who is sick sometimes has the A's and B's going strong. Even when he's missed school for pain episodes --I will go to the school and ask for the weeks work. I told him--the best way to prove to your absent Mom--you are somebody--is to be somebody. I will not stop being in your corner-both of your corners for as long as God allows me here on this mortal coil. I am now 50 years old now--a Black Man with kids almost 9 and and 11 years old. If my life plays out well--I will be 60 once they are grown Men and I still hope for many more years. In fact I want to see Lee the 3rd and maybe Desean Junior. That's my two kids names. Back to the subject...I live in a 4-plex now due to the Katraina storm hit( I had to move 400 miles away from the coast of Mississippi). I live next door to a young Woman who has 3 babies Daddy's and she is addicted to more. Has a "live in" boyfriend and is not ashamed to sneak in a guy while her boyfriend is at work. We're speaking of a 23 year old lady with 3 little kids. I feel so ashamed to see this. I know that many Parents have grown children who is my age. I just waited to have kids after my Military service. It shows my generation have been raising daughter without some strong morals. Oh well--I got a big shock to my system when I married a younger Woman. That is why I said--Oh well. I have now seen a lot of this same behavoir from other Women in the mid-twenties to early to late thirties. I know that one of the bigger causes are the Men. They're following our leads in having kids. Men can leave a lot of the kids behind. But many times when the Women play the Sex all the Men I want"Game--they can get caught up in the mix. Some of the many Women will fall for the "Okie doke" and have a Man say he Loves them soo much--Let's have sex. She will say--"Ok, I need love--so let me give him some sex". Then there is that time--"hey--let's not use condoms--I know you and you know me. We are ready to go further in our relationship. Many times there are stories of Men who leave the Women just before the 7th Month. Fear sets in--he see's the dollars flying with wings from his wallet. "Oh Look at the time--gotta go". I guess I thought different about leaving. I wasn't in love with the Woman on the first sexual experience with her. I now know--My son wanted to be here badly and it was meant to be. I am not ashamed to say--My condom broke and it shocked me. Within 60 days--we both knew there was a new life living inside of her. I took the needed steps to know her much better and looked forward to a long future.My ideas of that seemed like a fairy tale at best...Sometimes we all make mistakes, we all speed ahead without a inkling of what is really reality of the day we live in now. I guess--I was thinking--maybe marriage would enhance our lives. Many of the Men now who look for Women of the Bill Clinton era--they feel that they need to go it alone. Whcih brings me to the other thread I wrote. Getting married to an Asian Woman or maybe another race. I have gotten kicked in the teeth with that one already:cry

Actually he did get into trouble hawking with other told or asked him to sell. So he did get in big trouble. But then again--I benefited from the stopping Lipitor and another anti-depressant. My own Doctor asked me not to take it. He said==Lee you will soon have problems and within 18 months my kidneys were operating at 70 to 80%. It had been reported by Kevin that the drugs they sold were a lie. In November I stopped both medications. Now with 9 months passing by--my kidneyes are back to the a 98% rating. I've taken the tests and I've read them myself along with the Doctor. I do take Welbrutrin myself. I can't any longer take 300 miligrams. It keeps me up past 12. I mean--I even make it a point to take it at 6 am each day. I am going to down to 200 and if need be--to 150 mgs. Yes there are many things we see as a Lie--but many people such as us--have failed to see. Look at all of our Politicians who lie and avoid Jail all the time. Enron is a big example--too bad the big Man died of a heart attack. But what about the life savings and retirement saving many lost.Look at all of the people now on regular social secuity who should have been living on a nice 401 K fund? Come on--Kevins Books are just 15.95 at Sams club. He isn't stealing any Man;s 401 K fund of 200 to $400,000.If I was selling a product another persons company made--but it was fraudulent--of course I 'd be in jail. I recall the Coral Calcium and more. But aren't we living America--the land where people get 2 and 3 chances to do right?? The book has many things we can benefit from--so why not read it. Oh yes--he's ha one problem--so he should be taken out back and shot--right? So why is his books remaining number 1?--If they are so much a bunch of non-sense? Why are many of us banders getting smaller and smaller--since we've learned to not eat any ingredient we can't pronouce called--"Chemicals" or Bovine Growth Hormone? That is why I don't buy fish from super markets--I am better at taking a chance at the fish stores--some of the ones who get them from a boat. I have done that too many times. Many times traveling to far away places to buy the fish--so I will not get farm raised Growth Hormone injected type of food. We have a choice of what we can beleive and what we won't beleive.But a mere fact is--Look at the girls today--growing up and looking like she is 17 and she is a mere 11 years old. Getting her period at 8 and 9. That used to be a shameful thing to have a child with early pubety. Now it's the norm. Look at all of the little girls who's on the Posters as missing. Do you really think they are all kidnapped? Think again...I won't go into details--I'll let this and other things simmer a bit in your mind. Kevin Tradeau is living the American dream. Yes he's gotten now $50 dollars off of me for the books he's sold. I paid the $15.95 for each book. But--what if I add up all of the pills, the other books on hw to be skinny, how to lose 30 pounds in 30 days, how to look like I am 25 again with these simple pills or drink--I can think in the mere hundreds and maybe close to $1500 for me. I had to stop and look at my cabinent to know--what I had done for far too long like many of us. I'd rather think he is ok than many of the Doctors who's hawked pills that kill. Oh yes--the pain pill to give you comfort has killed sooo many. I have gotten phone calls to say--"Mr B____" Stop taking that pill--dump them out today". But had anyone offered me a refund?? Lipitor is one of the biggest frauds here in America. How many people can say they have a Cholestrol count that has gone from 280 to 180 or even down to an acceptable level of 150 within a year from that drug--I am afraid very very few...Read the stats and you will see. read about the Prozac and it's many problems--the side effects that I thought I had 20 of them--that wasn't mentioned on the label or the information packet the Pharmacy gave me. Come on now..I had headaches, swellon ankles, eating more like a pig, skin problems, feet swollen, vision blurry, bad taste in my mouth, no libido, and many more of the long list of "side Effects". I am not going to hawk the "Wellbutrin"--but at least we all know it's the zero weight gain type of medication...it does help

Hey--I'm shocked too. I had 2 fills--one was 1 cc and the nest on June 13th was .6 cc's....I am shocked too. I am waiting now to see if I will have any issues since I just hit 31 days today--July 14-2007. I have noticed that in the morning my appetie is almost zero.I have been warned to force myself to eat. Each time--I get a small hunger to eat more--but I still love my yogurt and Special K of honey oats. Each are 120 to 150 calories in 2% milk. I have never been able to like skim milk or as I say--skim water. I have found myself at night with a small bit of hunger--I will get one my kids small bowls and eat some special K. I asked the Dietician and she said--great. As long as you don't start doing milk shakes and other Junk food. I feel proud that I can control the small urges and will not go into a binge state of mind...It's all in the way we think. I now have about 90% control. I have ate some chocolate Kisses--but never enough to go crazy over and gain weight. It settles my sweet urges quick--after eating 8 little kisses--I get a small feeling of sickness---no more I say--no more...

<p>Sorry-you're too late. I have spent the 125 a session(1 session a week) for 14 months. Plus I am not bald and will not be over-weight much longer. Still what makes you think I am just in it to get a better acting Woman. There are things we all want to do in life. I know there will be money involved. Because with any date there is--with any marriage there is. Our American culture is built around that. You can't sell me any bridges and nothing of that sort. I am intended to do what I want to do. The old myths are untrue too. But the thing that remains--two americans getting married have that now 50 to 55% divorce rate. The American-Filipino stats show the 10 to 20%. If that was me betting on something--I'd take that 15 to 20% loss rate anytime.. Last thing--Women who are married to Americanized Asian Women don't always get left behind. If that was true--why are soooo many Men with the same feelings as I do--still go on all of the tours to find a Woman un-american and end up with one. I have seen too many success stories and of course as I said earlier--know the success stories--up front and personal. Maybe somebody has been faking me out for sure then. Maybe the people I know all are liars each time I see them together...That would be black and white...Most of the American-Filipino couples have issues just like we all do. One couple in Particular got into our country for a professional Job. They are both Filipino. Funny story--The Husband of this Woman is Americanized. As soon as he go that way--he divorced her quick as you can say--go-! We have been friends for maybe 6 months now. This Woman has 3 sons and works like crazy. Two Jobs--16 hours a day and seems ot love american Men--particully Black Men. But has no time to date--since she is supporting 3 sons and one in college without a scholarship--so she is paying his entire college fund out of her pockets and her hard work. She is a preofessional Person too. It's a lot of examples of couples who make it. To give everyone the bad side of the story is not the way to go. Can't anyone give up the real good story sometimes? Even in my siyuation as a Army Veteran--I was given the bad stories of how I would be homeless and would be begging for food---because they don't take care of their own. I won't go into details--but I'll say this--many of the kids in my area think my kids have a wealthy dad. It's not true--but I am able to provide for the kids and I am not working...I am not homeless either.I am 23 months Post "Katrina" and I am starting re-buy many of the things I once had. I have been throgh much in this short 50 year life. So you think you and others can deter me or get me down...NO way--the Katrina tragety showed me the mannerisms of many people and many I didn'tlike. I don't even worry as much as I did back in 2005...

Hi there Bjean...I know the feeling. I have been down that road to making the weight loss book writers the millions of dollars too. Nothing worked. I hope that I don't have a bad habit of slipping back into the old habits. I am almost at 4 months (3-1/2 months now). I have found that I like the fish--to give me a good feeling--I have put some barbecue sauce on the fish. Still it's within the guidelines to my diet. I am not over eating--but I have somedays--I love the little kisses(the chocolate candy). But I know they say--every 14 peices is about 200 calories. I have not passed that at no time eating them. Maybe 8 peices serve my passion for chocolate. I have eaten McDonalds and the ladies who work there--marvel over how I can order fish--with no bun and a cheese burgery--no bun.I can get bread down. It will clog my throat soo bad--I feel like i am choking. Yes--I have the family who put me on that "Black Sheep" list.I have now 7 immediate members who can call me--My Mom and 4 brothers, 2 sisters. Only one Brother will call at some point and time. A few of the others--I can't even offer excuses. Except the last time I was there--I heard he craziest sayings..."Oh Man--you made it to the Family reunion"--"I was just thinking about you--I was going to call you too"..What a bunch of crap if I ever it all before. But so is life..Oh--in the bunch there is one thin brother who's never been fat--it's my little brother. He seems to remain at the 165 to 170 all the time. He goes to the reunions because he lives in the NYC area. If I make a trip of 1300 miles--I think it should be good and pleasant.I think with me living in the mid-south. I have found friend here are more pleasant. They may look at me strangely--but they've known me for less than 2 years. So it's cool to see me go through a few physical changes--like my weight loss....

No she did not...after our marriage--she went on to have 3 more by some other guy...Oh well

So...what do you think I do each day for my kids??? Cry because I have to cook? Cry because I have to clean? Sorry--wrong Man for the wrong movie--- I cook, clean, wash, mop and more. I wouldn't need a wife to do that. In fact--I'd love to seeing my two boys eating--cooked meals. Not the boxed meals, not the microwaved meals. Meals I cook and prepare from scratch. I don't need a sex slave or a cook or a maid...Most of all--I can cook very well. In fact--I love to cook--because I started to learn at age 12. Guess who taught me?? My Dear Mom. She made me wash the families clothes-because I was the oldest-made me learn to cook and told me--there would be days like this. She even mentioned about you ladies--who would speak out of turn and not have the faintess of what you were talking about. I used to dislike cooking when I was a teenager--because the Guys would pick at me--But you ladies ought to know--It's not the case today. You have read something that is not there. But then again--you people have old beleifs that are so outdated. In fact--let me call you what you are--a dinosaur--exinct and outdated--that's what you are. If I am soooo off base--Why do my own Mom call me--Mr Nice Guy. She told me...that is why you don't have a wife--you're just too nice to Women--cooking and all that--let her do it-But then again--now I know who she was talking about---you ladies--(My Mom is old of course). If I wanted a sex slave--all I have to do is get me one of the Women right here in America. In fact--I know of a few ladies here--just like you who could do the same thing. Why do I need to fly 8,000 miles away? Oh by the way--I've been a single Dad for 7 years and I love doing what I do and enjoy it. I do for my sons everyday and love it. I wouldn't have fought in court to keep my sons with me. I could did what most Men did--give up without a fight. But I knew the Woman I had with their Mom and said..No d** way...I also make sure they are in school daily--my wake up time--5:15 am. I am not tired at all. In fact--if you met me--you would not think I am lazy with the schedule I keep...Yes I have had my time of being lazy0-but depressed--but weren't we all that way at one time or another. My Depression was not with a Woman in mind. It was the Military injuries I have that seemed to kick me in the butt--hard. Again--stop it with the BS--you're starting to make me earl(sick)--That is the old belief by many of the jealous Women here in America. You think all men are lazy lazy--I am not that type....So very Sad, very sad--that is why so many Women--Young Women act like they've worked 16 hours and only had to prepare a 45 minute meal. Many are going to have all of our sons--looking like skeletons--if they have to depend on them cooking. That's why my son can cook now--6 different dishes--at 11 yrs old--with a bit of help from me. Yet he's learned from who?? His Dad, that's who. But then again--you two Women have not met a Real Man lately--have YOU??? I guess you are now living inside of my head....funny--very funny...By the way--- I ask you to look at the IMBRA to see what the Congresswomen have inacted to prevent some of the abuses that the Men who go there and put upon a few Women. It's a law that seems unconstitional. But they passed it without a problem. I was wrong before--I said 10,000 marriages were stopped--but in fact--50,000 were stopped in it's tracks. Now all of the Men get criminal background checks and more.--instead you don't read it. You tried reach me with words that was to destroy my motivation---but trust me--nothing has been done to stop me. My friend who I talk with each day from the Philippines. I have let her know all too many times--she is not coming here to be my maid or my sex slave. I want a Woman whoi can think on her own. Even though she teaches in her land--she was taught to do all of the things I am doing for my 2 boys. Sorry ladies--I can't look at myself in the mirror if I am a Man like that. My Mom didn't teach me that and for sure--My step Dad laid that out to me--day 1. Laziness is not in my Vocabulary....But as I recall---headaches was the number symptom for women who didn't want to have sex with their husbands. I see if like this...If I do 1/2 of all the work---well most likely--3/4's of it--because I am at home daily. You would never have a need to complain that your head hurts--would you?:notagree

IMBRA---International Marriage Broker Regulation Act .Just put IMBRA in the search and you'll be shocked....Also VAWA...Violence Against Women Act...all of this says--who we Men can talk to--who we can marry and more when dealing with Women of other nations..The newest Properganda makes all men get a Criminal Backgorund check before getting married to any Foreign Woman. Because we American Men would be prone to Violence. Especially Women of other nations. Imagine if you had to get a Criminal Background check before you could marry a Man in the USA?

This is entirely true of what I meant to say. But with the new laws the USA has enacted as of March 16th-2006. No site that offers the mail order wives will be processed. I think I pointed out a report I read on the INS and the Philippines Embassy. Over 10,000 marriages were rejected all due the "Buying' of the Women. They even reject marriages if the Woman speaks no English. She has to know you had a divorce or an outside child and many things the INS asks. If the Man has had 2 Women he applied to marry and they didn't work out. The third application is put on a 24 month waiting list. Because there is a strong possibility the Man has no real intentions to do right. Many men promise this and that--especially to a Women who earns no more than 2500($54) to 9,000 Pesos($195). Just divide this by now 46 and see how many dollars you get? This is the average pay each of them make per month. The Pesos rate for the dollar has dipped to 45-46 for each american dollar. yes--Of course many Women want to come to America. I sure would if I was in Africa or there. My friend--Yvonne says she wants to work to help her Mom some. I said--she could send $100 to $150 a month--that would do wonders in a nation of what I just told you of the average salary a month. I don't disagree with her. If she can obtain a job as a teacher here--I will not object to her sending her Mom cash. Funny thing--we have a shortage of teachers and Nurse now. So much a few VA hospitals are closing their doors as of 2010. Biloxi, MIssissippi is scheduled to do that if they can't get the right number to work there. Again--the US has a recruiting plan for Jobs--which some people are not fully aware of. I found a web that US controls on recruitment of Foriegn workers. Nurses, teacher and other professional careers. Do you know that there are not many takers? Many of the Nursing Jobs can't be filled by us and by outsiders..Like China, Korea, Japan and the Philippines. The many Women who are coming here--some come through that program. I know of 5 who came here like that and brought the husband and the kids. Too many Nurses work in NYC who come from all of the nations. The US government now give Men with Foriegn wives many breaks...If you knew what kind of breaks we get--your will be truly disgusted. i will let you investigate that. When you do--get back with me. Oh yes..I am going to make you aware of the new law--"Lady Congress-Women" passed in march 2006.

I had to quit riding with my next door neighbors...The ladies who was trying to get in shape---the boyfriend said I was trying to being slick--like a can of oil. Trying to steal his Woman with exercise no doubt...She wanted to get in shape--she says. She asked me...Lee where do you ride everyday when I see you coming back all sweated up? I guess when she asked me for a bottle of water after a few rides--that was was the wrong question and I did thew wrong thing--by giving her a bottle of fresh bottled:cry water. Oh well--I just lost 2 biking partners. Herself and her cousin has boyfriends who says--they don't like me riding around on my bike with "their" Women. I did speak of the Jealousy--but this past weekend I was terribly shocked. When I saw the ladies--I said--no more riding with you 2. Your boyfriends have given me the message. So if you ride--you have to do it on your own. NO more coaching...

OH yes...I forgot to say...."Isn't this America? Are we not intitled to do what we want as long as it's "Legal". Aren't we intitled to our opinions--as long as we are "Free"? So if I offended any Women--guess what--I am free to date who I want...We've built so many walls that we now call--Excuses--we've lost touch of Love and our reality. Sometimes---a few Women would say--He's too short, too fat, too bald, job pays too less for my lifestyle. Then you call it exploitation when a Woman wants to be with me? What about some of the ladies in our own nation who exploit the Men just because they have a decent Jon and benefits? My dear--I have been there and done that. Look at my example...we are always having issues with a certain class of people here in America. If a corperate executive marries a Mexican maid--he is talked about and ridiculed. If Bill Gates had of married a lower class person--he would have got it from his peers will maybe. But he married a Woman on the success track from within his Microsoft company. From what his life story says--she was not a Millionaire or a Billionaire...I am just an Ex-Soldier who's been to many places in our world--all thanks to the US Army. I can say without a doubt--I've never had any problems with any group of people or races--except right here in "our nation". Oh yes..If I was to leave Brooklyn and date a Woman from Queens, NY back when I was living in Brooklyn, NY. I would have been beaten to a pulp. Because--I was a race that wasn't excepted- You have to dig deep--think. Don't think because many races co-mingle--we are exploiting people. Lastly--I do want to have companionship to be with me and help me raise my children--is that so bad???

Let me clearify myself...I have communications with a Woman daily. We talk by phone, by email, by IM...I have a $ bill each month to prove that. No Woman is going to Just marry me--just because I come into their country and ask them. I may have not said anything about the nuturing part--but I am not going to go into many details. I am not a stupid Man nor am I slow. As I've said...I know plenty of the Asian people and I do talk to the Woman I am thinking of marrying. It's not written in stone that this is going to happen. It's been 5 months and I still am not sure. But the good thoughts are there. She is a single Mom--like I am a single Dad..she has 1 son--I have 2 sons. She works as a school teacher in her nation of the Philippines. So I am not thinking of marrying a lady who lives on one of the 1200 islands where there no electricity or proper shelter and she live in a straw shack--sorry--wrong version of Man who you've got me mixed up with. It's the same thing when I was in Germany for 6 long years. I had a Girlfriend--but again--I got the many questions asked of me by my dear Mom. "Are you going to marry her? "What do you know about her? and more---like I am getting here. During that time--I was seeing the Woman 3 to 4 times a week and I knew about all of her ways. It's a difference in cultures with the Germans--Just as the Filipinos. I have studied many things about the culture. There are soooo many sites to explain that--which I am on 2. It's a board---like this one for American Men to learn a lot about what the Women are about. I've read about the many pitfalls, the good and the bad things any western man can encounter. Then with me knowing a few here in the good old US of A. I am not walking with blinders on thinking I am getting someone or something better than I already have here. Meaning--women of interest. Being a Black Man in America--there are so many secrets many people are not aware of and I will not discuss them on this board..Let's just say--I am not blind. PLus to get deeper--I have done my homework..The thougght didn't just pop in my brain like yesterday--I decided to voice it today though. I guess--no matter what I do--it'll be maginified. When I dated a white Woman--OI got big flack--when I dated a Hispanic--I got flack--when I married my wife--OH My Lord--big time--because I am almost 20 years older---thank God we are now divorced...I have been alone for a few years--again...I listen sometimes to people who think I need to get married or date a certain someone. I've decided--if I can't have who I want--I'll fly solo:heh:

<p>Funny that you ask...I am reading my Monthly magazine: "Life Extension" with Dr Gupta's picture on the front...who ever don'tknow this guy---he's the Doc who is hired By CNN for the health news. Then at the same time--"The Weight Loss Cure--"they don't want you to know about". It's the continuation of the other two books by Kevin Trudeau. I have read the other two books--"Natural Cures--they don't want you to know about. Part 1 and 2. In the Life Extension there is one story about Statin Drugs and how we overdose on them.When I was really heavy...I was put on the drugs Zycor and switched to Lipitor....I used to get swollen legs almost every night and I feared the worst---I had kidney problems. I was also on Prozac At first--without tests--the Dr said--OH--you will have this because of the long day you're standing at work. I had to reminded him--I am at home each day--I am retired....I demanded to get a kidney function and Liver function test....Low and behold..I had kidneys working at a 80% rate and a fatty liver. I stopped these drugs around the same time I decided to get banded--in November. Remarkedly--My tests taken in May showed I had little trace of me ever having any differculties. Then a nurse says--Mr B____--You are not the only patient to complain of pain and swelling...Oh--by the way--don't tell anyone I told you that said this about the Lipitor--WTH???? Then the Doctor proceeded to give me a large pack of samples--just in case I changed my mind...Even though--I had only a 208 score on the Cholesterol--:cry

I feel you all...I was asked about what about me having a barbeque...I said--I think we had enough barbecues while I was young to cure me of wanting one. My birthday--BBQ, Mothers Day--BBQ, got a Job promotion-BBQ, Got Divorced--BBQ... Now that I am a single Parent with 2 kids of my own. I ask my boys each holiday--what can we do special. I have had many suggestions with my 11 and 9 year olds. But BBQ hardly comes up. I think the holiday should be festive--but not a day to eat 3500 to 5,000 calories. I remember I was there once. I now have a hard time getting 1000 to 1200 calories in a day. I am not a bad acting person--but I looked at my younger brother some time ago--he has gone to over 400 pounds at 5'8". I mean--when he comes in the house--the floor moves or creaks...When anyone says---Have you thought of losing weight--you could say it's WW3. I stayed away from my Families Barbeque this year. Jealousy comes in many different faces...I was told--I thought I was special. I ate very little at the family reunion--I don't drink alcohol or smoke...It was looking odd to them that I didn't have what they had--since every member of my family--to include my Mom--had a cigarette, a glass of vodka or Barcardi and even Gin with a big plate of food...Here I was with water and a small piece of fish and some rice...So I decided not to go on that trip to New York for the celebration. I called to say--I am going to pass on this year's BBQ

What the deal on the "Baby Momma Drama"---I've met to many Women--young and old--kids everywhere. Here's some of the conversations-Me: "May I ask you--where the Daddy of your children? her:-One is not around, the other is in prison for drug dealing, my third childs Daddy pays support, but never comes to them and the other is--he lives 2 blocks away. But he is crazy and always coming by or driving by.... You know I am looking down at my feet---wondering why I didn't wear my nike running shoes...I am like in my head--"DAMN-!!! But--I am a single Daddy mnyself--but thank God my kids have the same Mom. A Dead-beat Mom until she was threatened with jail--if she didn't pay support. What's with the Women---does anyone use condoms or birth control anymore?