Gonna be honest because you said "please help!". The band is not a cure for being overweight. You have to totally change your eating habits and life with using the band as a "tool". If your doctor sold it to you as an easy weight loss remedy or as a cure, then you were mislead and lied to! The fact that he didn't have any kind of pre-op preparation for what is supposed to be a life changing surgery sends up all kinds of red flags, too. I would recomend calling another doctor or place where they specialize in lapband surgery, you are clearly not getting the guidance you need and deserve after forking out 14k!