I think most people in relationships will have a spouse who is threatened. Some afraid you may leave when your skinny. He fears you changing -not getting the lap band. He may fear that because you are taking point for your health, you may not need him. Reassure him -you love him, you need him, and thank him for the chance to take care of your health. http://www.lapbandtalk.com/images/smilies/modern/thumbup.gif