Yep, I understand. I had a band in for about 5 years and lost all up 17 kgs. I did not tell my family as I was embarrassed (rightly or wrongly). But just before Christmas last year it slipped and had to be removed urgently and I needed my mum to look after my children. After I told my mum, who has been 'dieting' every day of my life, turned around and said, "Well it obviously didn't work did it?"
I am now considering the sleeve as I have regained about 10 kgs (although the Dr did say some of that would be fluids as I had not even kept Water down for ages). I will not be telling her! I already feel like a failure, I don't need her help.