I told my mom I wanted to be banded, and she told me I was crazy, all the people her friends knew had complications and died or almost died. It scared me, but I cant stop thinking about how better I would feel about myself. Ive struggled all my life with up and down weight Im 36 and tired of worryiing and being fat. I need a friend to talk to, someone who knows what I,m going through, Then Im made to feel guilty cause I spend my husbands and kids money if I dont get insurance on me, Help me someone who knows what Im talking about, and can help me get started in my search for happiness.