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Sheryl I am glad you're going to therapy. It's always good to talk things out with someone totally nutral and has your best interest in mind. I went through a big despession after I lost all my weight and still was not happy. I thought losing weight would make me happy. I went to counseling and they ( it's a husband and wife who counsel people together) and told me to find something that really made me happy. For me it was ballrom dance classes. I loved the lessons and the dances they held. Wanda,I am sorry for your loss. What kind of work do you do? You seem to always have the right words for people. You should be a therapist. Maybe you can help me with the words to tell Bill I need more time to myself. There are so many things I really love about him, but his need to spend all his time with me is driving me away and making me crazy. Every time I try to talk to him about it, he gets so upset. He needs more friends. Florinda, I don't know how you do it. Living in a strange seems so depressing. Yet you manage to stay upbeat without falling apart like I would. I would imagine you're ready for another care package but I am not sure if Coops'had every thing you need. I am sure there is always a need for things you can't get there. Sheila, I hope your puppy is better. What you're going through is heart breaking. I agree you should be compensated by the seller. Sarah, it seems you should be taking a class whether it at a college , or an online class. You feel like you missed out on college because you had chileren young. So go back! Even if it's something like pottery class, I think you would get a sense of satisfaction. I am sure you can find something to take "to float your boat" Everyone else, I am sorry I missed commenting on your post. I read all the posts but I am not good about remembering everything when I go to post. If anyone else has some words of wisdom to put it in a tackful way to Bill, I would appreciate it. He seems to think that a loving couple should see each other every day, as though we are married or something. I need more time to myself.

I am really , really glad you're back here! You are such a motivator!

3 years was right when I gained my 15 lbs that were so hard to take off. It just got to where I would gain after some function, and previously, if I ate right, it would come right back off. All of a sudden, it would not come off, and more kept coming. I am thankful I've gotten that under control and I'm back to goal, It's always going to be a struggle. I have a very slow metabolism. the only thing that keeps me sane is that my hunger has not returned.

you need to be on an acid blocker. I'll be 5 years out soon and it's hell if I don't take mine.

Surgery is a shock to the body. It can happen with other surgeries too. Mine came back in curly. I love my new hair. I was afraid it would come back in grey. Nope. 61 years old, no grey hair, just shiny new curly hair.

Bill is laying beside me sleeping with his Cpap machine. He knows I can not go to sleep early. I have been a night owl my entire life. I told him I was going to get out of bed and go into the living room and use my lap top. He asked that i bring it into the bed and that it would not disturb him. This seems like insanity to me. Sheryl, you do seem very overwhelmed. You have a lot going on. You have insurance, don't you? Do you see someone to talk all of this over with? Do you want me to post on that thread? I had my face lift done in MX and nobody knows about it. Nobody can tell. People just tell me I look young. I recently told Bill, when he started to go off on movie stars who have had face lifts and how badly they look. I am numb as hell, but I would not say that. I would say that my friends who know, want to go to my PS in Mexicali. Globe, you have hit the nail on the head. It's partly that I have not been married since 1987 when my husband was killed on the job. I have had bf's through the years, and lived with a couple of them. My preferance would be not to live with Bill or any of my bfs. However, he wants us to live together. That's fairly impossible since we both own our own homes. I had to remind him last night, that we only started seeing each other on Jan. 23. Before that, we were FRIENDS. I told him he expected too much of me. We still have to talk more. He is finally meeting my daughter tomorrow . I am definitely not used to any man wanting to spend all their time with me. If fact, it's been the oppoiste, They want to hunt, fish,do their guy stuff, and I got the left over time. Oh well , we shall see. I really need to get around the board more. Nobody pms me anymore!

Oh so much news to catch up on! I have to talk to Bill. this is ridiculous . I can't get online, and I have had 3 friends text me and say that they are hurt because since I've been with Bill, I've been ignoring my friends. I hate to bring it up, bu it's got to be done. I've got way more to say about David, Sheryl, but I got up in the middle of the nigh because I could not sleep, so I have to get back to bed. I hope we can meet in Portland in Mrach. I'll be there arround the 15th whatever the weekend is.

Sheryl, where did you find this guy? Online or out at a social gathering? He sounds really nice, but quite a bit older than you. I hope you aren't going to dealing with ED issues because it's a real pain. I 'd rather not have sex at all than have it with someone who thinks they can have it but can't keep an erection. I'm doing well, other than Bill seems to want more attention than I am used to giving a man. I have been on my own since I was 35. I don't want to spend24/7 with a man. We will get it figured out.

Bill had given the waitress a very nice tip, so she put my purse in the safe. . I gave her a reward too. I was so thankful to get it back. I've been away from the scale for almost a week, and I don't like that! I am really curious to see if I've gained from this trip. I'll be glad when life gets back to normal at home. Although now Bill says he wants to come here and help his niece start her business so I guess we will be coming back often. We are leaving Portland soon, so I will be able to open 2 windows so I can comment one what's been going on with everyone when I get home. Home Sweet Home. Vacations are fun, but it's always good to get home.

Hey everyone, I was supposed to go to Portland today for the weekend to see my son and his family . Thank Gold Bill would not let me go alone,. We left out town with a little rain and came to the interstate to white out conditions with chains required., So we managed to get off the free way and get a motel . We went and had chains put on and then tried to find a place open to have dinner. Everything was closed . We finally found this dive place and I ended up leaving my purse in there, with tons of cash and credit cards. Please pray for me that it's there tomorrow morning. I have to have my credit card for the basket ball tickets I bought for my son's 30th birthday. They have to be paid for with the same credit card they were ordered from online. Some stupid rule., I'm scared spit less and I don't know if I can sleep. Bill has been a saint through it all. He didn't even want to come but he didn't want me to go alone. I love this man! I'll catch up as soon as I finally make it to my son's 200 more miles away.

I love my face lift I am 61 and people tell me I look 45 all the time. I just wish my face was not numb. He changed the whole shape of my face. I used to have a very round face. He sucked out all the fat and now I have cheekbones.

My bf has one of those and I would like to know it there is any way to quiet it down? I csn't sleep at all if he's got it on. we need to know how to fix it so it's quit

Coops I am so sorry to hear of such a loss to your family ,.Suicide is so painful because you have to wonder what they were thinking in order to make such a horrible descision. I haven't been eating much. Still don't have an appetite. I'm not really doing 5:2 but I bet I haven't been eating 1000 per day. I don't know what to do about Bill. He wants to stay over and I want him to, but that CPap machine causes so many problems. tonight he fell asleep wiht his head on my shoulder and that thing blowing loudly on my face. The I getnly tried to tell him and he threw it off and left the bedroom to sleep on the couch., I am so upset I want to be able to learn to sleep with that thing but to me it sounds as lound as a vacuum cleaner., Feed so sorry to hear about your husband. That sounds like a bad break. I was such a baby when I broke my wrist Sheryl, I am glad your ex is gone. I wish my bf's ex would stop texting him. He has an I phone and i can always tell when a text comes in from her. He's right. She is so needy but I wish the hell she would find someone else to tell her problems ot. He's told her on no very directly that they were over.

You really have to experiement to see where you will settle on your calorie range. If you continue to lose, You add back healthy fats such as nuts and avacados. If you aren't eating bread, you can have half a sandwich on whole grain bread. Maintenance is tricky.

I can't believe how quickly this thread moves! And I want to know why I get no notifications from that anyone has posted in here. Bill told her she needed to make other arrangements. The last time they had a fight, she told him to go and sleep in his truck and she hoped he froze to death. That was it for him. He told her she could not stay there anymore, and that she had said so many hateful things, that he did not love her. He said he cared about her as a person, but he was not in love with her. .Then she packed up whatever she had at his house and off she went to where ever she had made other arrangements. He tells me I have completely changed his life and he is happier than he has been in years. Florinda, I don't remember ever causing any disrespect to you with regard to your weight loss, or speed of weight loss, or regain lost. I remember saying way to go! or something to that affect. I hope you aren't offended that since Coops wanted to have the pleasure of sending you a package, that I didn't send an additional one. If coops' package arrives and you are still needing things, let me know, please. Sheryl, Glad the ex is gone and I hope the took some stress from you along with him. Steven seems to fill your needs right now, so just go with it until it doesn't feel right again. Wanda, I was the same way when I was trying to lose my regain. I could not eat anything without regaining any headway I had made until some social engagement happened and I didn' t have the willpower not to eat with everyone else as I socialized. I don't know why 5:2 made a difference, other than I was somehow able to stop snacking.I didn't keep anything sweet in the house other than sf fudge bars. I hope I haven't missed anyone. It's 2 am and I don't have time to open another window so I can read all the pages I missed and respond to each one.

Hi everyone., That's funny that you want me to share more about him. He was a counselor for 20 years. Before that he was an English teacher. . He's very impressed wiht my grammar because most people arount here have very poor grammar. He's just as sweet as can be and I love that he loves to communicate. In fact, he insists on it. He gets up in the middle of the night when he can't sleep and writes me these big long emails on al his thoughts. He just amazes me. I guess love is a good thing. I weighed this morning and I am down to 130! Yay! I wanted to get there so I'd have a 5 lb bounce range. I didn't even try. I just don't feel like eating. I don't think people should be so concerned with goals. The goal is to lose weight and do the best you can. I mean, that's why we had WLS. So the goal is to move downward. That's about it. I went to some OA meetings. I enjoyed them. they just don't offer much in this tiny town. I was very active in NA for years when I was getting over my pot addiction. Sheryl are you going to bring home some boxes and say pack it up? Aren't there places where he could rent a room? Where is Forinda. With the time change, she is usually on at night. Florinda, how's it going? Glad the goof ball appologized even if it was not enough and quite late. Shows he at least he felt bad. well I have to go to bed. Bill has a C Pap machine and I am really havin trouble sleeping with that noise.

Hi All! I am Denise, and I am not on the list. Anyway, I have been MIA because Bill has been staying with me. He was here for 3 days. I have been in heaven! Florinda, I am estatic for you that you've lost 30 lbs! That's fabulous. I am sure you posted that while I was MIA. I don't get notifications for some strange reason on this thread. I was shocked at how many pages I was behind. The way I picked my goal weight was from a picture. I was holding my daughter who was about a year old at the time, and I was pissed off that I had not lost all my baby weight. But after surgery, when I looked at pictures, I knew I weighed around 135-140 in that picture. I was so surprised that I looked so good in that picture, cause I remember thinking I was SO fat. I weighed 237 7 years ago, and I was hoping I could lose 100 lbs. Now, I have no clue what my bmi is. I couldn't care less. I am so thrilled that I lost my 15 lb regain. I seem to be maintaining easily here now. Chimera and Sheryl, you guys should get together. I didn't realize you were both from Seattle. Regarding menopause, I went through it at 50 and I am 61 now. I went without HRT for about 5 years before I decided I wanted to get on them. I take bioidentical hormones which are supposed to be safer. I sure hope so. I never want to go off of them. I feel so much better. Dorrie, if you're serious about a face lift, I would research on OH on the plastics board. I love the way I look and I get a lot of compliments on how young I look. I hate the way it feels. It's horrible for my grand kids to kiss my cheeks and i can't feel it. I have no idea if this is just from my ps, or if it's common for face lift to have numbness that does not go away. I really hated my turkey neck, so it was a real trade off. I can't even imagine buying glasses online. I have the progressive and they have to measure where to put the transition from bifocals to distance. I've gotten them before where they screwed that up , and they had to remake them. How do they measure like that to do that online? I would love to get sunglasses, but my glasses are about $200 This thread does move really fast, and that's why I haven't invited Queen of Crops. Plus my mind has definitely been somewhere else. I still plan to message Legal and Butter and see if they wants to stay in, since they have never posted. It's been really hard on Bill to break up with the woman he was seeing. They really have not been dating all that long, and he tells me they have had some really miserable nasty fights. He was so worried about hurting her though. I hated to see him in pain. I finally got through to him when i told him that he was not only hurting her, he was hurting all 3 of us. He was completely miserable, and I was a complete nervous wreck because I knew I had to be patient and he had to do it his own way. But it's all over now, and we are together, and he treats me like a princess. I haven't been this happy in years!!

I really feel like this is the man I've been looking for. I was so afraid to tell him how I felt because we have been good friends. I was really afraid I was going to lose my friend. I am so glad it turned out he felt the same way. I had no clue all this time.

I didn't set my goal for a certain size. I set my goal for 135 which is not skinny for 5'2" , But when I regained up to 150, I was miserable . None of my pants fit and I looked like I was pregnant,

This thread has gone haywire. Anyway, I am not an a s s h o l e. I had to type it like that because swear words get bleeped out. If some newbie has a problem. pm me. I have been sleeved for almost 5 years now. I am going to be a statistic. There aren't a lot of people with 5 or more years.

Hi Diva! I feel bad that I never saw this thread. I knew from FB that something was going on with you but I could not figure out exactly what was wrong. I am so glad you're back here! I take Bariatric Advantage chewable Iron with vit C. I was anemic for a long time, and I don't even have periods. My last labs were perfect. I am no longer anemic. I think the bariatric advantage chewable have been better than anything I tried. I got iron from Vitalady which was supposed to be the best. I talked to her on the phone and told her I was still anemic and she suggested some other iron that was supposed to be really good for sleeved people. My iron still did not go up. It really did not go up until i got on these chewables. Maybe the iron is absorbed better. I know I have seen whole entire pills in my stools, so I don't think our tiny tummies can break down some pills. I am sorry to hear about your knees. I know how much you like to work out. Can you do weight training? I really like the weight training classes. Mine is called Group Power. And the elliptikill. As much as i hate that machine, I think it's easier on the knees than the treadmill. I try to walk fast at an incline, but I get so bored, I end up running, and I am not supposed to run either. My problems are in my spine. Again, I am so glad you are back!!

A lot of people are talking about the 5 day pouch test to get back on track. I personally think that is a bad idea. There is no reason to be hungry and miserable like you would be on the first 2 days of the 5 day pouch diet which consists of going back to liquids, I believe for 2 days. This is the diet I use when I need to get back on track after a bad day ,or weekend, or vacation: BOOTCAMP: For 5 STRICT DAYS I will eat only: Proteins: Seafoods, Poultry and eggs, Dairies, nuts/seeds, including a small amount of Peanut Butter. Veggies: Green only. salad with vinegar and oil dressing Fruits: None. fruit juice none Breads/Cereals/ Rice/ Noodles/ Pasta/ Other Carbs: None. Fluids: between 64 to 128 oz of Water (not coffee) Protein drinks (RTD or Powder). Avoid: Sugar and Sodium You will lose weight after 5 days and the carb cravings should be gone , unless you mangaged to eat some carbs during this time

Thanks so much!

The thread is called How are things going for those are are at (or near) goal? It was started by me. It's in the Weight Loss-Specific Gastric Sleeve Surgery Support Groups. I could not see the host on the posts anywhere. Is that one you host?

No, it doesn't have to happen. It happened to me though, and it was hard to take it off. You have to be vigilent, and not snack or think you can make a whole lot of changes in maintenance. The farther you are post op, the harder it is to take off weight gained back. Whatever you're doing now, tracking your food, counting your calories, etc, it's pretty much a life long plan. If you keep losing and you don't want to lose, you can add in a healthy snack, like avacodos, nuts, etc. You'll find your calorie range.