Oregondaisy

Boy I am flipping out about my weight. I was 142 today up 2 more lbs. I thought I did pretty well yesterday. That's why I am upset. I am definitely going to the gym to day and going to try to do 5:2 . It's going to be really hard to fast now that I have Bill in my life. I feel exactly like I did before I did 5:2. Helpless. I try to stay on track, but I keep gaining. I need to basically stop eating, and get those fast days in. Trying to eat right doesn't work. I have to do the fast part of 5:2 to lose. Sheryl, I could be happy at 140 .The problem is I know I won't stay there. I'll just keep gaining. I am only 5'2" . I need to stay between 135-140

I'm 5 years out and I don't think my sleeve has stretched all that much more than say at the 2 year mark. Of course we can eat more than we could immediately post op. We were never told we would only be able to eat 5 bites for the rest of our lives. I know that if I eat more than half of my 6 oz steak, I am way too stuffed. The restaurant advertises that it's 6 oz so I am assuming that's before it's cooked. I can eat almost half of that and about 1-2 bites of veggies. Being too full is very uncomfortable and painful. It's pretty hard to abuse that.

Florinda, where are you? Next to log out, there is a little box. there's where my notifications to threads show up when I click that box. I also use content I follow as well. Did I miss something? Did you and your bf have a fight? I've managed to take off 4 of the 5 lbs I gained in Chicago. It's very depressing that if I eat one goodie, I gain weight. If I want to stay around 137 I have to eat 3 small meals of protein and veggies and one small snack. Any variation from that, and it's a gain. Today Bill wants to go to the movies. I know if I eat popcorn, I'll gain. I know it's termporary, but it still makes me feel like I am losing ground.

so with the ida, you insert that long part and he is supposed to fit between that and the circle? Or you insert it and he is supposed to go under it? I just don't get it, I'm sorry . I don't have much room in there . I had my kids c section so I never pushed out a baby. We have the WE vibe and that's the problem. He's supposed to fit in there and once it's in me, there's no room for him. I'm really frustrated, not only with the lack of orgasms, but from trying so many products that I ended up wasting money on.

I agree with Sheryl, Florinda. Be good to yourself. you're under a lot of stress. I hope you can find a job so you can quit your current one. When I get home, I am having epidural shots in my back. I need back surgery. I don't know what they can do for a bulging disc. You need to see an orthopedic doctor. I hope you have a nice time on your vacation, Coops. Dee, I hope your funk lifts. I don't have any advice. I know exercise makes me feel better even though I have to force myself to go. Sheryl I hope you have fun dancing! if you want to try couples dancing, find and instructor. I loved my dance lessons. I learned all the normal ones, the waltz, foxtrox, swing, cha cha, etc. It was a blast. I also took group lessons. I fly out of Chicago today. Bill is very anxious to have me home. I am not sure if I am going to drive home tonight. i don't even land until 6:30. I really don't want to spend the night at my ex's house. We are good friends, but last time I was there, the guest room was a mess and he gave me his room. That was on a weekend so it was okay because he stayed up late. I can't go to sleep and 9:00 and he said he was going to sleep on the couch.

I looked online at those and I can't imagine why they would be worth the kind of money they are asking. There are several models that look the same or similar, for a lot less money.

I have one of those but I've never thought to use it as a clit stimulator. That would be good because the bullet makes my whole hand vibrate and it's annoying. Thanks for a good idea. I am going to try it.

I'm so sorry for your loss Lisa. My boyfriend lived with me when he had stomach cancer and I took care of him. It's extremely difficult to go through. It will get somewhat easier as time passes. That is a beautiful poem you wrote.

I don't know what to say. I'm sorry Sheryl Florinda and Dee, that you're struggling. Sometimes life just sucks and it's all we can do to put one foot in front of the other. I'm still in Chicago and we have been eating in fancy restaurants for the last week and I'm freaked out because I can't weigh myself. It's been really hard not to overeat because my brother and SIL don't know about the surgery so they're always wanting me to eat more. Plus they won't let me pay for anything and I feel guilty when the waiter takes my plate away and it looks like I ate nothing. I go home on Wed. but I'll probalby have to stay in Portland and drive home Thursday. Bill is going nuts. I am going to buckle down when I get back and start 5:2 all over again, because I am sure I will have a regain to work on again. I always said I would use 5:2 for maintenance so lets see if I can stick to it again. I hate tight clothes!

These are all very good points. It's easy to sneak a treat in here and there. Pretty soon here and there becomes a little more often. The regain sneaks up and gets waaaayyyyy harder to lose, when you're farther out from surgery. If I splurge all weekend, I can easily gain 5 lbs . Those 5 lbs can take me 4 weeks to lose again.

I tried to use that link because I'm always having problems. I take different medications, but not Benadryl. The link doesn't work

I've tried everything to add Fiber to my diet.I have to take Iron because I'm constantly anemic. I've tried a new iron that was very expensive that is not supposed to do that. But it does. The only thing that has ever worked for me is Miralax. I read an article that says you aren't supposed to use it every day or it will cause kidney failure. My mom died from kidney failure and she used it for a really long time. What works for you? I've tried eating prunes every day, and all the other suggestions I get but it's still a lot of trouble and pain to get the dry hard stool out even with taking stool softners too every day and I would hate to see what would happen if I wasn't doing that. What works for you?

try drinking metamucil which is not the best tasting stuff. If you drink it every day, it will keep you regular. Miralax can cause kidney problems if it's taken on a regular basis.

drinking something usually helps and I have to talk to myself about how fast I will eat it and how long it takes for me to lose anything I gain.

I'm glad to hear the stress is not causing you to turn to food, which is probably exactly what I would do in your situation. I really admire you. You're so strong, and you have so much going for you. Keep hanging in there. I know you know that we're here for you.

I went on bio identical hormones and have been on them ever since. I know I should not be on hormones, but they make my quality of life so much better.,

That just really sucks. They know you're ill and they obviously don't care. How long can they keep you before you can be completely done with them? Let me know if you need anything.

I took it over to my friend's house who has a son. I don't know why I didn't think of doing this. He turned my phone off, and after it rebooted, all the apps were back. Even when I swiped the screen , from page to page, they were all blank.

I just got this new phone before coming to Chicago. I've been trying to get used to it. I've never had a smart phone before, All of a sudden,my apps have disappeared off my screen. They did go long ways in alphabetical order, and now I click on apps and there's nothing there. I don't kwow where they went or how to get them back. I need to use the GPS on the phone and I can't find it cause my row of apps is gone! HELP!

Kim, I'm so sorry for your loss but happy you were able to be with her during these times. I hope you'll give yourself plenty of loving and care. Sheryl, I am sorry you too are going through rough times. I think you know how to take care of yourself, so please be good to yourself. Maybe you need a nice massage? I'm glad you know we're here for you, and you know it's safe to grieve here, in what ever way you need to.

In the search bar, look for the boot camp diet. It is really hard and you have to set your mind to not putting anything in your mouth in between meals, and not to snack during the evening. It's fine to have one evening snack of something, but getting up all evening long and getting something was exactly what led to my weight gain. You can also google intermitant fasting and that works really well. That's how a bunch of us here took off our regain. The links are in the veterans forum.

Kim, I'm so sorry, I remember when I moved my dad to the Hospice house. It was hard but it was best for him. I know you will cherish your time and memories with her.

Sheryl, Are you going to go to one of those meet up events again and dance? I love to dance! I go out with friends to dance every tues night. I really have fun. It would seem like a great time, without having to make commitments to anyone, just to go and have fun. Sarah, I sent you a message with my cell number. I hope we can get together.

sue your daughter's dress is just gorgeous! She looked stunning! She sounds like such a wonderful daughter. Happy anniversary. Your husband sounds like a gem. Sarah, yes, I text. In fact I just got a new phone. I won't have a car. I'll have to take the subway or something downtown. Unless you want to drive over to the North side of Chicago near where he lives. I'm going to rent a car and stay in a motel one day to go to see my childhood friend. I'll be there from the 21st and I leave on the 30th. I get there this Sunday night. I went over to the Mexico forum and there were a lot of theads. What is the name of the thread you're talking about?

Sarah, I can't wait to find out where you live and how far you are from Chicago! Do you think you will be well enough to travel?