Oregondaisy

I'm so sorry Florinda. So many men online are serial daters. They just date someone until the "real stuff" appears, and it's not fun for them anymore, so they just click on another profile. The whole time, they tell you what you want to hear, I don't know what to do about Bill. He has some terrible character defects, but he has started therapy and really likes his counselor. He texted me once last week and asked if I would consider going to some of his sessions. He also has some wonderful qualities that I love about him. These are qualities that I can't fine here in this little hick town. Men in this town are chauvinistic pigs. Sheryl, I will go and look at that thread. You should give me links more often because I am not good about searching around the board anymore. I will click on new posts, the powder room, and vets and look for something interesting to read. I hardly find things I can even post in.

Hey, I am not an imaginary friend! I would love to meet you if you ever make it out of Seattle, down to Portland!

All of you should be on an acid blocker. Most surgeons start their patients on a PPI like Protonix immediately after surgery. Plain Water is the wrong PH for our stomachs. Our stomachs still make the same amount of acid as it did when it was a big stomach. It doesn't know that it needs to stop producing too much acid cause we decided to go and have most of it removed. Drink whatever works best for you. I like Propell Water. Plain water I drink only at room temp.

I am a goner when it comes to chocolate. I can't watch anyone eat any kind of chocolate candy in front of me. I can't keep anything like that in the house. The sweetest thing in my house is Greek Yogurt.

Saw Jim tonight and his computer is back in the shop without reading my email. This is very disappointing to me. I want to dance with him and he will make a great dance partner but not really bf material. I want someone who can afford to travel. Bill now tells me he wants to go to counseling with me.

Yay Florinda! 1 week, 7days til you're back where you're supposed to be!! I'm going nuts. Bill wants us to try to date but not spend as much time together. We actually went out to dinner last night and it was very nice. I met him there, and left him there. I really don't want to stop seeing him. I care a lot about him and as long as he's not trying to run my life, and there is no sex involved we can be friends like he wants. we'll see. Then there is Jim who wants to do EVERYTHING possible with me. I wrote him a very explicit email telling him that I do not want a serious relationship. you must be so proud of your daughter Coops! I was so happy when my kids were all finished with H.S. I need to get around the board more so I can tell people off who thinks this is just a cosmetic change for a couple lbs.

My GAWD, everyone is going through so much. ! Florinda, I am so sorry I didn't say Happy birthday yesterday. With all that you have had to go through, I am surprised you are as sane as you are. I am sure i'd be in some mental ward by now, heavily sedated! Bill is driving me insane. Everyone tells me to block him, but I hate to make this any more difficult than I already have for him. I answered his email and then he wrote back a really hateful email. So I called him and left a voice message and told him not to email me anymore or text me because no matter how I answer him, all I do is continue to hurt him worse. I've seen Jim a few times, and he is very nice and we have way more in common. It's just that we won't be able to do much, because he's so broke and can barely pay his bills. He never worked a job in his life that has a pension and his social security does not pay his bills. Sarah, I really wish we could have gotten together while i was there. I really think it was too soon after your surgery to drive that far, but next time! I love your picture! Sheryl, I'm sorry for the loss of your friend. It's always so sad when someone dies young. I had a bf die of stomach cancer at 50. It was awful. Hope things are going well with Theo! Kim, I hope you have some peaceful days ahead. I've lost a few lbs over this break up, so I'm happy about that at least.

Don't worry! You will lose weight. There is no way you can't lose weight if you follow the rules, of Protein first, veggies, then fruit and good carbs if you have room. If you eat around your sleeve, eating candy and chips and things, that changes everything. The first year is known as the honeymoonn period, so take advantage of it and stay away from things you know are trigger foods for you, once you are past the post op diet.

Kim, It's really understandable that you would want to eat whatever you want at this time. When I am feeling stressed, all I want to do is eat candy and other junk. I have to keep telling myself it's not going to help, and it will make me feel worse. I hope Craig will realize that he needs to be more understanding during this time. I know that no matter what good qualities Bill has which were the things I love about him, it's not going to work. We are from two completely different worlds.

Thank you! I don't think it will come to anything like that. He's very sad. My friend who is also his friend copied and pasted part of his email to her telling her I "dumped his ass" because we had very little in common and as much as it hurt him, he knows I did the right thing. So I think he's accepting it, and knows that we can't make it work, just like I kept telling him over and over yesterday.

That's another reason I am so glad to have Bill gone. He never could seem to manage to have dinner before 7:00. I am a 5-6 kind of dinner time person. It drove me nuts. I am going to do much better doing 5:2 without him around. Jim keeps inviting me over for ice cream. I am going to have to straighen him out too. I went to my usual tuesday night dance and had a blast. Jim was there and we had fun dancing. He really wanted me to go home with him but it's going to be awhile before that happens. I really want to get to know him as a person. He's taking me to dinner tomorrow night. I feel bad about breaking Bill's heart. I had already told Jim that I could not see him again, and not to call me, but then Bill stranded me at the movie theater Monday, and it was the straw that broke the cammels back. I can't help wonder if I would have forgiven him if I hadn't met Jim. I know I was to the point that I didn't want to have sex with him anymore, so the days were numbered anyway. Now he just called me and said he was miserable and that he loved me and missed me so much. I said I love you too but it's not enough. I just don't think we can make this work.

Well it's over now. He had a little hissy fit over something, and he expected me to forgive him like I always do, and I just told him we are not compatible. It's been a miserable day with emails texts and finally talking to him on the phone explaining over and over why we are not compatible.

The fight yesterday was because I didn't hear my phone ring. He gets so mad when I can't hear it ring. We were supposed to meet at the movie theater at 3:00. I got there, and he wasn't there, and I looked at my phone and I had a text from him that he was going home. He tried to call me to tell me he was going to be late, and because I didn't hear my phone ringing in my purse in the car with the radio on, he went home. It really really Pissed me off! I called him immediately so it was not even 5 min after he called me and I didn't hear it ring. He was already almost home. So yes, I went to Jim's house and he talked about all the places he wants to take me. He goes to all kinds of dances, and everything and anything that goes on in out little town. He doesn't have any money. He's almost 69, still has to work and can't afford to retire. That sucks. But he's really sweet and fun. I broke up with Bill today. He's a mess. He's been texting, emailing and calling all day. I think he finally gets it now. I kept saying we are not compatible.This relationship was too much work. Even if things don't go anywhere with Jim, Bill was really bringing me down. Sunday , was a gorgeous day, and all he wanted to do all day was sit on his computer.

Bill and I got into another fight yesterday. We have had 3 big fights since I got home from Chicago and that's too many for me. I told him today that we just aren't compatible, and we should face the inevitable instead of prolonging it. Now maybe I can get back to 5:2. I really want to lose what I gained back. It's amazing that it's only 5lbs and my bellly and stomach stick out considerably more.

I would be lost without the boards. The support is amazing, and when my fingers are busy typing, they are not looking for some bag of junk food.

It's up to you. When you feel comfortable and can get into a position that works for you without sraining your stomach too much, go for it!

I have some real deep thinking and assessing, cause Bill and I had a big fight. The guy I met dancing last Tuesday keeps calling. He got my phone number from one of the local ladies from the dance club who has my #. Then she left a message on my machine saying she's sorry if she did the wrong thing by giving my number to him, but he's a super sweet guy who loves to dance and needs a dance partner. Anyway, I told him I had fun dancing with him but I am in a relationship. Then he called today.I had a missed call from him but no message. It must have been his lunch hour . I wasn't going to call him back until Bill and I got into that fight and I am now seriously thinking I am going to see Jim tonight if he's free. Sheryl, I am so glad things are working out so far with Theo. That's odd that he has 3 18 year olds! You'll just have to take things as they come and form your own opinion, even if he doesn't have good relationships with his sons . Florinda, Have you heard from Jack? I am trying to eat right but haven't made a fast yet. I'm still at 139 but I wish I could take some off. I'll keep at it.

You can do a search for the Boot camp diet which is basically Protein and green veggies. It works very well for getting rid of carb cravings and losing weight. I had a lot of success with the 5:2 diet when I regained 15 lbs. The links for that diet are in the Vets forum. You can do it! Good luck!

At 2 weeks I was on full liquids. Protein drinks and thin Soups. I would imagine tomato sauce would be fine by itself. You can have tomato Soup. Did you eat something with the sauce. At 2 weeks I was not allowed anything that would not fit through a straw.

There's no way I could not do it in person. We've been living together for 6 months. Well, he stays at my house 3 days and I stay at his house 3 days. I'm going to start by telling him I don't want to spend every single day together and that he's smothering me. That will go over like a lead balloon,

Finola, why don't you try going some of those meet up groups like Sheryl has been talking about. They have meet up groups for all different interests. You need to make some new friends! Do you plan to talk things over wtih Jack? Do you think you could plan a trip to meet half way in Portland? Are you going back to work?

Sheryl, I am really happy for you! He sounds so great! How old is he? If he's fit, and not on medication, he probably won't have an ED problem. My last bf was really good in bed, and rarely had problems, but if he did, I could "help him" Alcohol is another story, but he rarely drank any. As far as Bill goes, I do love Bill, but it shouldn't have to be this difficult. We have nothing in common. He can't hike because of his health, he hates the kinds of movies I like, etc. We work around it, but it's difficult. I've already shared with you that he has ED problems and the sex is not great. The other guy is older, and I know nothing about him and could have ED as well. I just want to talk to him, for now, and find out why we went out before and all I remember is talking to him on the phone and him sitting on my couch. Maybe it was because I was fat. I JUST can't remember and it's driving me nuts. Bill is really bugging me to buy a motorhome together because he loves to camp. We would both put equal amounts for a down payment and split the payments and it would be in both of our names. I am SO not ready for that. Florinda, you need to talk to Jack about sex,and things not being right with each other lately. Do you video chat, or talk on the phone? Is it possible for you to take a train to Eugene? or How about meeting in Portland? Tell him it's important that you two talk, and you can't live like this!

Bill loves me and treats me like a queen. The problem is we have nothing in common. He hates dancing and isn't willing to try. Dancing makes me feel so happy. I might tell him I want to go to ballroom dance classes again and see his reaction.

I know what you mean, Florinda . I hate to say it, but I have stuck my finger down my throat when I have overidulged and was so uncomfortable, I felt like my sleeve was going to burst. I've learned to not push my limits. Guys, I have a dilemma. I met someone tonight. Tues. is my night to go out with my friends, to this one bar where we all go dancing. I told Bill when we first met I was not going to give this up. Tonight i met someone. I have this distant memory of this guy. I knew he was a fireman. I remember talking him on the phone, years ago. I don't remember why we stopped seeing each other. tonight, he asked me to dance and we had so much fun. He gave me his phone number and email address, and I told him I had a bf . He had asked me to go to this local dance that's coming up. I want to see him again, and find out more about him. Uh-oh

I really need to do a better job at maintaining. I don't know why I alway start to eat more when I finally get to goal weight. I know it's the weigh I regain. I've never been a big MFP logger but maybe I need to start.