Oregondaisy

Dancing is just so much fun. I love going out whether it's to a bar just to shake my booty or one of the regular dances I go to where there are certain dances for certain songs. I get a lot of compliments on my dancing,and I know WLS has made this all 100% possible. I'm still not very good at dressing myself or especially adding belts or jewelry etc., but I still get a lot of compliments from all different aged guys when I go out, which feels really good for a 62 year old lady. Today is my birthday!

I can't even imagine. I am old and I had not even heard of getting rid of hair there until my daughter reached an age where she started shaving there. I cracked up when my grand daughter said "Grammy you have hair on your Pee Pee" She had never seen that before. My daughter in law shaves every day too.

I hate the rainy season too. It's so depressing. I did try the Buspar and it gave me terrible headaches, the same thing Trazadone does. Lexapro made my anxiety 100 times worse. I felt like I stuck my finger in a light socket. I never tried a dose as low as yours though, Sheryl. I still haven't tried the doxepin. There hasn't been a good day where I feel I can try it. Tomorrow an electrician is coming to do some stuff, and I don't want to take it tonight (even though it's past 1 am) because I don't know if it will make me groggy in the morning. I probably won't take it Sat. either because it's my birthday.

I seriously doubt I will be taking the Doxepin. I went online and did a lot of reading about it, and there were way too many people complaining about increased appetite, not being able to control themselves because the medicine caused them to feel like they were starving. That's the way I was on Elavil. It's 25 mg capsules so I can't even cut it in half. I'll try one tonight and see if it helps me sleep, and how my eating goes tomorrow. I won't give it more than a couple days before I stop if I notice any type of new cravings starting. I surely don't need that! I've tried a lot of different medications for all these problems over the years, insomnia , depression and anxiety. I just haven't had any luck finding anything I could handle because of side effects. I can't believe I am going to be 62 on Sat. I feel so young at heart, but I am getting arthritis in more and more places. The one thing I am the most thankful for is my sleeve, that's for sure!

I didn't think cauliflower had many carbs in it! That is crazy. Sheryl, I hope you continue to like this guy. I envy you having actual meet up groups that do things. I like my little small town sometimes, but for the most part I hate it because there are no opportunities for anything here. Bill is quitting the job. He was trying to counsel and teach very disturbed kids. One girl tried to kill her mother and one boy tried to kill his father. Bill has no way to discipline them when they tell him to F off, etc. due to the rules. All he can do is send them out of class back to their rooms, which is what they want. The money is poor and he feels it's not worth the aggravation. i try to distance myself from him as much as I can and just go out on dates with him. I've learned he's fun when he has an idea of something he wants to do, or a place he wants to take me to, but I can't get wrapped up in his drama. Jim is crazy in love with me. I don't know what to do about that. He tells me this all the time that it is true and " he's been looking for me all his life." He calls me constantly and asks if there is anything I need. As a single woman, there are always odd jobs I could have him do. I can't encourage him. I like to go dancing with him, but he keeps talking about a future together and I don't see my future with him. I'm having fun going out to dance as often as I can with my women friends, but I'm afraid it's going to come to a complete halt after the beginning of Nov. when I have my surgery. The doctor gave me a prescription today for an antidepressant that is supposed to help with anxiety and sleep, and I looked it up and it says causes appetite increase and weight gain. I will try it for a couple of days and see if I start to have carb cravings. That is what Elavil did to me, and I gained 40 lbs on it. This one is an old antidepressant, Doxepin.

I didn't realize our birthdays are so close together! Mine is Saturday and I will be 62! Close birthdays and we are close in age. I wish you didn't live so far away. I am always so glad to hear from people who are still really happy with their sleeve and doing well!

I don't even bother to buy halloween candy.Im not home anyway to pass it out. I'm having a really hard time staying out of the store that carries the really good popcorn balls. I have a really hard time passing any candy machine. You know, the ones you put a quarter in? I rationalize that I won't get much out of that machine. It still gives me a handful of m & m s though! No willpower what so ever!

The hardest adjustment long term is the fact that I can't eat like other people. I go out to eat often, and while adjustments can be made like sharing a meal, sometimes I just want to eat more than one piece of pizza. Or I want to eat a cheeseburger and not get rid of most of the bread. That does not mean I can't graze all day. I am really bad about that. I hate that really full feeling. I can eat way too much easily, and it hurts. I hate that feeling. So I tend to eat little amounts all the time. Breakfast is always a Protein drink or I would not eat. lunch varries. I eat out a lot . Friends want to go out to eat. I usually order some sort of salad, because it's easy to eat. If I am home, I'll have Greek yogurt and a slice of deli ham or a piece of cheese, later in the day I might have a power crunch bar. I am addicted to those things. dinner I do better. I have meat and veggies or meat and salad. I almost always have a 100 calorie pack of cocoa almonds for a night time snack. It's really hard to give up sweets. I don't think that would change whether I was sleeved or not. It's been a problem all of my life. Oh and btw, I am 5 years out. I hope this helps in some way.

I agree Sheryl, it's a very vicious cycle. One bad food leads to another. I did well on 5:2 because once I started fasting, I didn't want to eat. I think it was from the extremely low carbs.

Florinda, I am very interested in this post. I have also had many utis and problems in this area. I now take herbs that i learned about in a book called "the Better Bladder book" I am luck that there is someone here locally where I can get everything I need. I've never heard of staphisagria. What does it do? Also, where did you meet your new guy? There is no way to meet guys around here other than online, cause it's such a small town. Sheryl, I wasn't aware that you had met someone who asked you out. I am assuming it's a IRL guy, not an online date, since you're so against it. Maybe Steven and you are just meant to be friends. He can't give you what you need in a relationship, and there is nothing wrong with a friend with benefits if that works for you. If you're not with anyone else, I don't see anything wrong with it, unless emotionally , it would hurt you. I haven't been on much. I have been getting more and more depressed. I am having back surgery on 11-4 which I am not looking forward to. I am really tired of my legs going numb though. I am so glad we have each other. I know we have a special group here. The people who joined our group here are such intelligent, insightful women!

Glad you're still around. People who have as much time as you and me need to stick around. People always wonder how it will be later on down the road. There aren't many people who stick around to share, after they have been sleeved about a year. I envy your life!

You can order the samples directly from Sytrax as well.

For me, it's not my kids, it's the whole world! Everywhere I go people are eating things I can't have. It's hard to "choose not to have it" It's DAMN hard. When Cookies are being passed around, I want to take one too! When I go to visit friends, and they put a bowl of chips and guacamole out, I want to eat it too! Life is very fattening and it's difficult every single day to have willpower.

Any kind of chocolate chews that you buy in the store are not calcium citrate. We don't absorb calcium carbonate. Check the label. If it says calcium cabronate, your body is absorbing little or none of it. I think the only place you can get the chocolate chews in calcium citrate is at Bariatric Advantage. I also get the choc/pb because they have 500 mg in them, the most you can absorb at once.

Join us in the veterans forum. There are a lot of us who are fighting weight gain after being sleeved awhile. You can do it. You need motivation from the rest of us. There is also a maintenance thread in there. It helps to be accountable. I am working on 10 right now.

You should be able to have a scope done to see what size your sleeve is. I agree with CGJ. You need another opinion. Research who is available to you and ask for a consult. DS should be your last resort. There has to be a reason you don't feel full on a small amount of food with a sleeve. I am 5 years out and I still can't finish any meal I try to eat, like steak and veggies. If I eat 3 oz of steak, I might be able to eat one pc of broccoli . Are you eating dense Protein or sliders like yogurt?

Have you tried drinking Metamucil every single day? It is good for your intestines because it's adding fiber to your system, instead of drugs that cause bowl movements.

They tell us to eat sugar free because sugar just causes more sugar cravings. It's hard to lose weight if you have sugar in your diet. I get my crystal lite with stevia online. It hits the spot sometimes!

It's just so hard when the entire world is fattening. People want to go out to Breakfast. There is not one thing I can eat. pancakes, French Toast? Hashbrowns? and I hate eggs! Everywhere I go, everyone around me is eating something fattening. It never gets any easier to say no to stuff I really love, like Cookies.

It's really hard to find things that don't have splenda in them. Aspartame is being taken out of a lot of stuff so that's good. You can get Crystal lite made with Stevia but you have to get it online. I like that a lot. I do eat Greek yogurt that has spelda in it. Is Splenda as bad as Aspartame? I have never read that. I 've read plenty about how bad Aspartame is.

I don't wear belts at all. I went out dancing last night and I felt like I looked like a cow. I have to do better and take off another regain. I gain it all in my stomach and my shirts look awful because now they are too tight across my stomach. I did have fun though. tomorrow night is ballroom dance class. I love that class.

This is a great thread. The only book that has really helped me is the Beck Diet Solution. I really need to get the work book. I like it because it gives you stuff to do to try to combat snacking and learning to say no to weight gaining foods.

This is a very slippery time of year for me. My birthday is on the 25th, and it seems like from my birthday until Christmas, it's non stop trying to gather every ounce of strength and willpower to avoid birthday treats, thanksgiving treats, and Christmas party treats. I am up more than I want to be right now, so it's protein and veggies only for awhile. I have this bad habit that once I lose what I've gained from giving into sweets and the scale says what I want it to say, that's when I think "oh one piece of candy won't hurt. I have to break this habit! I am so tired of yo-yo ing.

Feed can you move this thread to the vets forum? There was no vets forum when I started this thread, but I think that's where it belongs now.

I'm so glad we have each other. I've gained back 10 and I am not happy about it either. It's so freakin hard to watch other people eat all the time. I don't agree with you about the exercise though. Exercise is good for our mental health as well as helping us to burn more calories. I am not saying go back to the heavy lifting you were doing, but keeping your cardio up and doing weight routines you're used to, ( squats, lunges etc) will only make you feel better. I wish I could do Zumba. I loved it so much, but it really hurt my neck and lower back. I'm going to have back surgery pretty soon ( not because of Zumba) and the thought of not being able to exercise for 6 weeks freaks me completely out. We all have to remember this is a life long battle. I'm going to be 62 on the 25th and I am so glad I don't have to wear old lady fat clothes that look like moo moos like some of the 60 something old ladies I see around town. I'll keep fighting a good fight to keep it off! I don't want to buy bigger pants!