Oregondaisy

I am in a bind because I live off the beaten path. All of the bigger cities are along the interstate. I am an hour and a half from the interstate. All of the coastal towns are about an hour apart. The town I live in is the largest town on the coast, population about 20,000 It's pretty much going to be a long distance relationship because the locals for the most part are nit wits. All the sites seem to have the same people on them. POF, OK cupid, and Match. Match is bad becasue you can read their profile, and message them, but then they have to pay to answer, and there is no way to tell who is a paid member. I can usually find them on OK or POF though. Then there is senior people meet who is also connected to our time. So if you're a paid member on Our Time, you profile appears on Senior Peoplemeet. So if I message someone at Ourtime, they can acutally be a member of Senior People, so they can't answer.

I am really depressed. Why do I let men rule my moods? I met this guy and we were getting along great and then last night he shows up 2 hrs late for dinner, completely drunk. Now Bill won't leave me alone. We never had anything in common that we both liked and yet he thinks we need to get back together. My weight is driving me nuts, just like all of us. I talked online last night to someone sleeved right around the same time as me. She lives in AZ. She was freaking out bc she is gaining weight. All I can say is I am glad I have you guys to fight the fight with me. It really helps to know we're all going through this together and it's not just me. Where is Sheryl? so good to hear from all of you. Please don't desert this group!

Have you ever considered the other part of the surgery? The sleeve is the first of a 2 part surgery. The DS is the second part. Some people need some malabsorption.

You never know about that spinster thing. I am 62 and I have more than one man that wants to take me out. Losing weight opens up a whole new world!

I worry about my kidneys because my labs always come back with the kidney function level being high. That's why I won't use Miralax anymore. My doctor said it's only meant to be used for 2 weeks and after that, it's hard on the kidneys because it draws Water out and into the stool. I do use Magnesium sometimes, but again, it's another strain on the kidneys. I've found the best thing with no side effects is Mtamucil. I mix it with crystal light and drink it fast. It doesn't taste bad . It just gets thick if you don't drink it fast. It's just adding fiber which our bodies need.

There is a singles group over at obesityhelp.com You could put up a post over there too. I'd put one on the obesityhelp's main page too.

When we lose weight, often times we begin online dating. For many people, they were heavy during the years that most people date, so they don't have a whole lot of experience with dating. I've been online dating quite awhile. My last 3 relationships were with men I met online. My bf and I broke up in Octover so I am back looking at profiles and meeting new guys. This time I am going at it a little differently, because I live in the middle of nowhere . My son moved to the largest city in Oregon, Portland. I go there frequently now, to visit them ( mostly my 4 yr old granddaughter) So I decided to start looking there too, and it opened up a whole new pool of men. I like the site ok cupid. They have all these questions, which if you see a profile you like, you can see how they answered the questions. I have used Plenty of Fish too, (POF for short) This time it's different though, because I will be meeting men out of town . That brings up a whole new issue. Hotels. I don't stay with my son because they really don't have a guest room, and it's much easier on me to stay on my own. This makes it a lot harder since I have met someone I like. I want to go and see him. He is one of the few guys who has not brought up the subject of sex immediately, but I could see how staying in a hotel could make things sticky. Anyway, I thought this was a good topic for the girls, because I know a lot of us are online dating and there are stories to share!

I need to talk to my brother again and look at airfare but I am thinking I want to go to Chicago the last week in July. I really need to dig in and find the willpower to stop eating past a certain time. That's what was best about 5:2 for me. I don't eat much at meals but it's non stop snacking from about 9 pm on. I don't go to bed until after midnight but I really do try to cut it off earlier than that. things are going fine with Owen but I am seeing that he drinks more than I thought. He doesn't really act any differently, and I am not sure if it's a problem for me or not.

Being sleeved or whatever weight loss surgery you have had, does not make relationships any easier. I have gone through quite a few, in the almost 9 years since I've lost all my weight. They work out for awhile, but relationships take work, and it's so easy to run and try out the next best thing. Guys don't seem to want to work out problems.

I hear ya there. I have had the DQ blizzards. They make mini ones. They give me diarrhea pretty quickly. I've had a lot of other bad stuff too. I've been trying to do better but the night time snacking is what keeps me from going down at all, and having to make sure I don't go up anymore.

I'm sorry so many of us are depressed. I don't know what i even have to be depressed about. I really like Owen and he seems to like me. We've been together night and day for almost a week but I think he's taking his boat out tomorrow. He's waiting to hear the weather. It's been so windy, he hasn't wanted to take it out because the ocean is so rough. I haven't weighed myself. I just spent 2 days at his house with no scale so I'll weigh tomorrow. I hope I haven't gained much. Owen does not eat junk food so that will help. I really hope as summer gets here, all of us start feeling better. Sar, I am pretty sure i'll be coming to Chicago this summer is you are up to driving. I don't want you to feel pressure though.

So could you say a few words about the shows? What is the killling about? What is magic city about. I saw Breaking Bad, which everyone probably knows by know is a chemistry teacher who makes meth, sons of anarchy is about bikers, I have no idea about the rest.

Sorry to hear you're down, Coops! I hope you feel better soon and whatever is dragging you down at work is resolved soon! Kim, I have never tried the pouch test. I always think I would gain whatever I lost as soon as I stopped it. I've just been trying to eat low carb and do protein drinks for breakfast and lunch. Sar, I am so sorry to hear you're still having problems from your accident. I can't remember who was at fault. If it was not you, I hope you have gotten a lawyer. My new man is home for a few days. Owen came back from out at sea fishing. I am so excited I finally found a man that likes to dance. We are going dancing tonight. He will be home a little longer bc he had to take his boat out of the water for repairs. So I will have him around a little longer. I'm trying to eat low carb and I am hanging at 142 and I want to be under 140. I don't think it will happen without me starving myself. I still can't work out. I hope this physical therapy actually helps me learn how to help my back. I can't take this pain down my leg. It's weird how my leg can hurt so much from something going out in my back.

What is bloodlines about?

Kim, dating sucks. I am sure Sheryl feels the same way. If we could find the man that is the right one for us, we would be happy to give up dating. I just don't want to be alone. I am alone most of the time. I know I will be alone even more if I get any fatter.

When I tell someone they look like Bozo the clown, like my daughter when her hair was a mess, and I said "you remind me of bozo the clown" I always wondered if anyone knew who bozo was. I grew up in chicago.

If you don't think you feel anything for this guy, you should tell him there is no chemistry. If you think you might be able to become interested in him, then you just have to tell him you're not into texting. There are a lot of nutcases out there. As soon as someone overwhelms you, it's time to tell him you don't think there's a possibility that you two are a good match.

That sounds wonderful Sheryl. YOu said "possible concerns regarding a long term relationship" I have concluded that nobody is perfect and you have to take the bad with the good. As long as the bad doesn't carry more weight than the good. I met this guy 2 weeks ago while out dancing. He loves to dance. I had a great time with him. Last night he called to ask if I would be at the regular Wed.night get together. We danced every dance and then I brought him back to my house. He is a fabulous kisser but that's as far as it went. We are supposed to hang out today and I am on pins and needles waiting for him to call. I originally didn't want to get involved with him because he is a fisherman and their lives are very undependable. But after kissing him, now there is no going back. I want to see him when he's not out fishing. Unfortunately, he goes out for a few days at a time. I'm not doing 5:2 but I think I am getting closer to wanting to fast. I am tired of carrying this extra ten lbs. I want to wear the clothes that are too tight. I'm trying to be good but I've been going from 143-145. I've been trying not to snack at night but I always having more snacks than I should through out the evening.

I'm 62 and I've been sleeved for 6 years. I live on the coast of Oregon about 100 miles from the california border. I am a widow too. I have been a widow since I was 35. I have 2 grown kids. I have a daughter who is 34 and she has my grandson and grand daughter. My son is 31 an has a 6 year old daughter. i am crazy about my grand kids!

My real name is Denise. I was banded in 06 and had the band removed and had the surgery for the sleeve in 09. So, I have been coming to this board for 9 years, starting with lap band talk. I am 62 and have 2 kids and 3 grandkids. I love being sleeved and being an average weight for the past 9 years. It's getting harder to maintain because I had back surgery and I can't exercise right now. It's driving me nuts.

Michigan, I had no idea that you did what my daughter does. I had never even heard of informatics until she switched over from labor and delivery.

I heard anyone who is a host gets to come in here

Using a straw is a personal choice. I was never told not to use a straw, and like I said, all my liquids while I was in the hospital 3 days, came with a straw. They say not to use one because it can cause you to trap gas but I've had no trouble and I can't drink without one.

I had a pain in my shoulder that was just killing me. I could hardly move my arm. I had one of those shots in my shoulder and haven't had any problems with it since. Sheryl, maybe the shot will give you some relief until you decide to have hip replacement. I wish they could do spine replacement. I'd sign right up for that! I met Karl, the retired teacher. He is very nice. I am not attracted to him though. I am sure we will stay friends and maybe something could develop later on down the road. He doesn't know anyone other than his neighbors. I think he has his profile hidden because I wanted to read his questions on ok cupid and his profile is gone. He told me he did not delete it. Maybe he is like me. I'd rather do the searching myself and keep my profile hidden so I get less messages from dirty old men. The bad part is he lives an hour away. It's fine for the summer when it stays light out for so long. He does not like to drive in the dark. I am down to 143 but if I eat one wrong thing, it will go up and it takes a week to get it off. I would love to get under 140 again. I am trying to have willpower when everyone around me is eating chips, candy, etc in front of me. Sheryl, is everything still going well with Scott?

Miralax is not supposed to be used long term. I have found Metaumucil works really well. I drink it 2x per day mixed with Crystal Light. You have to drink it fast. I don't think it tastes bad, but it gets thick. It adds bulk to the stool and it's the only thing that's really okay to use long term. I've been dealing with constipation issues for years now since I was banded in 06.