Oregondaisy

This whole thing has me so freaked out. I don't see how I can live with the way things are, but the chance that things could be worse is horrifying. I have 100% coverage right now, because of my laminectomy surgery. I feel like if this is what I have to do, I should at least do it while it's paid for. It's L4 & L5 that are the problem. he said I have spondylothesis too. His office is supposed to send me a booklet that will tell me more about it. He said he's going to put a cage in there and cadaver bone. It's just so horrifying to think that I could go through all this with a long recovery and not be out of pain in the end.

Thank you so much! I am sure this is going to be very helpful!

I'm glad to hear that. That's the reason I am still here after 9 years. I know that I was one of the first people sleeved here because I was a member of Lap band talk before sleeve talk was ever started. I couldn't wait for more people to become sleeved. I can't believe it's been 6 years since my band was removed. Maintenance is still very tricky and a slippery slope if you don't want to gain weight back. i am really struggling now that I can't exercise because of back problems.

Yeah, I don't really want to add anyone to this group. I think when I get some extra time, I will pm anyone who hasn't posted and ask if they want to be removed from the group. I can always say you can come back in if you start to post again. The person I am thinking of is Brown. I would gladly let her back in. Sheryl, I hope your first date is promising! I've never counted anything except carbs. A low carb diet is natural in higher fats. You can have things like mayo, butter, ( I don't) but if you aren't eating carbs, you can't help but eat more fats. My downfall is salad dressing. you don't count the carbs but I am sure it's high in calories.

The surgery now is going to be a fusion. I would like to know if anyone knows anyone who has had this done. He's also going to put cadaver bone in to build up my spine which is deteriorating. The previous surgery was a laminectomy and it made my back worse.

I'm having a lot of trouble since i can't go to the gym. I am going to have another back surgery as soon as my insurance approves it. I should put a post out there about back fusions and see if everyone says not to have it done. I had a laminectomy and that made my back worse. I just want to go back to the gym I don' t know it that will ever happen.

Sleeve4me asked a long time ago, and I just ignored it. I figured since i was asking about lipstick, I would ask everyone about her too. Like I said in my reply to lipstick, I don't get around the board much anymore other than here. She wrote to me again, and said we probably didn't want her in here because people talk badly about her on the board, and said we probably talk about her in here too. this is what I wrote back to her: Honestly, we are not accepting anyone into our group. Our group was started 2 years ago and while many have dropped out, we still have a core group of us that post nearly every day. Some people feel stronger than others that we should not accept new members. It is not personal at all. We all came to the conclusion again, not to accept any new members. We would probably all just fold before we did that. It's so easy to start a group. Just pm anyone you choose, even if it's someone already in our group, and ask them if they would like to be in a group with you. I don't get around the board much to know what's going on in other areas. I don't spend nearly as much time on here as I used to, so I have no idea what you are talking about. Nobody in our group has said anything about you. All everyone has said was they would like to keep it as it is, without adding new members. I don't think it's necessary to delete past pages and I don't think anyone is lurking and not posing. I think people have just stopped coming to bariatric pal. I could pm people we haven't heard from in a long time, and tell them I am going to delete them from the group, if we don't hear from them. Sheryl, if you really feel strongly that I should delete past pages, I will figure out how to do it. I had protein shakes all day today other than one frozen coffee. I wish I had never discovered those things. They are like coffee milkshakes. I never used to even like coffee. I need to quit this new bad habit.

This is the response I sent to lipstick. She pmed me again this morning: I am really sorry for not answering sooner. I had to get all the girls' opinions. We have had this group going for a long time and a lot of very personal stuff has been shared. We took a vote awhile back not to let anyone else join. We felt like since we are able to share such personal stuff with each other, we didn't want the group to get any bigger. I took a vote with everyone, and they all said they wanted to keep just the members we have. I am sorry. You could start another group. I am curious how you found out about our group? Alex promised me it would not show up with the other groups. It's really not a 5:2 group anymore. We do talk about our eating some, but it's mostly talk of things/problems/issues in our lives. Sarah, I am so excited that I get to meet you! I get there on the evening of 7-20 and I fly out of O'Hare on 8-2 So any day after 7-20 and before 8-2 would be great!

Okay, do you really want sleeve4me in at all? Cause I am thinking we should agree on the old agreement that we don't want anyone new in here. I got an pm from from lipstick asking why I haven't responded. How did she find out about us anyway? I would really like to know that! I remember we all agreed not to talk about the group outside of here so that nobody else knew about it. Alex promised the group does not come up on searches with the other groups. I am going to PM him. I can send a no to lipstick but I'd rather tell both of them we decided a long time ago to close the group and not add anyone. Please, everyone, give me your thoughts. Nothing new with me. I'm looking forward to this weekend with my daughter. We hardly ever do much together anymore. We are going to this big hippy fair where they sell fabulous but very expensive had made art and crafts.I have bought paintings there before. There will also be a lot of people in costume, and some people will even be naked or topless.The topless women have their breasts painted. I will try to post some pictures. It's a lot of fun. The most I do is wear a tank top which I normally won't wear in public because of my fat arm skin. I can't remember if I posted that I saw the surgeon and now I'm waiting for approval from my ins. for another surgery in August. Sarah, Did you want to come to chicago this time while I am there? Would it be possible?

Does anyone want to let me know if they want either of the two ladies who want to join out group to be approved? Lipstick lady and Sleeve4me

Well we originally met through POF but we were together for a year before and it didn't work. It's very difficult since we are opposite in everything you can imagine. We like none of the same things. We are trying to do things differently this time. Time will tell but my guess is I'll be back to online dating again. I am just not sure when but I have my doubts this relationship is going to last.

I was the same way too. I quickly learned that telephone conversations were a waste of time. Emails going back and forth for too long are not going to work for me either. I agree. i want to meet as soon as I have decided I was interested. Now I'm back in a relationship and I am glad I don't have to do that anymore. Not for awhile, anyway!

Hey I need to know if you guys think we should let Lipstick Lady into our group. A lot of people aren't posting so we could use another input in here. I am not sure what everyone thinks of her. I see that she posts a lot and is pretty no nonsense in her responses. A sleeve for me also wants in. how are these people even finding out about our group? I don't mention it anywhere and it's not supposed to come up anywhere.

When I found someone on OK cupid that I wanted to contact, I told them I was going to hide my profile and gave them an email address to contact me. I do have one that I use for dating and it does not have any connection to me. Sometimes I would leave it open for a few hours and would tell them I would hide it again that evening, if they wanted to read my answers to the questions. You can make ok cupid work for you, although I agree with CGJane that POF makes it much easier to hide your profile and send messages . VSGAnn, that's so great you met your husband on Match. My friend met her husband there too. I wish I lived closer to the freeway. I would have way more opportunities.

I go low on carbs. I go as low as I can. Sarah, are you going to be around while I am in Chicago again? I'll be there 7-21- about 8-2 I am sort of dreading the appt tomorrow with the counselor and Bill. We have a lot to go over in a short time. I am really going to try to watch what I eat because I have to at least get down to 140 for my clothes to fit. That's only 5 lbs.

Sheryl, You can hide your profile on ok cupid! It's not called hidden. I believe it's called disabled. You have to go to settings. Look under their help menu for hide profile. I keep mine hidden because I am seeing Bill right now, but it saves you having to answer all the questions again. They save everything for you. You can open and close it 10x a day if you want!

The scale is not our friend! Great picture of Sarah and Sheryl! I'm not doing well food wise either. I am weighing every day and hoping I am not going to gain anymore. I don't seem to have any willpower what so ever.

ya, it used to be that way for me too, the first couple of years. Then all of a sudden, if I indulged in sweets, and I panicked and went back to basics, but the weight was not coming off. It became harder and harder to drop a few lbs and very easy to gain a few more. It takes vigilance after 2 years and more and more willpower and vigilance every day and year after that.

I will be really curious how you do on the Celexa Kim. I've tried all kinds of meds for depression and anxiety and the side effects are just too much for me to deal with.

I really don't expect things to work with Bill and me. It's just that I care about him and he got so jealous when I was seeing Owen and stopped his relationship with the woman he was seeing. He kept telling me how much he loves me and how we can work things out. I am with the theory of doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results is insane. I told Bill I would not agree to start seeing him unless he went to couples counseling with me. My ins. is paying 100% right now because I have paid my max out of pocket. We have issues to work out and we have tried working them out alone. My eating has been terrible and I think I look horrible but I seem to lack the willpower to do anything about it. The main thing that test did for me was show me that I wasn't crazy when I thought I gain weight easier than most people. I watch carbs not calories anyway.

Sheryl, I am sorry to hear about Scott. I am glad he's going to get therapy. It sounds like he needs it. I wonder if he will try to come back into your life at some point. Bill and I are actually doing well. We saw a couples therapist and I was sure Bill would throw a fit and say the guy was full of $hit, but they actually got along well and Bill enjoyed seeing him. We have another appt. Monday evening. He put us on a no texting rule and I think it's wonderful. I finally figured with all the online dating I did while Bill and I were split up, his problems are not nearly as bad as 99% of the men I met. I am glad he's willing to work on his problems. The guy picked up immediately that Bill has OCD. I wish I could be happy being alone but I am just NOT! The men I met out and about in real life weren't any better. It would be different if I lived in an actual city. Florinda, it would be so good if you could get your metabolic rate checked. I had it done at my surgeon's office and it showed I would gain if I went over 1200 calories. I know for me, I can't go over 30 carbs either. Have you read any Atkins books? Cathy your trip sounds so wonderful! I am going away for the weekend to Portland to my grand daughter's birthday party and I will visit some friends while I am there too. I am always happy to get out of my town! I can't wait until 7-2 when I see my new neurosurgeon who ordered my last MRI. I want to know if this is the way I am going to have to live. The scar tissue covering my sciatic nerve is causing major pain and weakness in my left leg.

How long has this forum been going on? What is the purpose? Isn't it just about the same as the one for hosts?

I'm sorry you're having such a hard time Florinda. You have MS though and I am sure that contributesto everything. Depression causes weight gain. I am really depressed. I can barely walk, let alone go to the gym, dance or hike, all the things I love. I have an appt. with two therpists and I will pick one to do some counseling.

Most people think Isopure is icky but everyone has different taste. I hope your husband likes it.

Sheryl Happy Birthday, belated! I'm glad you had a party and celebrated with all of your friends! I am amazed though, that you haven't texted something snotty to Scott. I am afraid I would have done so by now. I'm very sluggish that way too. I can't lose because I can't stay away from junk food for enough days. I do well for a few days and lose a few, and soon some temptation is put before me and I have zero willpower. I've been doing the 2 protein shakes and a low carb dinner forever, but then there is some social evenIt or I'm around a friend who eats junk and I can't seem to just watch and not join in. I may have to accept between 143-145 now that I've bought some clothes that aren't tight across my stomach. As long as I don't creep up more and more. I'd love to drop a few more, but I don't see that happening. I am going to counseling with Bill mainly to prove to him that we don't work. He was so jealous when he found out I was dating someone else, and drove me completely crazy. He was dating someone else, but kept telling me he liked her as a friend but was in love with me. I do love Bill and would like to be able to complete his fantasy that we can remain friends if we don't work as a couple. Remaining friends does not work because we are both jealous people so knowing too much information about the other person's life does not work. I