Oregondaisy

I will be 63 in October. I just had back surgery. I had a fusion done. My surgeon said my bones were "rotten" He said they were crumbly and not at all the consistency they are supposed to be. I am pretty sure this is because soda steals Calcium from our bones. I drank soda for years. I haven't for 9 years but early years make a difference. Taking a PPI which I have no choice because of acid, is another reason my bones are bad. PPI's also rob calcium out of your bones. I have been very vigilant in taking my calcium properly since I was banded in 06. I've done very well taking my calcium for the past 9 years.

So I could go into the moderator's forum and ask to have this thread closed. Is that what you want?

Did you not want to sell her? I can't find my glasses. It's so stupid. I take them off when I read bc the bifocal part doesn't work as well as just reading without them. I looked all around the couch area which is where I thought I put them. It's ridiculous . I have an old pair I can wear, but I can't see nearly as well with them. I have looked everywhere and it's really hard to search when you aren't supposed to bend at all. My back is supposed to be kept straight at all times. I'm going to have to call someone to come over and help me look tomorrow.

Sarah, I am so sad to hear about your dad. I hope they caught it quickly and his prognosis is good. I will say prayers for you and your family. I think you should be reevaluated it you have been on the same anti depressant for a long time. Some times our bodies just get too used to one medication and it stops working. That's what I've been told. I'm doing okay. I am finding friends to go for walks with me which I am supposed to do every day. I'm going to sign up at the gym pretty soon and start walking on the treadmill too. I saw John last night. I was surprised he texted me and wanted me to come over. I was curious so I went over there. We had agreed to go back to being friends the way we were before we went out for another friends' birthday and he moved things into another level. I really never thought I'd hear from him again. So, I went over there, and he cooked me a steak and we watched a movie. He told me about some problems with his family and that he's not able to talk to a lot of people but feels comfortable with me. He kept it at a strictly platonic level which was fine with me. He's going to work on my rental so I feel better that there's no hard feelings, and I know he will do a good job for me. I'm trying to watch what I eat because I absolutely can not gain any more weight. that's all there is to it. I know my problem is sweets so I just have to say no. Not a bite. One bite leads to more. Sheryl I hope the Wellbutrin works for you and the side effects go away. I am trying to get into a new doctor, so if I do, I will probably ask to try something different that I haven't tried.

Sheryl, I am really interested to hear how the side effects go. That's the reason I have not been able to take anything. Those side effects that they say will go away, never did go away for me. I would love to find something that will help me sleep besides Ambien. I would love to get off Ambien. I'm really having trouble with daily life since back surgery. I don't know what I am supposed to do with myself. If I am not supposed to sit for long periods of time, and I am not supposed to walk more than 15 minutes 3x per day, just what exactly am I supposed to do? Should I just stand around? I am so afraid this bone graft is not going to take. I am sorry to come here and be such a drag. I am really afraid. When the doctor told me it would take a year to recover, I didn't know it would feel like all I am doing is laying around getting fat.

I've been coming to this board for over 9 years. I can't believe how many times this exact thread comes up. People are not going to change. People will continue to try to make them change. The biggest thing I can stay is put breaks between your thoughts. People will not read your posts if they are just big long sentences with no indentations for paragraphs or a blank line in between your thoughts. If you want your posts to be read, you have to put some blank space somewhere.

I bought way too many from Quest when I heard about them. I am thinking maybe I could smash up some of the sour cream and onion ones and put them in a meat loaf. I know my friend does that with pork rinds.

I like the BBQ flavor and didn't like sour cream and onion. I like to eat about half a bag. They are good, but half way through, they start tasting weird to me.

Good Luck, Florinda. I was really worried when they wanted to give me some heavy duty medication for my Hep C and I said no. Now they have come out with one I can't afford and my ins. won't pay for it. If this medication is going to help you, then you need to try it. I hope it makes you better! (((Floinda))) Hugs! Sheryl, that was my opinion, not to slow it down. It will just take longer to find out what is not working, if you slow it down. I say spend a lot of time together and see if you find any red flags. If you slow it down, that red flag might take months to rear it's ugly head. Men are always on their best behavior the first 6 months, IMHO. I am taking John's clothes and misc. to him tonight and telling him we need to go back to just being friends. We made great friends, and ruined it when we tried to make it more. He is not ready for a relationship. He makes a great friend. I'm trying so hard not to gain weight. I am going to start walking around the neighborhood, while the weather is still nice. In another month, it's going to be raining day and night.

This is really good! Protein CAKE shake 3-4 Tbsp. Splenda 1 Tbsp. cocoa powder 1 scoop chocolate Protein Powder 1/4 tsp. baking powder 1 tsp. vanilla extract 3 Tbsp. vegetable oil 1/8 c. Water Mix dry ingredients together in 16 oz. bowl or glass measuring cup and then add wet and mix well. Microwave on high for 35-50 seconds, depending upon your microwave. The finished product should resemble that of a chocolate lava cake. I found that in my big microwave, 35 seconds wasn't enough; 45 was good, but tonight, I'll try 50. You can use any flavor of protein powder - chocolate, vanilla, Cookies and cream, strawberry, or chocolate Peanut Butter. I used the chocolate pb last night and topped it with Splenda sweetened whipped cream. O M G!!! Keep in mind that it's always going to be chocolate because of the cocoa, but the strawberry protein powder MAY make it taste like a chocolate covered strawberry. Likewise, you could substitute any s/f Torani or Davinci syrups for the Splenda. Chocolate cherry sounds yummy! Enjoy!!

You can dump with the sleeve and gastric bypass. There is late dumping too, which doesn't happen immediately. It can happen a couple of hours later. It's not just diarrhea. It's getting really hot and sweaty, and your heart races and you feel nauseous. For me, it's something high in sugar and fat. Like cheese cake. I shouldn't eat cheese cake anyway. That comes to mind because that was the first time it happened to me. Ice cream for sure, if I eat more than a couple of bites. I've had it happen with baked yams when I put butter and brown sugar on it.

Go for it Sheryl! You need to find out how compatible you are with him. Everything is always great at first. You need to the through that honeymoon phase with him and find out who he really is and how you to get along. The only way you can do that is to spend time together. Yes, it's a balancing act, but you said you enjoy being with him. Take dance classes together. They're so much fun when you have an automatic partner. have you ever seen West Coast Swing? Watch it on Utube. It's hard, but that means a lot of lessons. East coast is easy. I find Salsa and the Hustle to be really easy too. There should be a place that offers a few weeks of this and a few weeks of that. And why would he not go horse back riding? John has turned into an ass. He's always tired, works too much, and basically has about 2 hours where he's off work, eats dinner watches some tv and falls asleep. I have been avoiding him. Maybe I should try welbutrin. I am extremely depressed about the weight, and the time, it's going to take to get back in shape. Doctor said it's a one year recovery from this surgery! Yikes! I am going to go out on a date with Owen, who is the alcoholic. he's so cute, and I was really falling for him, when he majorly screwed up. He's been staying sober, and wants to take me to dinner in a couple of weeks when he comes in from Tuna Fishing. Why not . I have nothing better to do. Then he will go home to his place which is an hour away, so I have no desire to drive that far but if he's willing to, I'll see how things go as far as another dinner. Sheryl I can't believe how we're both in the same boat. I've lost so much muscle, and I have no way of doing weight training again for months. I hate that none of my clothes fit. I have a muffin top, and my thighs are much bigger. I am not supposed to diet while I am waiting for the bone to graft. UUGG!

It's very difficult to keep it off. Now that I've had back surgery, I am not supposed to diet. I am trying to get my bone to graft. I can't exercise either. I am freaked out, officially.

I only get on here on my lap top . I don' t want a bunch of apps on my phone. I don't like mobile apps. I can't find anything.

I guess it takes a couple of months for the bone graft to take. The doctor will take xrays or whatever to see if it's taking. I hate that I can't diet. I have to eat a well rounded diet of fruits and vegetables not just Protein, in order for the graft to take. I am really tired of sitting around. I can't drive and I hate being dependent on everyone when I need to go somewhere or need food or whatever. I haven't heard from Jon since this morning when he went to work. I really don't know him that well, so I don't know if he would just go to bed without calling when we've been staying in contact every day. I can't imagine he's still working. I don't know if he's the type to go to the bar with one of the guys and not call, so I am left in the dark. I know he leaves his phone at home a lot because he hates his phone. He uses it more for an answering machine. He will return calls from his voice mail, but he hates it ringing all day while he's at work so he leaves it at home.If he takes it to work, he leaves the ringer off.

Have you talked to your surgeon's office? You can get zofran, a medication for nausea. It comes in a form that just melts on you tongue and it's very helpful. It sounds like you're doing fine. The juice and other liquid count together. Call them and tell them you're having a lot of trouble, in case they want to do a scope or something.

It's not that rice is a no no. Eventually, you will have room in your stomach for rice. Right now, you should be concentrating on getting all your Protein in. Protein first, and veggies if you have room. I am not sure when you had your sleeve surgery. Rice expands in your stomach. So be careful. You can eat a small amount, and get really full as it expands while it's sitting in your little tiny stomach.

Things should get easier. You should stay on protein drinks if you're having trouble with mushies. Try to sip on crystal light if it's hard for you to drink water. You may have to set a timer to take a sip, every 10 min. Remember it doesn't have to be water. You can drink propel, or whatever you like that you can get down. At this point , it's more important to stay hydrated and protein will come later.

I am doing pretty well actually. I got home from the hospital today. Jon will be over every evening, and I am sure my daughter will check in on me when she gets off work. She's off on Mon. and Fri. anyway. My bff is coming tomorrow. Last time I had surgery, I got really tired of people over here all the time. I really think there's a good chance Jon and I will be together a long time. He's so low maintenance, fun , and easy going. He's like a breath of fresh air. Who would have thought I'd be with someone 12 years younger. I've always said for years, I would never date someone younger than me. Now I take that back!

I'm sure it's the Gabapentin that caused my weight gain. I say that because the scale would show a 2 lb gain when previous days, I had stayed on track the whole time. I'd like to try Welbutrin. It's one of the only ones I have not tried. I'm so afraid of weight gain. Everyone that starts an antidepressant tells me they have gained weight from it. A friend just told me she has gained 20 lbs since she started the Abilify 6 weeks ago. I bet I gained 75 lbs way back when I was on Amitriptiline (sp?) when the internet became available, I looked it up and it said as one of the side effects that it makes you crave sugar and carbs. I take Ativan if I am in freak out mode. I don't know what I am going to do now for a doctor since my nurse practioner left. It's really hard to get a doctor around here. They only want to take patients who don't have medical problems. People who only come in if they have a cold or need a physical. I think I am getting out of the hospital tomorrow. Now it's going to become really hard. I won't be able to drive and I can't sit on the couch or recliner. Of course I want to bone graft to take so I will follow doctor's orders, but I am going to be miserable.

Sheryl, I hope you find the right medication without side effects. I've never been able to take any of the SSRIs because they make me feel like I am on speed. I've had horrible side effects from any anti depressant or anti anxiety medication that are not benzos. John is a sweetheart and I keep wondering what he sees in me but I'm enjoying him anyway. right now I am in a motel cause I have to be at the hospital at 5 am. Tomorrow they cut me open again. I'll post here as soon as I can. I sure hope this makes it possible to go for long walks and do my weight lifting routines again. I hate being a couch potato. It's very hard to keep the weight off, and it's depressing not being able to move and exercise without pain.

Sheryl that's so awful! My condolences! I never understand why that happens. People have to think that over, and should be considering those they will leave behind. John continues to be sweet and charming. He's very different. I never even realized his Spanish blood. His mom was born in Spain. He speaks reads and writes spanish. He had some alcohol last night and I finally detected an accent. I'm just going with the flow and hoping this surgery next week is going to help me. Right now I have bad days and good days if the sciatic nerve isn't pinching the nerves in my leg. I'm taking pain pills more often now. It really bums me out that I can't fine one full bottle. I hope I didn't leave them at my son's house.

Well I guess I have a new boyfriend already. I can't believe it. I had met him awhile ago while out dancing. We have met up for dancing a few times since. Yesterday he called and said it was a female friend's birthday and would I go out with them to celebrate. I always love to go out and dance so I was game. We had a lot of fun. Sheila is his friend's name and his name is John. So sheila tells me that John really like me as more than a friend. I was really surprised to hear that because he's 12 years younger than me. Sheila said John didn't care. I've always thought he was hot and has a great body. So today he calls me and asks me if I want to go to the beach. So we did that, and hiked all around the cliffs around the ocean. We stropped at the fish market and he bought all sorts of fillets of white fish and 2 crabs. We went home and made dinner, and after dinner he kissed me. I told him he really surprised me and he said he's wanted to do that since the day he met me. 12 years younger did I mention? So we spent the evening talking and kissing and he said the age difference meant nothing to him. He said he wants us to just date and see what happens. I'm game! He's handsome,. has a great bod, funny, easy to get along with , and loves to dance. I hope I can dance again after surgery.. Anyway, we shall see where this goes. Wow is all I can say.

Yeah, my relationship has broken up recently. I'm glad though. This guy and I were not suited for each other even though we kept trying to make it work. I'm sort of seeing another guy but he's already stomped on my heart once and it's hard for me to trust him now.

As I predicted, my relationship has ended and I'm going to be looking online again after I am recovered from my back surgery. I am sure now is not a good time for me to be meeting someone.