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Thank you all so much for replying and your comforting words. I can’t believe how nice everyone else. I was almost dreading reading replies because I just knew I was going to see a mean reply but everyone has been so nice and supportive about my emotional rant. Lol. I can’t thank you enough. Yesterday I went to a church service and sat on the bench and I just felt so big and uncomfortable and stuffed. I felt bigger than everyone on my row and probably was. Then I got home and ordered food for my kids and I and ate such a big portion and I remembered all over again exactly why I want this surgery and seeing your words confirmed it. Especially when @DaisyChainOz said “Only you can know if it’s worth it to you”. I really needed to hear that and I’m feeling like it’s really worth it at this point. I really can’t keep feeling like this. I guess if food is always going to be a thing, I’d rather it be a thing while I’m thin and more comfortable in my body. It’s also hard bc I’m not telling a lot of people. Not to be secretive, but bc I know many people won’t understand and I really want this to be my choice without the extra noise and opinions from people who don’t know what it’s like to feel trapped by your own body. I pray for no issues & that I end up being like everyone else in a few months asking myself why I didn’t choose to do this years ago. Can I ask a couple more questions though? Will I ever be able to guzzle water again? Lol. I just love ice cold water after a sweat or when I’m thirsty, just the feeling of chugging ice cold water, will I ever be able to chug a cold glass of water or will I need to sip it forever? If so, that’s fine, I just want to prepare my mind for what I’m giving up. Also, I know a couple of you are only a few weeks in, but has anyone lost too much weight? Not medically but lost too much personally? I’m afraid of getting to a size that’s too small. I don’t think I’ve ever desired to actually be skinny, I just want to be normal/average.

Hey! It is all so daunting in the lead up and the early days, it is going to be an entirely new experience and sometimes no matter how much you prep and read about it, nothing can actually prepare you for the reality. I swear I was so scared/anxious of all the changes prior to my surgery, and worried how I would cope or if it actually would work, but I can safely say that this new change becomes your new normal pretty quickly! I don't even think about the vitamins I take, and if anything, I have found that where I am not thinking about food 24/7 or binge eating, I actually have a lot more free time to do things I enjoy! Don't get me wrong, there are struggles along the journey, and I think it is normal once you have the surgery to be like "wtf have I done", but I can safely say this has been the best decision I have ever made for myself, and I wouldn't change it. I am sorry you are feeling alone - but you have us! This forum has been the biggest support network for me, and I hope it will be for you too x

he may well equate cooking you food with love/acts of service. But he might just be scared you'll change, that the relationship you have now will be different after you've had surgery and lost weight, or that you might get slim, and leave him. Lot's of things might be playing with his head. Communication is the key, if you can get to what it is he's truly worried about, you might be able to reassure him and put those fears to bed. On a similar vein.. My husband gave up drinking completely due to health issues, and now he doesn't want to drink, which is fine of course! But, honestly, it has changed our relationship fundamentally. We always had great fun having a few wines, dinner and talking for hours, he now doesn't want to talk for hours, I'm lucky if he gives me an hour of his time in the evening, even if I am not drinking either. Our fun time after work is no more. It does make me realise this major change in his life, HAS totally changed OUR lives. Your husband might be fearful of something like this happening to your relationship.

Same here! Overweight all my life. The only reason I had the surgery at 35 (5 months ago) was because the NHS here in the UK finally approved me for the surgery. They don't cover Wegovy etc for weight loss so this was my only option. I wish I had started the process of getting approved sooner, but it wasn't until I lost my mother and step-father within a year of each other (my stepfather died at age 62 from pneumonia and liver disease that certainly was aggravated by his extreme weight, and my mother died almost year later age 67 from a perforated bowel that they couldn't repair because of her gastric bypass ten years before). While I knew the risks, I knew I didn't want to go that young so I was going to take my health more seriously. I'm glad I did it and have no regrets.

Hi everyone! I’m brand new here. I just went through all my pre-op requirements per my insurance company and now everything has been submitted and I’m just waiting for final approval and my surgery date. I’ve been doing research, watching YouTube videos, TikTok’s, ect.. trying to prepare my mind and what to expect so I’ll be ready for the surgery. I was so sure and so set and so ready and excited. However, now that I’ve done everything & it’s almost here, I am sooooooo scared! I know why I want it bc I’ve tried everything and I just don’t feel like I can lose weight by myself. I’m tired of being overweight my entire life. I’m miserable, but I keep psyching myself out afraid of GERD bc I know how that can be and I don’t want to have to get a bypass after already gaining the courage to even get VSG. I’m scared of complications like I’m going to regret doing it and be depressed that I didn’t just be more disciplined and try again to lose the weight on my own even sitting here typing this knowing in my mind i just can’t and don’t possess the discipline. I’m also afraid I won’t be able to handle the restrictions of the sleeve. What do I eat? I don’t know how to eat healthy really and don’t enjoy healthy food. I don’t know how to do this! I feel so defeated! Someone tell me they felt anything similar to this or am I not ready? I thought I was. I am so tired of being sick and tired and so tired of myself and so tired of being stuck and stuck in this body and somebody different on the outside from what I feel inside. I just want to ball up and cry.

Sharp pressure is something I would be worried about. Call your team. Especially if it is unrelenting pain and there is nothing you can do to resolve or reduce it. Something may be wrong.

Thank you so much for responding, everything you said made me feel validated in my fear and comforted as well. I actually do love cooked vegetables and meat cooked in other ways besides fried. I like a variety of foods in fact. I guess I just see people posting such healthy looking meals that don’t look appealing to me and I’m just like “do I have to eat that?” Like I’m not a fan of raw vegetables and cottage cheese, for instance. I haven’t seen anyone post something that I like which makes me think that what I like to eat are things I won’t be able to eat. I’m not too concerned about not being able to eat junk food at all because I’m not really a junk food eater more than I am a comfort food eater. I just love a good meal and I just don’t see anyone posting good food. Food is a concern bc it’s important, but my biggest concern besides food is being able to get out of my head and an even bigger concern is the things that can go wrong! Being dehydrated, vitamin deficiency, extreme constipation, hernias, gallbladder removal, GERD, having to convert to bypass, being hospitalized for something. Like is there anyone who has not had a complication? Even people who don’t regret the decision seem to have so many scary issues. I’m so afraid of what could go wrong. I’m afraid of being sad about food the rest of my life. I’m sad now about the control food has over me. I feel trapped. I hate that I have to be fat and even go through all of this. I hate I’m on a forum complaining about being fat. Lol. I just need someone to tell me to do it and that it will be ok and worth it! I guess I just keep imagining I’m going to be sitting here physically feeling a cut off stomach, if that makes sense. Lol. Like, I know I won’t be able to eat a lot anymore, I know I’ll need to make the better choices with food which is fine, but I just don’t want my life to revolve around food anymore! I don’t want to sit around everyday worried about food. It seems like I have to go from thinking about what I’m going to eat everyday to worried about if I’m going to be able to eat enough or eat too much or get dehydrated or get enough protein or something with food! I’m just sick of food! Lol.. Will my life ever not be about food and weight?!! If the sleeve makes me go from worrying about weight to worrying about weight on top of a bunch of other stuff, is it going to be right for me? Am I trading one woe for another? I hope that makes sense.

You could mention to them that you feel like you just need a little more support and that you have other questions and would be willing to pay for an extra appointment here and there with the NP or PA so that you can get the support that you need. That worked for me. But do your research if you have other options. I would go ahead and make appointments now so that you have them coming up by the time you decide what to do. Just be sure to cancel then with notice if you don’t end up switching or for whatever appointments you don’t need so they can give them to someone else.

I'm about the same amount of time since my bypass. I don't recall having an intollerance to almost all foods for extended periods. But for a few days or a week, sure. I don't think you should rule out the experience of anyone based on years post-op because there are people here that know more about weight loss surgeries than you and I. Heck, they give many surgeons a run for their money. Some of us research the stuffing out of weight loss surgeries before we even see a surgeon. Could you fill us in on what's going on? How does your intollerance work? Does it prevent you from swallowing, or does your food come back up? How long after eating? Anything else change during this period? Your previous issues could also provide insight into your current issues. Also, what does your medical team say? Tons of knowledge and experience is on the edge of their seats waiting to help. Tek

This is my go to recipe for grilled chicken, which I eat quite often. I usually grill a large batch and cube it and freeze it in small portions. The baste prevents the chicken from drying out, so it makes it easier to eat after wls. I also use a meat mallet and make the chicken breasts more like a fillet, so it grills evenly and this also prevents them from drying out because the entire breast cooks evenly. Sprinkle the seasoning on both sides of chicken breasts, and before you put the chicken on the grill, mop the baste over one side of the chicken breasts, and place baste side down on the grill. Before turning chicken breasts, mop baste on the chicken then flip. Best grilled over charcoal with cherry wood chips. Voila✨. Grill seasoning 1/4 cup salt 4 tbs. coarse black pepper 3 tsp. granulated garlic 3 tsp. granulated onion powder 3 tsp. dried oregano 1/2 tsp. crushed red pepper flakes Grill baste: 2 tbs. butter 1 small onion, finely diced 4 garlic cloves, minced 1 tbs. flour 1/2 cup extra virgin olive oil 1/4 cup red wine vinegar 2 tbs. lemon juice 1 tbs. dijon mustard 1 1/2 tbs. sugar 2 tablespoons parsley, chopped Melt the butter in a saucepan over medium heat. Add the onion and cook until softened, about 2 minutes. Add the garlic and cook about 1 minute, but don't allow it to brown. Stir in the flour, allow to cook without browning, about 1 minute. Whisk in the olive oil, vinegar, lemon juice, mustard, and sugar. Bring to a boil, then reduce heat to medium low. Add the parsley and whisking often, until lightly thickened, about 5 minutes. Let cool. The baste will separate. Whisk well before using. The baste can be made ahead and refrigerated. Bring to room temperature before using.