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Well in fairness we are friends, he just happens to also be my boss, and it is only discussed after work when we are out for drinks - we don't have such chats at the office. Being friends is also why I think he thinks it is ok to comment on my eating and weight, he would not do that to any of the others in our team.

Your boss shows you the ladies he's checking out on his dating app?! Gross!

I have gotten it a number of times from different family members and friends who tell me I look great but to stop loosing weight etc. My boss frequently tells me I don't eat enough and getting too thin.... this from a man who when showing me the ladies he is swiping left/right on never gives a second look to someone over about 130lbs! 🙄 So I just reply, well excuse me but most of the time I eat enough (I track), just small and frequent usually plus I am going to the gym 2 or 3 times a week and upping my fitness and toning up but its none of your business anyway.

Yes, in today's society, being thin is generally considered a good thing, so statements that indicate that you look thin are usually intended as compliments. Some people make exaggerated statements like this ("You're so thin that you look like you are wasting away!") with the intent to highlight what they consider a positive attribute (thinness). I got compliments while I was losing weight but still obese, "If you lose any more weight, you'll blow away in a gust of wind!" In some cases, people who genuinely care about you could be concerned that you are ill, especially if they don't know you had weight loss surgery, but if this is the case, they will usually approach you in a more private and sensitive manner, not just an offhand comment in public.

Christmas should be easier because I will be two months post op and I've been getting better at adjusting to my new eating requirements. Also, I'm not really a drinker so I will be able to say no to all the drinks which will happen

I am so happy for you. Going home is always emotional, I really understand why you were so very worried. Congratulations on the huge weight drop. NOW lets get through Christmas !

It is so interesting to see that in one way or another, this seems to happen to all of us! I would be so intrigued to get a male perspective of someone who has also had bariatric surgery, just to see if this resonates with them! Unfortunately, so many people think they have a right to comment on our bodies, even if they think they are doing so in a kind way. But I do think people are right when they say it is others perception of us that makes them say things such as "you're wasting away" - they aren't used to seeing us at a smaller weight!

My PA that I followed up with gave me a chart with a wide range of weights and said I’d be good if I stuck between the green weights and red weights😂. So far I’ve been lucky with all the foods I’ve tried. But some days my body only wants liquid. Like today!

@FifiLux I don't blame you! I would be hesitant as well, I say start with what you want the most then work your way around let us know what you get! @Mspretty86 I am wanting a full DD gummy bear implant with a medium high profile with a breast lift. I am tall and have broad shoulders, so I am trying to find pictures of similar body types and that size seems to look good and not outrageous. But I want to have big boobs LOL I miss mine so much and want them back! But I am also 35 with 3 kids and I want to be able to dress them down when I need to. So I know the consultation is going to tell me a lot about what looks good!

I'm so excited when US bariatric hotties do something HOT for ourselves! I'm with ya consult Jan 2nd. I'm shooting for some big Full C's medium profile with silicone. I got tons of pics of boobs in my phone ha. What size are you going?