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Yep.... was married 26 years..... Same here, it got worse after PS. But, mine was never supportive of my WLS ever and never supportive of the PS..... I begged for the last few years to go to counseling, but he would not go. He regrets that now, but what's done is done. I have a wonderfully supportive husband now..... So happiness is achievable.

I would only count things as a meal if it has protein. Popsicles would be considered fluid only. At four days post op, you really don't have to eat 3 meals a day, etc. You just have to sip constantly while you're awake in order to hit your protein and fluid goals until your tummy heals to the point that it can accept "normal bariatric portion meals" I would just focus on sipping every 15 minutes when you're not eating. The only thing that would count as a meal AND fluids would be something like a protein shake, protein water or broth with unflavored protein powder that was added to it, so anything that has proteins and is a fluid would count as both. I don't batch and freeze currently, so I'm not sure about containers. I'm not sure how freezing protein shakes would go. I have a feeling the texture would be different or they may separate. Have you tried the Fairlife protein shakes? They don't taste like a protein shake. They just taste like a lightly flavored milk to me. Strawberry reminds me of Strawberry Nesquick, but not as strongly flavored.

Yes, depression is not uncommon post bariatric surgery. Medication may be the way to go, at least temporarily. I have had clinical depression for at least four decades and have been taking bupropion (Wellbutrin), an NDRI, for 20 years. I have no side effects. SSRIs an SNRIs did not work for me or only worked briefly. It's important for you to work with a psychiatrist for medication. They know far more about psychotropic meds than primary care physicians. Please bear in mind that there is no one-size-fits-all psychotropic medication. To find the antidepressant that works for you is a trial and error process. It may take numerous trials. Hang in there, it does get better.

I love looking at your weights and measurements every month. Wish I had done the same. Congratulations

Agreed, speak to your doctor. GENERALLY speaking, you should be feeling better every day, so sudden unexplained pain is not good. Maybe a stricture? Talk to your doctor's office and be as specific as possible, they may ask you to come in and take a look, maybe a CT scan or even endoscopy to make sure everything is OK. Better safe than sorry.

This reminded me, something so critical for me through the years, and that is tracking calories, macros, weight. Oh how I wish I was a mindful eater but unfortunately, I am not. I simply have never trusted myself and to keep the weight off, I absolutely have to log everything. It helps me keep track of my 7-13 fruit/vegetable servings that I need daily, as well as my protein. On those bottomless hungry days, I like to look at what I ate because it helps me determine my physical vs head hunger too.

Something to consider is that the daily recommended allowance of added sugar each day for a woman is 25g (6 level teaspoons or 0.8oz). Body Armour contains 19g of added sugar per single serve (12oz). You’ll likely become an avid reader of nutrition panels on all foods & drinks you buy. It can be quite shocking to discover how much added sugar is in foods you ate & drank without thought in the past. Personally I keep my added sugar to less than 10g. Get plenty of the glucose my body needs from fruit, dairy, vegetables, etc. (I avoid a lot of artificial sweeteners too as they continue to feed your desire for sweet. Plus lots of concerns regarding their potential for health issues.)

OH NO! I am so sorry, I know that sucks and you are probably so let down. i wish I knew what to say to help you feel better. Just focus on recovery and then before you know it your surgery will be here again. Why couldn't your surgeon do both surgeries? I had hernia repair, esophagus damage repair and bypass all at the same time.

I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm the only one in my immediate family who's NOT been divorced, and I know depending on the circumstances, it can be really devastating. My heart goes out to you - and good for you for going into counseling, even if your husband doesn't go with you.

Also, (after COVID is over) go to some meetups about things that you enjoy. Hiking, yoga, model trains, you name it. You'll have something to talk about that makes things less awkward and friend-oriented and things can grow into more.