My mother and aunts and older female cousins (and my PCP) are/were the only ones that talked to me about my weight gain…at least to my face.
They never actually called me fat, but did say things like “maybe you should lose some weight”, “oh you’ve gained weight”, “you are bigger than the last time i saw you”, “you are eating too much”, etc etc. In the case of my PCP, he said stuff like “losing weight may help alleviate x”
It was annoying, but i chalked it up to busy-bodiness on my family’s part at least.
But i will say i got like 50x more comments than i ever got to my face about needing to gain weight, looking sick, not eating enough, being too skinny in the one year after WLS than i did about being fat in the 10-ish years i was overweight. And from a wider range of people, including stangers.
Which was equally annoying.
Mind you these same family members say other stuff too like: “oh i think its time to dye your hair, i see greys”, “you look tired, do u have any makeup on?”, “your forehead wrinkles are showing”, “your legs aren’t the best for miniskirts”.
🙄
I just nod/change subject.
People suck. Let it roll of u, if u can.
P.S. My legs are awesome for miniskirts, thankyouverymuch.