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I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I agree with others who suggested to work with a therapist or tell your family that the issue is closed, but I realize these are hard things to do and not always an option. Are your family members overweight? Sometimes people say these sorts of things out of jealousy or based on their own experiences. It doesn't make it okay, but at least you can know it's their BS and not about you. I personally eat sweets from time to time - I was told I didn't have to be 100% perfect, just keep my eating choices good 80-90% of the time. But that may not work for everyone. I do agree that celebrating with food probably isn't the best idea, but a treat on your birthday sounds pretty harmless as long as you can enjoy a reasonable portion and it doesn't become a binge. Good luck!

I have my pre-op procedures of upper GI and chest X-ray on Tuesday morning and my pre-op primary care physician appointment for clearance on Tuesday afternoon. I’m getting closer! After I had finished my nutritional class requirements at the first of January I thought surgery was imminent as we were told in the doctor talk that we were about a month away. But as I’ve read on here, enjoy the journey. Don’t rush. Be patient. Be gentle. I haven’t been very patient which is very evident by how little I chewed my food! I’ve been working on that. I’m turning 60 this week! I am excited that this milestone and my wls are close together. I feel ready for some good changes. My bmi is 44. I think at my highest weight it was 46. I feel so roly-poly. I want to kick my type 2 diabetes to the curb. I want to be able to be more active without the constant pain in my arthritic knees and ankles. I want to keep up with my two little granddaughters. I want to fit into seats! I am very glad to find this app/support group. My doc said that they had one on Facebook but I’ve given up that so I was glad to find this better alternative.

I'm sorry this is happening to you. You have to do what is best for you and staying positive mentally, will take you far on this journey. I agree with @Hop_Scotch I'd say that and any further negative comments from them, I'd distance myself from them. And if they live with you, I'd walk away and not say a word. With time, they'll see that it's not up for discussion. Put some earbuds in with positive songs that get you in a good mood and take a walk. I have an entire play list of songs that I listen to at the gym when I'm not feeling "strong" it gets me back to where I need to be mentally.

I literally had to sit and watch the clock second hand in order to eat slow as they expected. Fortunately I was not one of the people that the speed of my eating caused me any discomfort. I do still measure my food though and eat slow if it’s something I’ve never had just so I don’t eat past full.

It’s true that you will not look at food the same way but not in a bad way. Not all but most people lose their hunger hormones for a while so it is easier to make some changes to the way you eat. You will learn to think of food more in terms of what nourishment it can provide you. It’s honestly been a good thing for me. I can still have, In moderation, the treats that I used to enjoy on occasion but for the most part I look to food in terms of energy and what it does for my body. I am one year out and I can eat anything I ate pre op though I just eat much smaller portions and I don’t have the empty calories nearly as often.

I have not heard of that one yet. I would contact your team. Could be unrelated but just in case.

After 6 months I still struggle with this. Especially if I am out with others at dinner or lunch. I get involved in conversation and eat at the pace everyone else is at. I really have to slow down, count 30 chews, put my fork down between bites and take my time. I think time does matter as much as how much it is chewed up, for me atleast. I think I have to give the food time to work itself down into the stomach. When I go too fast, I get sick and either throw up, or honestly, I feel so bad I induce vomiting to get it out. It is a work in progress.

I doubt there is much in your labs that would make them deny you. People with far higher BMI’s and many more medical problems get this surgery. They are a higher risk of course but they do the surgery with hopes of improving some of these medical issues.

My surgeon was mostly concerned with iron levels. If that was to low, then surgery is postponed until iron levels go up. A lot of people have diabetes and it is one of the reasons that surgery is approved by insurance companies.

This is the entire point of getting weight loss surgery. To help you get healthier. These are your baseline labs. At one of your upcoming post op visit, possibly your one year post op appointment, your doctor will reorder these tests and show you how much improvement you have made after losing weight. It's not about denying you for weight loss surgery.