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First, may I suggest shopping around for a new therapist? Your therapist’s advice to just “think about all the good things” you’ve got going seems very un-therapeutic to me; he/she sounds like they want you to push down your feelings instead of exploring them…? Which seems odd advice to be dispensed by a therapist. I dunno… Second, nobody says you have to go through the surgery if you don’t feel ready. You can sit on it, talk it out with a (hopefully, different) therapist or a trusted friend, maybe deal with other life stressors first, etc. In the meantime, you can also vent it out here if it helps alleviate the alone-ness feeling…you will find many in your same situation, and many others who went through it to the other side. Hugs & Good luck ❤️

Yep..... that's basically what I did. I said I was having surgery on my stomach. I have other issues with my stomach anyway, so I just kept the main part to myself, I omitted the main part of it so that mentally I can focus on my health and my journey w/o everyone's input rather negative or positive it's not a conversation I want to have everytime someone talks to me😇

I would say ok you win, I am going to do what you wish and cancel the surgery. Then keep quiet and get the surgery. You can deal with the rest when its a fait accompli. No one should use emotional blackmail

Looks like others have it covered. I will just add that it gets a little bit better each day. Hang in there. 👍

Do not eat only 680 calories a day. That is not healthy once you are that far out. I'm not sure what calculator told you that, but it's not realistic. Did you set it to lose a lot of weight every week? Talk to your nutritionist. It is harder to lose weight as you get thinner, but 3-5lbs a month is a LOT when you are ten months out and very close to a healthy BMI (I am your height and 141 is the top of "normal" BMI.). What you do needs to be sustainable; drinking tea instead of meals is NOT sustainable, and not healthy. I'm 4 months out and I am eating about 850-100 calories a day, which is within the normal range for 4 months out, per my nutritionist.

Just a quick update. My pre-op appointment went absolutely fine and I was able to get all of the tests done and the results to them in time. The major lesson I learned from this is to READ EVERYTHING your surgeon sends you and then READ IT AGAIN multiple times throughout the process. You will think that you remember it all but there is so much information it is hard to remember everything. If I had just read the materials again, I would have noticed that there already was a Lab Order for my pre-op tests and I wouldn't have wasted time trying to get my primary care doctor to order them. It was so easy to just take my lab order to Simon Med and walk in for an x-ray and it was done in minutes and the results were faxed over the next day. Hope this helps someone!

This is why I didn’t tell my family and said I was getting a hernia repaired. I didn’t want to argue or talk about any of it. I’ll let them figure it out later when I’m feeling and looking better.

Have you contacted your team. I don’t think new pain that is so severe you can’t stand up at 13 weeks out is very common. They should have someone after hours to advise you.

I completely understand how you feel, when I had my gastric bypass surgery, my significant other was always trying to undermine my goals, my whole family ate unhealthy, I just kept telling myself that I had to do this for me and my health, the more I continued to build myself up and ignore them I became stronger, of course I had my weak days, but I would get back up, and shake it off and continue to work on myself, it worked!!!! I was 320 at the beginning of my surgery and I reached my goal of 135!!! You can do it!!!! Sent from my SM-N976V using BariatricPal mobile app

It is a nicotine delivery method, if you choose to use nicotine. Leading up to my VSG, I have gone to zero nicotine. It is NOT smoking. No leaves are being burned, hence no tar, arsenic, benzene, etc. etc. Many think I'm splitting hairs here because of what vaping looks like, but make no mistake. It is NOT smoking. Allow me to be frank right along with you. Nicotine is NOT a carcinogen. It is a mild stimulant, much like caffeine. There is evidence that it could slow the post-surgical healing process, which is why most docs want zero nicotine tests before doing surgery, but it's many other chemicals in cigs that cause cancer, not nicotine. The thing is, unless you have a vested interest, you would never do your homework. Most people just take the information fed to them by main stream media as fact. The facts are much different, and I can support everything I say. I'm with you! Most don't do their due diligence because it's so much easier to criticize something that looks like smoking. It's not like they care or anything.