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Dunno. I have no idea how reliable body fat scales are when lots of loose skin is present. They're not really reliable in general so I don't trust mine when it comes to absolute numbers. It puts me at 22% bf. My latest routine ultrasound showed "almost no visceral fat" according to the surgeon who did the ultrasound so visceral fat seems to be of no concern. I'm not curious enough to expose myself to extra radiation, so no DEXA for me just to satisfy curiosity. In general I guess one has to find a middle ground between "desired body fat", "healthy body fat" and "what's possible without having to sacrifice too much".

The body fat % on home scales aren’t 100% accurate. They are much better to use as to judge which direction your body fat is going vs. what the exact % is. If you believe your body type is unique enough to make BMI less valid, then I’d suggest a Dexa scan. They sometimes have good deals on Groupon.

I don’t know how accurate my at-home smart scale is (i have the Withings Body+ scale)... Last year (and for the first couple months of this year) at 113-115 lbs, my body fat percentage was in the 12-15% range. These days, i have been hovering around 116-118 lbs and body fat in the 18-22% range (which i assume because I have lost some muscle and gained fat due to my decline in exercise and increase in dessert/alcohol). I don’t notice any specific health/being effects between the two states, and neither has my PCP (i probably had my labs done 3 times in the past 12 months, all of which have been lovely). What I do notice is just aesthetic: i think I look “softer” and less fit/athletic, which I don’t particularly like, but i do like how my face and neck look less Skeletor-y. If I can figure out a way to keep my body looking toned AND my face filled out at the same time, I’d be a happy girl!

Noticed my Renpho metric post above was from a few weeks ago. Took again this morning below. I’ve always been athletic with good muscle tone so am surprised-but not totally. I loved his video (though he’s SO good looking and charming, that it was challenging to totally concentrate😅). My dilemna is what do I pay attention to and what weight goal do I focus on? I still work out with resistance bands, light weights, floor work a few hours a week, and walk 2 miles most mornings. I’m 66 but feel 35😃, especially after WLS and carrying 50 fewer pounds around!! My surgeon and cardiologist simply focus on BMI. Since surgery I’ve gone off BP and cholesterol meds because numbers are great. I trust your video Doc Reasoning more than simple BMI. Will keep going until?....

Hello Azhiker, I can relate to your challenges that can coincide with the mind, body, heart and soul. I am 11 years post op and still my own worst critic. I look in the mirror and see a fat girl. But one thing that has slowly changed has been to become outspoken with my thoughts. I also learned not to feel uncomfortable going into an area in any location and feel eyes watching me. My motto is "Learn to control the things that u can the rest leave it to the divine." It will take time to fully get where you want to be. For beginners, be BOLD and CONFIDENT in anything you do. Hope the advise helps Missy cee Sent from my SM-G960U1 using BariatricPal mobile app

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Hi Locken, Good afternoon. Wow!! I am sorry that you are going through this with a 27 year old marriage. Speaking from some experience in 2008 i started a romantic relationship with a gentleman that loved me unconditionally. Later next year I shared with him that I have thought of doing the WLS and he was physically supportive. He took care of me through recovery, he cooked separate meals for me being that i can only have mushy and crunchy. One thing I can say is that he began to feel very insecure as the weight started to shed off and my clothes were smaller and men outdoors were complimenting me. He became a stalker. We got engaged in 2010 and he began to emotionally abuse me and accussing me that i was cheating. He even had an image in his head that i did not work instead i spent my days in a hotel with men. I mean he got mentally sick. Long story short. I was loyal all my years with him but being that he felt i was not loyal, he decided to step out of the relationship and cheat in 2012. I was devastated and we parted. Do what you believe will improve your health for yourself. If you both mean something to one another continue therapy, god willing he may join you one day. If he loves you, he will trust that you would never commit infidelity. Mine unfortunately was weak, insecure and selfish and im happier without him. Miss cee Sent from my SM-G960U1 using BariatricPal mobile app

I'm a guy, was married 27-28 years when I started toward surgery. My wife was like you, outgoing, social, etc. I am like your husband, introverted, insecure, a curmudgeon. Ok, here we go... I've heard it said "WLS makes good marriages better and bad marriages worse." My wife supported me 100%. But I initiated a similar discussion. Since I was always huge, I couldn't be sure that I wouldn't change. What if I did? We finally decided worrying about it doesn't and won't change anything. Worrying now (then) was wasted energy. I had no intention of allowing WLS to kill my marriage and we had to settle there. It wasn't just one discussion, we had it several times before and after surgery. Each time we reconfirmed our commitments to each other. Unless your husband is typically a jerk to you, I wouldn't count his insecurity against him. It's a fair concern. You both have issues and you love each other. But, once you remove your issues he fears he won't be good enough for the new you. Talk about it. Reassure him in no uncertain terms your feelings and intentions. Each time it comes up. Affirm your feelings toward him. If he is a total jerk, well surgery or not you have some thinking to do. My experience won't help you here. For the record, our marriage got better. My insecurities about the new me didn't blossom, but I'm still insecure. I am still me and I'm still in love with my wife more every day. She reports the same... but I think she's just being nice Good luck Tek

All insightful advice above my opinion: Choose peace and happiness (which ever path that may be) Good Luck ♥️

Wow. First of all, there is nothing selfish about taking control of your health by getting surgery. We all have the right to make smart choices about our health and our bodies, and you should be congratulated for taking the next step. You also have every right to celebrate your weight loss success after surgery and to find joy in everyday life that may have eluded you before. I'm not a psychologist, but I think it's pretty clear that your husband does NOT support your surgery. Saying you should think through your decision by giving you all the possible negative repercussions seems like a passive/aggressive attempt to talk you out of it. As you said, it's emotional abuse. If you can't get him to go the therapy, you should address this with your therapist (if you haven't already) so you can separate you own needs from your husband's attempts to control you. This decision might be the catalyst you need to explore whether your marriage is worth saving. Of course, I can't pretend to understand the dynamics of your marriage, but that's my honest assessment based on the information you have provided. Best wishes for whatever decision you make, and know that you will have a supportive community here throughout your journey.