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Yeah. So strange. It is her, not you. It's like you cheated on her or left the group, or something and now "due to cheating by having surgery and taking the easy way out", you are "one of them"--the skinny bi*ches. And she now feels more self-concious about her fattitude and condition. She also doesn't WANT to change her reality. She would rather have her food comfort/drug rather than change her life and eating habits. Sorry you are experiencing that! My middle sis is highly competitive with everyone, but especially me. And although she is proud of me and compliments me often, I can see it bothers her that she is now the "heavy sister". She watches everything I put in my mouth and I can tell, she chooses smaller portions and dishes she wouldn't normally eat when we go out. Meh...you can only do you. Can't control anyone else...

I've gotten the cold shoulder from my sis-in-law. She has gained some weight in the past couple of years, and I think my weight loss has threatened her in some way. I never mention it and she is the only relative who has not commented or asked questions about how I lost weight. A couple of overweight co-workers are acting the same way. I honestly down play my weight loss, I never bring it up to anyone, and I do not believe I treat anyone any differently, but I definitely see some changes in the attitudes of others.

Maybe the key works here are "went," "walked," and "ran." They are past tense. Exercise has got to be part of your daily lifestyle now. By this time you should have incorporated an hour of exercise each day into your life. Then you have to look at your carb intake. I'll bet it has slipped upward. Are you still logging all your food? If not, it would be good to go back to logging and measuring. Honestly, the research says that the most weight loss is achieved by those who follow the eating plan AND exercise. The exercise won't move the scale on its own, but it does build lean muscle tissue which has a higher metabolic rate than fat. Another tool is to explore is intermittent fasting or limiting your daily caloric intake to only 6-8 hours per day. This can be a very powerful tool, as it puts your system into a different metabolic pathway that helps burn fat. There are extensive conversations in the intermittent fasting thread about what others are doing. You also need to make sure you are getting your fluids in, and getting quality sleep. They are essential for weight loss. It's about going back to the basics and tightening things up, as well as adding some new tools. 5'9" at 200 pounds gives you a BMI of 30, which is still in the moderately obese category. The thicker fat on your abdomen will go with more weight loss. To reach the upper end of "normal" BMI you need to get down to around 162-164. You've done an amazing job so far. Restart the engine and take it through the final stretch!

I lost 16 lbs the first month - and I ended up losing ALL of my excess weight - over 200 lbs. People lose at all different rates for all different reasons - most of which you have no control over. The one thing you DO have control over is whether or not you stick to your program. If you stick to your program, the weight WILL come off, whether fast or slow. And to be honest, since the average weight loss for us "non-600-lb life people" seems to be in the 15-25 lb range the first month, you're going to end up in that range. So...you're normal!

OH MY LORD, see i was looking for something else, saw this, didn't check the date sorry guys lol

Hi all, I'm new here but have been following along for a few weeks now. I'm 3 weeks post op from my RNY. Started the pureed diet yesterday and have done well so far. Had cream of wheat, chili, and soup yesterday. Had chili so far today. Didn't get in my liquid intake yesterday but I'm trying today. I feel like now that I'm a few weeks removed from surgery and hitting the pureed stage that I'm not really sure where to go from here with my recovery. I'll obviously keep taking my vitamins/supplements, have a 5 week post op appointment on October 9th, start my full food diet then as well. I guess I just feel kinda lost otherwise as to how to move forward with the rest of my life. My surgeon/RD haven't really given me any information on what to do going forward. I have my hospital binder with general information. But that's about it. I keep reading it and feel like it doesn't really make things clear on where to go once I'm cleared for full food. How many calories do I aim for a day? What meals should I make? I have no interest in grilled chicken and broccoli for the rest of my life. I'm a variety eater. I need variety. I obviously know I need to stay away from high sugar foods/carbs/sugar in general. But I feel like otherwise I'm kinda lost and in limbo. I know I have time and could probably ask my RD for help. And I will at my 5 week appointment. Just hoping maybe the veterans around here could chime in with some suggestions on how to not feel lost, their experience, words of encouragement, etc. I guess I should be clear that I don't feel like I'm failing or anything. I'm sticking to what I'm supposed to be doing (or close to it). I'm losing weight. I just want to make sure I continue to do what I'm supposed to. And I feel like I have a game plan until I'm cleared for full food on October 9th, but from there I'm on my own and don't want to fail. The surgeon's nurse who lead the education class mentioned they have a support group and handed out a flyer on it. But that was about it in the way of support.

we were told not to count calories at first - just focus on protein and fluids. It'll probably be awhile before you'll be at risk for eating too many calories. I don't think I was ever given a calorie range, but after the first few months I tried to stay in the 600-800 range, and after a year out I was around 1000=1200. I stayed there until maintenance when I had to experiment to find my "maintenance range".

I was sleeved October 2016. I had horrible reflux daily and was on several meds. I still gagged and vomited up acid daily. I also gained back 25 pounds I had lost. I was snacking all the time because if my stomach was empty I threw up. I had my revision last Monday, September 2019. So far so good. No reflux.

Good luck. You will do great and will still BBQ etc just make wiser food choices and only eat small amounts. The way I got past that feeling was that if I could still just have 1 teaspoon of my fave Indian foods then that would be enough, I would still get all the amazing flavours but not need to eat enough for 2 people every time I ate Indian food! I am 5 weeks out and can confirm that I can tolerate chilli and other spices so it is allllllllllllllllll good for me haha! Also, I have noticed I can now watch food shows on tv, or youtube and not feel the need to go and stuff my face because watching them made me hungry, it is actually a miracle and I am enjoying family cooking without trying to everything as I cook. A new you is yet to emerge and yeah you will have to adjust but you will be on earth longer now to get used to them and enjoy them AND still enjoy feeding others with your cooking Best wishes and a speedy recovery!

If you have reflux before surgery, sleeve generally won't help. I know there are a few that have gotten relief from occasional heartburn, but since the sleeve leaves access to stomach acid in the sleeve (RNY separates it and it doesn't meet the food until after the pouch), it's not going to change the cause of reflux. It's definitely something to consider. ~SW: 278 CW: 165~ RNY 1/5/2005 "What got you here won't get you there."