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I think everyone feels that way, I mean who really wants to have life changing surgery that carries so many risks?? For me I wish I could have found the strength to do it 10 years ago. Im so mad that I wasted so much of my adult life feeling fat and miserable and torturing myself with diet efforts to never see any real long term success. I would renew it every year if I had to. Doing this was the best thing I've ever done for myself.

Agreed. Normal.

WELCOME, LIZZIE!! My doctor had been urging me to have the surgery for 2 years. I wasn't emotionally ready. When my hip was getting worse, I went to the orthopedic surgeon pretty much knowing I needed hip replacement surgery. He said I needed to lose weight before he could do the surgery safely. He's the one who recommended my bariatric surgeon. Their requirements included meeting with a Dietitian, Phycologist & 6 month weight study. My doctor, since I've been seeing him for over 25 years, had the weight info. He just went back 6 months & filled in the form. I think he was so happy I was finally doing it, he would have filled out 20 years of forms! LOL! My 1st meeting with the Bariatric surgeon was 3/29/2019. My surgery was 7/22/2019. It could have been sooner (in May) but the date they had available conflicted with another event on my calendar, so I was scheduled for June. Then I failed my stress test (part of my clearance fo the surgery), so I ended up with the July date. I was lucky, I guess. My doctor is very pleased. He kept teasing me about waiting 2 years. I'm SO glad I did it & yes, I wish (now) that I had it done years ago. This site has been very helpful. While everyone's experiences are different, there's a lot of info. The Store has SO many products! Some are yummy... some not so much. I also found many YouTube videos that were inspiring and informative. There are even some of the actual surgery! WARNING: Don't watch if you're the squeamish type. This was a long way around to tell you not to let the delay deter you. My surgery was 4 weeks ago today. I have lost 40 pounds. I have been taken off 2 of my diabetes meds. My happy moment today was when I was able to move the weight on the doctor's scale from the 250 to the 200 mark. One of the girls in my church told me, "Miss Nancy, you look smaller!" Believe me, it's worth it!

FWIW - 5'3", 55 years old at time of surgery. 3rd surgi-versary in a few days (8/23). Highest weight- roughly 300+. Current weight - about 162. Lowest 152 after contracting e coli. I told only my immediate family (two teen daughters and husband.) I did not tell my mother or my sister (mom died without knowing and sister still doesn't know). I am NATIONALLY RANKED as a fencer now in my age group in two weapons (foil and saber). I can deadlift 240 and back squat the same. Getting your head in the right place is the biggest issues. Learning to deal with emotions without food is huge for most of us. Finding an exercise you love is important. Tell who you choose, or not. But I can tell you that this made a mammoth difference in my life. Best wishes to you.

You’ll be fine, but remember you are doing the pre-op diet to shrink your liver and make your surgery safer. It’s super important

@KaysMommy Welcome, welcome, welcome - you've come to the right place for help, info, and support! what a story. you have been through sooooo much, you have come out on the other side, head held high. you stayed in the hospital for 7 months PO?? OMG - infections, more surgeries. your great tale shows/tells after achieving goal, gaining weight back, ANYONE can get back on track. congrats on achieving goal again. 🤗 good luck kathy

Bariatric surgery support; Bariatric kitchen; Bariatric mind masters and Bariatric social. They are private fb groups that you ask to join.

I think this is a good mindset to have. However, I personally think there ist also a really awful trap hiding behind that corner and we fell into it again and again before surgery. When browsing the board you'll notice quite a few posts from people who fell into the trap again and hopped on the dieting-merry-go-round again. A lot of people seem to think "before surgery" they simply weren't - vigilant enough - motivated enough - disciplined enough - trying hard enough - hard enough on themselves, damning their "old selves" into deepest hell, despising who they think they were "back then". However, I personally think we were all of these things I mentioned. Vigilant enough, motivated enough, disciplined enough, trying hard enough, hard enough on ourselves - until we burnt out and had out rebound binge time. Unfortunately surgery doesn't protect us from this burnout. That awful trap is still lurking behind the next corner. Don't fall into it again and don't hop on the dieting-merry-go-round again.

Measurements yes, weights fairly constantly, but Pictures? Nope I spent Too Too Many Years hearing How Ugly I was and Am, even from people who Billed themselves as LOVING ME- I am too Frightened and intimindated to take pictures for posterity to ridicule them and ME. So nobody even knows for sure what I look like for certain. I WILL STATE For the Record, 5ft8in, 188 pounds, nearly one-half the size I started at (365+ pounds) thin of hair, low calorie and probably protein intake, I swallow all my vitamins, minerals, prescribed meds, but an appetite- nonexistent, and foods ? Pretty indifferent, I try , some on the thin side, not even a full mechanical soft diet, and I fight to keep down as much as Precious Pouch,and my body allow, the rest reflexes and emesis-es ( is there such a word? Or Am I inventive?). And if any of you care for my whine of woe, you would be the First. Can't afford to Go Elsewhere so facility and I are uneasy Life Mates into Perpetuativity. A Fine Swamp of my life, but IT WAS ELECTIVE 😷SURGERY, perhaps that means- I ASKED FOR IT! 👈😯👉

I'm so bummed now. I thought we would have less ACTUAL physical hunger as some of the hormones like Grehlin (sp) are eliminated? Am I having 85% of my stomach removed to be just as hungry as I am now on an all liquid diet at almost starvation level calories? Is there some sort of known % that get NO relief from true physical hunger pangs (not head hunger, not stomach acid, not cravings and not from someone who has stretched their pouch out)?? I'd rather know the unvarnished truth rather than be looking at surgery on the 1st thinking I'm...going to get one thing and yet, not be getting it at all in the end.