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I would wait until about a month before to choose a dress.

Nope, not just you. One of the reasons I’ve been pretty open at work and whatnot about what I had done is that they knew I was going on medical leave for a bit, then I was going to come back and lose weight quickly? They’d either assume I had WLS or they’d think I had some terminal disease. When I said surgery my student workers got all freaked out and assumed there was something majorly wrong. So instead we had the conversation about WLS and obesity while trying to make sure that everything stays body positive. It was way better than having everyone fuss over me because they think I’m dying.

Sorry to hear you are feeling this way, I think you would benefit greatly if you saw a therapist. Some people are treated differently when they lose what but I don't think its all about the way they look, I think some of it is the way they present a different attitude, more confidence, happier, etc etc.

2.75 years out I started out by keeping it to myself as I was a little embarrassed I guess maybe I told 10 people . But the longer it’s been the more I own it. Now if someone ask I normally just tell them. People will always judge idgaf honestly. My wife’s friend who doesn’t know makes jokes about it being the easy way out and my wife laughs and we joke Bout it because my pre op and post op diets freaked my wife out and she saw that it’s not EASY at all!

Alternatively here (maybe its just a NY thing) if you lose weight too quickly without an explanation people think terminal illness , bad relationship or drug use Worse yet they aren't afraid to ask you, tell others. Why do *they* care so much?

Sorry. I know It's unfair & sorry you're battling with this, I did too for a while but Perceived health, happiness and confidence IS more attractive to some people. Your husband may find you A LOT more attractive now but still did then too. Let him enjoy your growth too, don't penalize him if he doesn't deserve it. There are plenty of other battles in marriage to choose from. You can waste a lot of time being jaded at the ridiculous standands of physical perfection equaling value or work to change it in your sphere of influence. Perhaps address it with the people treating you differently now so they are aware of what their shortcomings are and maybe they won't make the same mistakes with others. But if you *just* want to punish someone... Add their name to our Revenge List and we'll get to them soon enough 😂😂😂 Joking Joking Joking Side note on being exactly the same person as before: Not truly possible. Your personality/ mind/ core values/ intellect may still be there but you aren't. You are actually physically different & maybe even some of your behaviors have changed too. I used to tell myself the same fable. But honestly its really hard to be *exactly* the same after a year of major changes.

Yesterday I drove 2.5 hours to meet up with my very dear friend that had gastric bypass only 3 months before I had my sleeve. We enjoyed our day together shopping for new clothes, talking about life and the joys and struggles of WLS. She has also lost 100lbs.

gabybab I did the same thing! I bought 3 big containers of protein powder trying to make sure I was prepared for the next 6 weeks. I can hardly stomach it. Big investment too!

Side rant: What's really triggering the big b***h in me is how desirable weight loss is in our society, even if you're already at a normal weight. I recently had some flashbacks to the time of "the big weight loss" (thankfully nobody at my new work place knew me then so they assume I always looked like I look now) when I lost some weight because I felt really crappy for some time. People a bit more closer to me (e. g. co-workers in the department) knew about the situation, so when they commented at all they always said something like: "You've lost weight, you really do feel awful, don't you?" I had no problems dealing with this, however, when it came across as a compliment I always had that itch to hurl a "I feel like crap and you're complimenting me on my weight loss?! STFU, you 🤬🤬🤬!!" at them. So I guess my beef tofu here is that people never seem to even think about that someone might be losing weight because of feeling bad or being sick and that a compliment is so damn royally out of place... Oh, and I leant that "you look pale" seems to be just another way of saying "you've lost weight". Weirdest thing.

"For instance, loose skin, saggy breasts and Hair loss. Has anyone ever experienced any of these and if so, how did you deal with it? Is there anyway at all to prevent these things from happening?" Hair loss - happens as your body reacts to the extreme quick weight loss. It goes on for a couple of months and then it stops and your hair comes back. I don't know anyone who has avoided it. It's temporary. You don't say if you have kids, but if you do, your boobs already sag. Will this make them sag more? Yep. Any way to avoid it. Stay fat. But if you are going to have surgery, nope. As for loose skin, that depends on many things - age, ethnicity, skin condition, amount of weight loss. I have some flab flapping around, but I lost 150 pounds. I wear those flaps like a badge of honor. I haven't had plastics. I'm about 3 years out from surgery and the mother of a 19 year old and a 16 year old. My boobs would have been sagging anyway because - GRAVITY. So, you don't need to go under the knife again. Get your head in the right place about why you are losing your weight. Adopt the plan early and exercise to the extent you can now. Best of luck.