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Good topic. I think as others have said there are two sides to this. One is that discrimination about weight is real. And the second is that losing weight can affect the way in which we interact with people and the attitude we present with. I see both sides as having an impact. But I can see how frustrating it is, getting support when it's no longer as needed, versus not getting support when it was. It's like finally getting an umbrella when it's no longer raining. Welp, thanks anyway, I guess.

Sorry. I know It's unfair & sorry you're battling with this, I did too for a while but Perceived health, happiness and confidence IS more attractive to some people. Your husband may find you A LOT more attractive now but still did then too. Let him enjoy your growth too, don't penalize him if he doesn't deserve it. There are plenty of other battles in marriage to choose from. You can waste a lot of time being jaded at the ridiculous standands of physical perfection equaling value or work to change it in your sphere of influence. Perhaps address it with the people treating you differently now so they are aware of what their shortcomings are and maybe they won't make the same mistakes with others. But if you *just* want to punish someone... Add their name to our Revenge List and we'll get to them soon enough 😂😂😂 Joking Joking Joking Side note on being exactly the same person as before: Not truly possible. Your personality/ mind/ core values/ intellect may still be there but you aren't. You are actually physically different & maybe even some of your behaviors have changed too. I used to tell myself the same fable. But honestly its really hard to be *exactly* the same after a year of major changes.

Sorry to hear you are feeling this way, I think you would benefit greatly if you saw a therapist. Some people are treated differently when they lose what but I don't think its all about the way they look, I think some of it is the way they present a different attitude, more confidence, happier, etc etc.

I can eat carbs with no issue.” Bad” carbs it depends on quantity , when they are eaten and the day of the week. If I want cake I try to choose one that has whole meal or almond flour and nuts or fruit rather than a big sugary confection. I have had a small ice cream ( whilst on holiday) with no issue but I was extremely nervous when I ate it. Small quantities of chocolate don’t seem to affect me but then there are days where I have a small quantity of something or eat a healthy food like oats and the body decides no. The result is palpitations, shakes, a funny taste in my mouth and generally feeling yuck. As for alcohol I am now a very cheap drunk. Had 1 glass of sparkling wine last night and had to go to bed as it went straight to my head. Being too scared to try these kind of foods is probably a good approach.

Muscles cut can give such feelings when you consider all the things they did to your tummy. If you are a little past surgery time also nerves could be re-generating themselves, now you can feel things may be a good sign that things are getti,g better.

It’s human nature. Lean in to it but yes you may want to talk to someone. You need to get past the hang up so you can enjoy your life to the fullest!

I think we all are somewhat fearful of losing our relationship with food, however you will be able to eat, just in smaller portions. I wouldn't trade the food to go back to my failing health.

Yay, you! before and after pics?

Congrats!! That's so exciting! Now get to walking!

I had to do the same thing. I'm with BCBS, and they have a Wellness program in which a nurse will coach you through the 6-month weight management program. Proof that you were in weight loss program like Weight Watchers or Jenny Craig for 6 months counts. There has to be proof. So, check to see if your insurance provider has a similar program. Sent from my QS5509A using BariatricPal mobile app