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Dear DanaC84... I will check out Lose It... I already use MFP and My Net Diary and Baritastic but happy to add another... they all help to keep me on track and I’m petrified of screwing up! Self Sabotage is just a bite away! 🤪

I would get edema and to even take lasix pills before my journey. I haven't had the edema since the surgery on 1/29/19 Sent from my SM-G960U using BariatricPal mobile app

To lose slow and/or to have stalls ?! Frustratingly , YES!! Best advice given over and over but the hardest to implement : don’t compare yourselves with others. Those starting at a higher BMI lose quicker, sex, age or hormonal stage in life all play a role and it varies greatly from person to person.  I also read when we reach a previous set point in our weight our body was previously comfy at it will try to stay there. Lots of theories out there on what you should do. But if your surgery is new and your following your surgeons plan just keep on keepin’ on. (Imho)

Probably a better question would be, "What didn't swell up before surgery?". Feet, ankles, calves, knees, elbows, wrists, fingers...all swell-free now.

You sound like me! I thought I had wrote it. I'm going to be 6 yrs older than you on the 14th. and that's when I knew you could be a sister from another mother. I have no regrets so far. I wish I had done it years ago to really be enjoying it to the fullest now. Now it's not easy and you follow the rules closely because you loose the most weight in the beginning. We are all different here and hit things at different times. But we all get on the loosing bench and will be wearing our sexy dress out....even if it's just to the grocery store. Welcome!!!

There are some things I do say I will "never" have again, simply because I need that structure and regimen to stay on the straight and narrow. But some things we simply enjoy and having them on occasion isn't the end all be all of everything we are working for. And even those "never" things, if I slip up later on... again, it's not the end all be all. There are a couple of tough personalities on this forum that took a minute for me to get used to, but I love everyone now. lol. I think my most eff you moment was during pre-op and I think I mentioned that I had cheated on it and wasn't sure if I was ready (just my nerves talking) and a few people were like IF YOU CHEAT NOW YOU ARE DOOMED (less dramatically, though) and I DON'T THINK YOU ARE READY FOR THIS AT ALL. Etc etc. But, I am doing just fine. I didn't screw myself over by cheating on my pre-op. My life isn't ruined. My surgery isn't ruined. I am, mentally, doing just kosher and very thankful I had the surgery. Everything I was worried about pre-op has been a complete non-issue. I am, and maybe by virtue of complications, more strict to this new diet than a lot of others who had surgery around a similar time as I did. Sometimes you have to take things that people say with a grain of salt... they are living their own experience and you yours.

This is a rant and a rave. Firstly I would like to say that I have always found the people here to be in the most part helpful and supportive. The same cannot be said for all other sites. Some of the sanctimonious BS from some peeps is unreal. Example Wow reading this thread is depressing. So many people saying never to drink alcohol again. Absolutes ( never )are very hard to accept. I got my band 9 years ago and was never told I had to give up alcohol. I enjoy a glass or 2 of wine a couple of times a week. Maybe I'm lucky I didn't become an alcoholic! Now looking at revising to RNY so I understand that I am going to have to give that up, at least for the foreseeable future but I would hate to think that I could NEVER have a glass of wine again. alcohol is pure sugar. The body uses that pure sugar to function instead of burning your stored fat for energy. Maybe ifvyou had not used alcohol you would be at goal weight and not looking for a revision. You are a perfect example of the truth of what those who are saying about alcohol use are saying. Alcoholics and drug abusers in recovery use the never absolute every day. They have to, no other choice. Not using absolutes, like never is often just an excuse.

If I said I enjoyed sex multiple times a week would that make me a nymphomaniac?

Some people are self-righteous idiots you don't want to deal with in your life. It's as simple as that. On the internet it's quite easy to handle, plonk them and it's alright. Why should you want to deal with this sort of negativity?

Those who live in glass houses......